The Dating Game

As my friend Paul will say I'm anal, but in a good way. Whether you know it or not I keep a dating chart of all the women I date. If we went out 2 or more times you land yourself on the chart. Your name and your blog nickname go on it. The second part is so I know who the hell they are after a while. After that I just list all their good (green highlights) and bad (red highlights) aspects as adjectives. It allows me to see how I'm doing. Am I still being attracted to that bad trait? Am I make progress up the dating ladder? The biggest thing is that black and white is a lot more accurate. Adding Asp to the list today I looked over the last few women I dated. Facebook, Dancer, Happy, and Blondie all had a lot more red than green.

I knew taking time off from dating last year would help. I have to admit I went out with most of them for their looks and found nothing beyond it. I have to admit Asp was borderline herself so I have to watch myself again. I'm not looking to get right back out there, but when I do I want to keep going up instead of taking the bat pole down.

It's funny cause I would never admit it, but I guess I'm a sucker for a pretty face. Every few women there is one that I remember was a real looker and their is all this red under her name.

Do you do anything to monitor your dating?

Beach Days

It was off to the beach today. Pictures will have to follow since I left my camera at the office. We parked over at L's to save money and Chesapeake beach is more resident friendly. The beach was crowded and the water was very nice. I'm not a big water person anymore. I went in with Eric to keep and eye on him since he still can't swim. We built sandcastles and just enjoyed the beach.

The rest of the day we hung out in the office playing games and trying to stay cool since everyday is in the 90's with bright sun. So the afternoon is the worse time to be outside.

My ex's dad has sepsis and is still battling it as of last night. I haven't heard any updates today. Tonight I'll need to find out if the ex is coming down to pick up Eric or is he going back up himself a little ahead of schedule. I've still been pushing the whole flying by himself thing. He hasn't said no, but hasn't jumped for joy yet.

Oh yeah I found an email from Dancer in my spam box. Just deleted it.

Fly Like an Eagle

Well I just got the official announcement that Dancer has given up. She dropped her singles membership with my group before I would do it next week. She stated that she still wanted to be friends, but was getting the message that I didn't. Hopefully she won't be like Lazarus coming back from the grave.

My flight to NY yesterday went very smooth and it's great since it's under and hour to get there. I can see why it's a cheap airline since only poor people could fit in the seats. I'm not a big guy and it felt tight to me. If you have a few extra pounds for get about it.

It's an eye opener when you walk into NY. I always feel the age and decay. This time it was like were are all the white people. I don't think I ran into a single white employee there and I'd say that about 60% English was a second language. I almost felt like I was in another country. Anyway the ex wasn't feeling well and I had to take a taxi to pick Eric up. It was a smooth trip and no problems. I was going to pick him up a little later, but the ex said he was ready.

I did find out why he has some of his anxieties. His remembered airport trips have been been with his mom and she's notorious for getting loss. She does use him as a copilot when she's loss so he gets brought into it all. After sitting in the airport for 6 hours, the place loss any anxiety provoking attributes and just became a big boring place. We had fun for about the first 3-4 hours though.

Eric really enjoyed the flight and was very excited. I've used every opportunity to push that when he can do it by himself we can see each other more often. Now I'll just see what happens.

Still Crazy After All These Years

Even after 2 unreturned phone calls, one of which she was angry that I didn't pick it up, Dancer texted me today. She tried to make a joke about seeing her chiropractor today while she was back home visiting her parents. Oye, I might have to drive a stake through her heart to make her stay down.

I was hoping to get to be early tonight, but it will probably be normal time since I'm not feeling sleepy. The day was too slow for me to burn that much energy off.

Across the hall from me is a florist. Like I've mentioned before I'm not on the main drag which works against me to a point. However for a florist, no through traffic really sucks and they really don't run it very well. Anyway they've hired Punk girl to work there. She's a very nice person I just have a hard time looking at her without staring at all the piercings she has in her face let alone ears. I think the round one hanging out of her nose draws the most attention. If she's there next week I wonder what Eric will say. Hopefully she will be able to work out all the problems with the owners since she is good for networking and cross marketing businesses which can help me.

Now my two prayers are that I don't have to go pick Eric up and that my patient that owes me several thousand dollars was actually telling me the truth and will have the insurance money for me in 2 weeks.

In Sickness and at Concerts

The concert last night was a lot of fun. It was Saturn girl, her date the Savant, and his friend Asp. We all know each other from the singles group. It's a fun group. Savant is very funny, but also very weird and crazy. He was the one that won tickets to the concert, but it was Asp that asked if I wanted to go. I wasn't quite sure if it was her was of getting us together or not. While I find her attractive and funny in a group, she has a sharp tongue. Asp is good for whittling you down, but I don't know about positive stuff. I believe she is good with her son though. Her problem she confessed is that she never meets anyone. It was during the concert, so I couldn't reply that she never goes out. It's work and home with her son. She rarely comes to events with us. Hopefully with her son gone till August, Asp will get the bug to get out more.

Dancer called and left me a message during the concert last night. I still haven't listened to it and I doubt I will. L said that I'm too nice and just cut the crazy lady off. I've heard that from a few people and since I've already let her know how I've felt I think I'm just going to let it die.

I talked to the ex last night for a while and her health is still declining. Besides the cyst on her ovaries that is causing problems she also has one on her pancreas and has colitis. She's falling apart like I knew would happen when we were married. I knew in the future I would be taking care of her for a long time. I worry how it will all affect Eric. She hasn't told him much, but kids sense everything. All this may upset Saturday's pick up. I may have to take a taxi to get Eric. At least the ex said she would pay for it. I'm hoping she can drop him off.

I was trying to decide if I should bring Eric to see my Mom while he is here. I wasn't sure about showing him her decline. He knows about it verbally, but seeing is a totally different thing. Also I was worried with him just getting over a cold since you need a strong immune system there. However I got the call today saying that my Mom has a head cold and that they were giving her medicine for it. So that made my mind up for me.

Crazy is as Crazy Does

Forget the title I'm going crazy in a crazy world. The Landlord has been doing jigsaw puzzles for the last few weeks downstairs. It's been giving my a little bit of a bug to do one. Well I was in the thrift store today and I saw a fantasy one that looked like Disney world threw up. It was 58 cents so I figured why the hell not. My only worry was that it would have all 1000 pieces. My usual strategy is to do the outside first. While doing this I remember that I've never done one this big before and finished. Oh well there's always a first. So I get the outside done, but one side is short and I've got extra pieces. No problem right? Wrong. They don't fit anywhere. WTF? So instead of having a rectangle I have a trapezoid which is strange since it's rectangular on the box. However it is a fantasy puzzle so anything can go. For a lack of sanity now I'm trying to do the inside in hopes that it will somehow all work out. I'll be in a rubber room in a couple of days.

I have not contacted Dancer back yet and I'm deciding still if I'm going to call back. Each time I do it seems to stir everything back up again. One thing I realized again when she left me the message today is that every time I break away from my standards on dating I end up with a crazy chick. One day I think I'll learn.

The good think that happened tonight is that some singles friends invited me to the Doobie Brothers/Bad Company concert tomorrow night. I'm looking forward to it.

Little of This and a Little of That

Usually I buy a cheap lunch, but about once a week I up for a decent lunch and I'll save half because I know I'm not going to be home to eat dinner till late. What I truly hate is when I forget it in the car for a few hours on a hot, sunny, June day. Jeez what a waste.

I actually had to call the state police last night do to a drunk driver on the road. The biggest problem was getting his license plate number since he was speeding and no one wanted to get near him. I had to get off the exit, but hopefully they got the guy before he hurt someone.

I think Dancer and I are coming to an end. She had texted me that she went to the movies the other night which I got this morning. So I texted back a question on the road and didn't hear the phone ring. She was upset that I hadn't answered since I just texted. So she wanted to know if I didn't want her to call anymore. Okay this is getting way out of control now. I wonder if it will all just go away on it's own or will I have to call her to stop it all.

The Weekends Over

Father's day is the biggest unholiday for me. Eric and I have not been together on this day in 5 years. Although I have to admit this is the first time in a long while that I remembered it. Mostly since I called or texted my friends to wish them a Happy Father's Day. Hey it's not all about me. I think this will be the first year that we'll be together so close to it.

Today was day 2 of no fever for Eric. He was still feeling pretty sick though. His doctor thought he would be better by Wednesday. I'm just hoping by Friday so he can fly Saturday.

Dancer had left a message for me to call her back and she sounded pretty bad. I had no idea why, but I had hoped it wasn't bad news about her friend's son. His appendix had ruptured while they were visiting and her ex didn't take know what was wrong with him and took him to the hospital several days after it had happened. He had been to sick to operate, but they finally did it Friday. Dancer had a migraine which is why she sounded so bad. The phone call was very funny for me since I made it from when I left Starbucks till I got home. She was surprised I was getting off the phone which I found surprising. Since she had talked non-stop for 12 minutes even when we loss connection she had kept on going. I just needed to make some sound every once in a while. I have no idea what's going on in her head.

Surprising to me is that my sunburn feels worse today than yesterday. I get it so rarely that I forget how it goes. I will say that I'm not in the mood to date at this time even though my eye is roving for some reason. I did get a few hits while on the boardwalk yesterday with some attractive women, but I'm just not into it for whatever reason. So I'm enjoying some single time and next week some fathering time.

There Be Dragons

I'm beat. 2 days in the great outdoors will do that to you. Today we headed over to one of the historical houses, the Adam Thoroughgood house. They had a summer celebration and did it with a medieval festival. The grounds themselves were very nice. They had blacksmith making bottle openers out of metal which he stylized with a face. The wizard did a show for the kids with more jokes than any magic. The human chessboard was interesting to watch. The warriors showed us the trechnut as they launched water balloons in to the air. There were plenty of weapon displays with talks of history like the viking raids. The last thing we watched was the joust. All father's were free which I enjoyed. I tell you all those years of playing Dungeons & Dragons paid off with having to explain it to one of the singles from Japan.

Dancer is really starting to get on my nerves. I think Mary is correct that she is obsessed with me. If we can't talk only once a week I may have to end it. German girl said that the more contact we have the more that she's thinking that things are working out.

Baked Goods

Whew it was a scorcher today. It was in the 90's and very humid. Work this morning was a lot slower than I wanted with 2 cancellations. So this was the slowest week I've had in 6 weeks. I'm worried since next week doesn't look busy either and I'm not around next Saturday. My big hope is that my deadbeat patient actually pays me the money she owes me in 3 weeks when she gets it from the insurance company. We'll see.

Eric is doing better with no more fever. He's still coughing and tired, but is on the mend. The doctor is saying he should be back to normal by Wednesday.

It was the annual Boardwalk Art Show down by the oceanfront today. So the singles and I met up to stroll around and look at the artwork. Whoa boy and I fried from all the heat, sun, and walking. I'm really tired tonight. It was a lot of fun and I have to admit the 6-7 hours I was down there went really fast. Having fun people with me helped.

One thing I realized in dealing with Dancer is that I've picked again a woman that dismisses my feelings. Everything I've said and down which everyone else listening has picked up loud and clear has been deflected with her. Talking once a week and I'll be good. She might not like it, but I have my life and since I'm not trying to build anything else than a friendship here I really don't care.

Rocky Road

I was alarmed when my ex called me to tell me Eric was sick. Kids and colds go together. So when I called her back she told me that he had the swine flu. He's doing well and getting treatment. He'll be home from school till next Wednesday. I asked if it would affect him graduating, but was informed that it wouldn't. My next worry is that if he's not well enough to fly next Saturday he's going to be heartbroken to miss the visit.

It was Dancer's birthday and I didn't want to reiterate what I said about no spark again if I didn't have to. However with her starting the day with an email wanting a letter from me telling her how I feel for her special day. Then when we were on the phone she was saying how the relationship is so one sided so I had to tell her. She didn't take it well. Dancer wants to keep trying since we've not been together long. However I know I how I feel and it's not happening. I know that chemistry feeling isn't going to change. I'm happy to be friends with her and any further communication and interaction be under that. She even offered friends with benefits. Jeez can I pick them. Now I know why people just go cold turkey in these instances. We left off that I want to be friends and that she hopes that it will grow to be more. If it gets too intense I'll have to pull the plug.

The Morning Bumps

I know a few people didn't want me to talk to Dancer on her birthday and I'm for that. However she's just moving at 100 mph and not looking to see if I'm with her or not. Today I get a email asking me to write a long letter telling her how I feel about her, how much she misses me, she's sending me a video later. Whoa! I guess I can pick them huh? So I'll apply the brakes to her today when I call her later. Oye.

I'm waiting to see if I get a response from my deadbeat patient. I have all her information from when I gave it to collections. I've let her know that I know that she was paid already by the insurance company. If I don't hear back from her by the end of the day I'll just email her about making monthly payments.

The Midnight Hour

The rest of my day has been a bit interesting after my radio offer and both have to do with Facebook. Before I get to that, it's interesting when I first heard the offer I was like how much is this going to cost me. Everyone else thinks its for free. I guess it's the business person in me and that nothing is free.

Anyway I got a friend request from someone I went to high school with. They also sent me a email saying hi. Who the hell this person is, is beyond me. I can only remember a few people in high school. I moved around a lot so I was only there for a couple of years. She neither looks familiar or sounds familiar. I guess I should dig out my old yearbook one of these days. It might be my mission for tomorrow, although I have I have no idea where it is in my storage unit.

The women who owes me money and wants to be my Facebook friend responded to my email about her paying the outstanding debt. She lied and told me that the insurance company hadn't settled yet which they already told me it was settled back in December. She wanted my to try and get money from her health insurance company. When I thought about answering her back it was so strange cause I felt like the bad person. I have no idea why, but I get this way often with this misplaced guilt. I didn't do anything wrong and I wasn't the thief. So I replied that they wouldn't pay since they had already settled. So I'll see if she falls of the face of the Earth now.

I was going to make sure Dancer knows that I only want this to be a friendship since she is still going gun-ho with us. However she was out with friends tonight for her birthday tomorrow. So I told her I'd talk to her tomorrow so she could be with her friends. I'm hoping I don't have to put a stake in her heart for her to get it.

Hittin' the Brakes

One thing that I have learned being a chiropractor is matching people's energy levels. If someone comes in feeling very low I can't talk to him like I'm high on crack and visa versa. For people to relate to you I've found that I need to be close to where they are. Afterwards I can move to a higher level. Why am I talking about this? Dancer of course. I need to talk to her again that there is no spark for me and that friends is it. She is constantly coming at me at 100% high and I'm down around 10-20%. Hey if I was interested in her she would be a great person as she is talking date nights and such on the phone which is awesome. However I'm just not that in to her to quote a catch phrase.

Eric and I got a chance to talk for a while last night and he's excited to see me and fly in the plane. I'm hoping he gets use to flying soon so he can do it himself since then I could see him every other month if not every month if prices stay the way they are.

It's a slow day in the office today so I'm catching up on paperwork and doing some marketing. I've gotten some new patients for later in the week and a pregnancy fair for August so it's been worth it. This morning was the first time in a while that I awoke rested. I'm conking out a little now, but it's better than it has been. I'm still fighting a minor cold. Tonight's hike is going to be a rough one since there is going to be a good wind. While I'm good for a normal hike the windy ones still take some getting use to.

On the home front we have a female doctor who hasn't passed her boards yet coming to check the place out. We believe she was trained outside the US which is very difficult to get licensed here nowadays. She's teaching at one of the hospitals until she can get fully accredited. We'll see if she works out. It will be interesting to have another professional in the house.

Tuesday's Here

It was nice to sleep a full night sleep. When the alarm clock went off this morning I had to hit the snooze and it was a blink on an eye when it went off again. It didn't matter to me that I was alone in the bed just that no one was waking me up early. I have to admit that was getting on my nerves with Dancer waking me up early to hang out. She texted me this morning telling me how much she misses me next to her in bed. I'm thinking I need to tell her again that I'm not having any spark between us to build a relationship on. Friend wise will be great. So we'll see.

I'm getting many questions on what Eric and I are doing when he gets here. I have no clue honestly. His taste keep changing so there is no reason for me to even plan. For both of us, just doing something, anything together is the best. I'll have to work while he is here which is no big deal since Eric has been coming to work with me since he was in an infant carrier. I actually have a few small jobs he could help me out with.

In an effort to help answer Eric's question about his family tree I made one for my Father's side and one for my Mom's side. Plus I copied the picture I had in the last entry for him.

In digging through my Mom's side of the family I'm feeling a better connection. My brother and I have talked on this before, but our Mom did not foster in us any sense of cultural heritage. We have no idea why. He thinks it's from many people thinking they were Puerto Rican during the big migration to NY in the 50's. I think it has more to do with Mom's own stuff of not connecting.

Until I was older did I realize how unconnected I felt in the world. Hey you could be Irish and never been to Ireland, but there is a connection with others who are Irish. I never met a Filipino person until I was in my 20's. If I had never worked with any I would have no idea about that side of my heritage. I've always known my Italian relatives, but since we were not close in distance that never got as strong as I seen in many of my other friends who were Italian. So with all this work it's nice to start to feel part of something bigger than apart from.

It's a Small World

Looking through my Facebook homepage I see that L hand with the Woohoo Sistas. Looking through the pictures I saw Law girl. It said she was getting married which was nice to hear. She was a good person. It's funny how I just find people I've dated and learn how they are doing. Dancer asked if I meet a lot of Singles people when I'm out and about. It's weird, but I never do. Just like I almost never run into old girlfriends.

Catch Up

OMG I'm exhausted today. I dropped Dancer off at the airport at 5 this morning. She always wakes up earlier than me and there is no more glaring reflection of us than at that time. Dancer wants to engage with me and I just want to sleep. Without that deeper chemistry connection the relationship is just not high on my list. I explained it in a better way to her, but since she has a better chemistry than me I think it was over looked by her. So I think with us apart it will better be understood by her.

However I'm a walking zombie today. I dragged my ass back out of bed to come to work for a patient that didn't show up. I'm happy to report others have called to come in today, but when I could have slept and it didn't happen. Oye I'm mad. As any woman that has every dated me knows that I like my sleep.

I took Dancer out to Carabas for our date Saturday night. The food there is always awesome and I had free gift certificates to the place so it worked out great. We then took a walk in the park and then stopped at Starbucks since it was raining. Most women look at me strange when I suggest Starbucks and a game of Lifestories for dessert in the night. However once we play they are pleasantly surprised. Dancer really enjoyed the game.

Yesterday we walked on the beach early in the morning and yes my ass was dragged outside to do this. We did some bike riding down the boardwalk and since she loves light houses I took her to one of ours here. Old Cape Henry lighthouse from 1791 which was the first construction job commissioned by the US.

Since I was exhausted Saturday I asked Dancer to come with me to see my Mom which as always was a short visit. We hooked up with the singles to see Sunshine Cleaning. It was a really good movie which I would recommend.

Inverse entered the picture last night and threw us a screwball. She showed up to drop off her daughter. I was like the Landlord said he would be gone the night. Inverse said he would be home shortly and could I just watch her for the few minutes until that happen since she and this guy had reservations. I was like okay, but I knew something was up. Her daughter was all wound up after a diet of Doritos and fruit rollups all day long. Dancer and I took her for a walk to try and get her to calm down. When the Landlord got home he was pissed. He's very big on hospitality and it was bad enough that it affected me, but to affect Dancer too was too much. Also I found out afterwards that he hadn't accepted to do it. He had told Inverse that he would call her when he was finished. Inverse also put the cherry on top by not saying anything, but her daughter stood the night and Landlord took her to school the next morning.

Two Tickets to Paradise

Believe me you aren't the only one surprised about that. It's just another extension of that there isn't a spark here with Dancer. I enjoy my time with her a lot, but when I'm not with her I don't even think about her. She has a lot of qualities that I like, but the chemistry isn't there for something more. Since this relationship is ass backwards in that we started having sex before we knew each other better, I'm finding it out now. If we had started dating normal like I would have picked up on it. Dancer's flight is on stand by so it looks like she'll spend a night at my place and leave Monday. I'm happy that sleep deprivation is starting to catch up with her since I'm ready to go psychotic here. I'm going to cut out of the office a little early today so I can run a few errands and get back home to do laundry and grab a nap. We planned a night out tonight since it was suppose to be her last night her. I'm taking her to Carabas and then miniature golfing. I might switch it around since we might not feel like doing anything after a good meal.

Our monthly Happy Hour went very well with a great amount of people showing up. Food, drinks, and conversation was very good. Afterwards we went to listen to music out in the town square.

Fire in the Sky

I need a caffeine IV or something. I'm so tired I actually turned down sex this morning. Something I never thought I'd do. However it was either suggest that we have it tonight or just sleep through it. I haven't been to sleep before 1 am all this week and with getting up early for work has caught up with me.

Dancer surprised me last night by asking if I wanted to continue this relationship long distance. I did give her my, "I don't like LTR." However I told her I would think about it since she had already processed it just like Tuesday when she wanted to go out with me. It's a complete change of how I'm looking at this. I do know she is having more chemistry with me then I am having with her which will probably be my answer. Dancer is a great person to have as a friend, but that special spark isn't there.

I did get the report from my collector that the former patient who friended me on Facebook has gone bankrupt and I can kiss that money goodbye. He did suggest that I reply to the request asking if there is any chance of paying off the amount. Hey nothing to lose.

I was able to confirm some family rumors yesterday. One of my patients asked if she could visit my Mom. It's part of there job in the church to visit seniors in the different homes. So she went with a friend of hers. They're both Filipino and her friend is sharp with detecting Filipino information. Like if you were born here or not, what providence you're from, etc. She took one look at my Mom and said that she was part Japanese. My Mom's mom died after child birth and her Dad remarried. When he died her step mom said that her Dad wasn't really her father. A Japanese man was, but he never married her mom. However my Mom never got a long with her so she never knew if it was the truth or just something to hurt her. So my brother and I have been trying to put pieces together with the fragments we knew.

Pooping Out at Parties

With Dancer and friends here, every time I look at the clock it's midnight. It's wearing me down. I was happy that my hike with L yesterday was no problem which means my endurance is increasing. My legs aren't sore from hiking, but are sore from sex. It's funny my muscles can be in shape, but not use to certain movements. Oye do I feel it. Tonight it's the Funny Bone for both groups.

One thing I'm finding out which is really no surprise for me is that unless I'm working on building a relationship my real enjoyment of it all isn't there. At times I wish I could be more casual about it, but I guess I was made for better things.

Today I'm more excited about Eric coming in a few weeks. It'll be good to see him. So now I need to start planning what I can do to keep him occupied during the times I work. The times I'm busy in the office are shifting now so I can't even predict how it will be then.