The Dating Game

As my friend Paul will say I'm anal, but in a good way. Whether you know it or not I keep a dating chart of all the women I date. If we went out 2 or more times you land yourself on the chart. Your name and your blog nickname go on it. The second part is so I know who the hell they are after a while. After that I just list all their good (green highlights) and bad (red highlights) aspects as adjectives. It allows me to see how I'm doing. Am I still being attracted to that bad trait? Am I make progress up the dating ladder? The biggest thing is that black and white is a lot more accurate. Adding Asp to the list today I looked over the last few women I dated. Facebook, Dancer, Happy, and Blondie all had a lot more red than green.

I knew taking time off from dating last year would help. I have to admit I went out with most of them for their looks and found nothing beyond it. I have to admit Asp was borderline herself so I have to watch myself again. I'm not looking to get right back out there, but when I do I want to keep going up instead of taking the bat pole down.

It's funny cause I would never admit it, but I guess I'm a sucker for a pretty face. Every few women there is one that I remember was a real looker and their is all this red under her name.

Do you do anything to monitor your dating?

The Mobeius Strip

It was funny how life comes back around again. I happened not once, but twice today in different ways.

I was sitting in one of my networking classes today and the instructor was doing an example of if he was married to a loan officer he wouldn't be given many referrals to any other loan officers. I tell you it took me back to my time with the Planner. She was a loan officer and we had this argument a few times. She use to get so mad at me for not giving her any referrals and that I had to be given them to the loan officer in my group. I could never get it through her head I never knew anyone that needed a loan. I really don't deal with real estate as a chiropractor. It was one of her rallying points when she broke up with me. So it was a nice blast from the past.

Number 2 was at our monthly mixer. I'm talking to 2 guys and one looks maybe familiar. I meet too many people to remember them all especially guys. I don't waste the gray matter on remembering you if you have a Y chromosome. Anyway the guy remembered me. He was a Facebook girl's brothers house on New Years Eve. Good memory or I just leave impressions on people since it was maybe 10 minutes that we sat and watched TV. We didn't talk about Facebook girl which was okay by me. I did get his friend's wife as a patient. She's paying $120 for an acupuncture session. Holy shit! I told the guy $45 and he was all over it like hair on soap.

Last but not least I saw Slumdog Millionaire tonight with the singles. Very good movie.

Bearer of Bad News

Well Fun girl and I finally communicated. The problem? Her cell number on her business card was printed wrong. I felt sad to tell her since I knew she worked really hard today and gave a whole bunch of them. She was happy to find out that the printer was responsible for the mistake.

Anyway it was fun to talk to Fun girl. Again I'm just hit by how natural it feels when we talk. So we're going to get together Sunday. She'll give me a call tomorrow to let me know her church schedule since she goes with her sister and nephew.

I wish I was deeper in the relationship with her so I could invite her to my patient appreciation dance. A few people asked. I told them I would be to focused on the patients to give her enough attention which is partially true. The other half is I don't really know her yet and I don't need any wild cards during the event. Like Facebook girl getting shit faced on me.

One of my patients gave me a compliment thinking I was somewhere between 30-35 age wise. This came up since she was thinking of trying to set me up with a 25 year old. Noooo thank you.

Must Love Dogs

She didn't just appear today, but she became a blip on the screen when she suggested we meet. So Barker has entered the play list. She's a big dog enthusiast so hence the name.

Having learned from Facebook girl how to search on the site. I looked to see who was single and in my age group and then asked to be friends with a few women. Barker was the only one to respond. She really hasn't picked up the chatter until today. She took it and flew with it. Originally she thought I was in NY and asked to meet there, but she was happier to find out I'm in Virginia Beach. At least I know she loves dogs.

Wozers

Just finished all the stats for 2008 for the business. When I added all the information into the history of the practice I was really surprised by two pieces of information that I gleamed from the stats.

1. That this was the 5th year I was in my own practice. Holy shit who knew.
2. That divorce sucks. The 2 years that I dealt with my ex with divorce and child custody battles the business just flat lines. All the growth in the first year just disappears and doesn't come back till year 4. The difference in numbers is astonishing.

This year the office moved in a good direction. Not as far as I had expected, but made good strides. If I can increase the business the same amount in 2009 as I did this year I will be very happy.

As always when I put everything in order my life calms down. Facebook girl is still trying to impart that she only ever wanted to be friends with me. I was going to email back what she said while she was drunk, but I realized why fight just to be right. Anyway I'm happy that we're over.

With that taken care of I responded to Charming's email with a "just business as usual attitude" which helped focus my mind with her. With the right mindset I'll have no problem with her tomorrow.

My god the office looks barren. I took down all the Christmas decorations and since it's raining I haven't been over to my storage unit to get the winter decorations. Now I remember why I keep it decorated all year round.

I had some good news today. One of the bigger chiropractors in the area has moved his office further south in the city. As with any move you lose 25% of your patients. Two just came my way. So this week that will be my push for getting new patients. People that don't want to go the distance.

Friday Fun

Well I ended it with Facebook girl and it went well as it was going to. I have to admit I wasn't quite sure how it was going to go. She made sure I knew that she only wanted to be friends.

I'm trying to let Charming go, but having a hard time about it. Like I stated a while back I have a hard time when a woman is interested in me. She's emailed me a few times and I can already feel the changes in me towards her. However I'm not satisfied with her answer so I feel like I'm saying it's okay to treat me like crap anytime you like.

Back in the office today and will leave early after my last patient. I want to enjoy the last of the holiday season. Not saying I'm going to do anything exciting, but it will be nice to do nothing.

My Life Such as it Is

There was many changes in plans last night. Facebook girl wanted me to meet her at one of her brother's house. So on the way there she texted me that he was being an asshole and could we skip the first party. I was answer that I was going out to be with her not for any party. Her older brother was cold and I just picked her up and we went out for a drink.

I don't drink at all so that threw her a little. Like always just talking it was enjoyable. She even helped hook a guy up at the bar so he wouldn't be alone for New Years. It was pretty funny. The margarita there got her slightly drunk and then talking was okay. So we headed over to her other brother's house. By the time I got inside the kitchen she was already doing shots.

I have to admit Facebook girl has many firsts for me. One is that I have never been out with a drunk woman before(more to follow). The other is that she had breasts implants. I had to admit whoever did them did a very good job.

Anyway while Facebook girl is not a obnoxious drunk she tries the nerves. Through her drunken state we agreed that we would hold off sex since she liked me. I was okay with that since I wasn't quite sure where I was with her. She asked me to sleep over, but no sex.

The funny thing is that all women seem to know I'm the nice guy, but all seem surprised that I'm the bad boy when it comes to anything dealing with sex. They think I'm going to be shy or bashful. ROFLMAO.

Anyway one of the biggest red flags came up while we were at her brother's place. She doesn't like dogs. That's a big thing for me. Especially since her brother had 2 really nice dogs that came right over to me wanting attention from me all night. Anytime she saw me scratching them she asked me to stop with a face that looked like I was drawing my nails across the blackboard.

Anyway the party was mostly everyone drinking. Her brother's girl I ended up talking to the most. Since a) I thought she was attractive and b) she was the one least drinking. Anyway Facebook girl was pretty smashed and I was happy that I memorized how to get to her place. So I took her home got her comfortable in bed an under the covers. I made myself comfortable than dropped off to sleep next to her.

Sometime during the night she awoke and pounced on me for sex. It was interesting since I hadn't bonded to her so I wasn't so into it, but she made it interesting since she was moving like one of those paint shakers at Home Depot.

We talked some in the morning. She asked/joked about why I let her drink so much. I told her so she could learn when she needed to stop. We drove back to her brother's and her truck. She gave me to cheek to kiss and that was that. While this is the first New Year in years that I have actually celebrated I might have to plan better next year.

Another little tidbit is that Facebook girl and the Planner have the same name.

Change in Plans

Facebook girl and I usually flirt online. It's never normal talk. So it was interesting to sit today and talk. Child rearing, family, work, etc. It was nice to see her in a different light. So I'll give it a little more time. I'm not quite sure what the shelf life on the relationship is. I know it's not a long one, but there is more here to develop.

Handcuffs were not brought to Starbucks. Sorry everyone. However we are going out tonight. The main party will be at her brothers, but we need to go to one party before hand that her BF is at. The person running the party owns a few sex shops in the area. So I was assured that handcuff, whip, etc. would be in supply tonight. This could be a freaky New Year. Hey you'll get great stories though. The guy has a tent over his pool which he has somehow superheated. Hey it's suppose to be 20 degrees with 40 mph winds. I don't you could do anything to get me in there.

Happy and Safe New Year Everyone!

Fly Be Free

I think I will be turning Facebook girl loose today. She's too much of a candy wrapper for me. The more we talk the more the differences pop up. I'm happy just to joke around on Facebook. The major difference between us is where our happiness comes from. She's looking for it out there someplace and I'm looking for it inside. Anyway she suggested Starbucks again today which will be rough for me since I need some change to build on. However I'm suppose to be bringing a feather duster and she's bringing the handcuffs so we'll see what happens.

Tech girl at the last moment RSVP'd to come to movie night and see Body of Lies with the singles. It was a little awkward, but I knew I would be okay. She was cool and I'm not quite sure why she came. The funny thing is that she'll be staying at the Photographer's place tonight after another group's party. Now that's going to be interesting.

Hi Mom

After much musing I realized what is different with Facebook girl. All the women I've ever dated I would have no problem taking home to meet my Mom as the old saying goes. That's not the case with Facebook girl. The golden tan in deep winter, the loud make up, the outfits. So it's a different world I'm exploring. I'm enjoying the ride at the moment and I think their is an extra heady feel since she initiated everything. So I'll spend sometime with the party girl and see what happens. She emailed me her cell number yesterday after our date. From the updates I got she had a fun time with her family last night for her birthday.

As most people are reflective at the end of the year I found myself looking at myself this morning at my business meeting. I had to do an educational presentation for the group and I couldn't believe how different I felt from what I use to feel. While I'm no stranger to public speaking I have learned how to work a room and feel more solid. So I was happy.

Post Date Report

Well Facebook girl was at Starbucks when I got there. She was wearing an outfit she had on in one of her pictures and she pretty much looked the same. I was just wondering how long her hair would be. We grabbed some drinks and sat down to chat. NY'ers converse easily and I enjoyed that with her. I can't say I had super attraction nor was I bored so I figured I was right where I should be. My one concern was that in most of her pictures her cleavage is hanging out and it didn't disappoint today. However I was good and never dropped past her lips. Okay I grabbed a gander when she turned her head. My biggest concern with her is she's a tanning junkie and her skin is starting to show the symptoms of it.

Anyway I only had an hour so I asked if she wanted to get together again. She agreed. We talked about next weekend, but we may do New Year's Eve is she doesn't have her daughter. As I started this with nothing to lose. I'll continue to see if their is anything here. I have to admit she is different from any other woman I've dated before. I don't know how to describe it, but she is.

Afterwards I got treated at OVDC's who nicknamed me "Romeo" since I never seem to have any problem getting dates, unlike other people she knows. She had a good laugh with it.

Major Tom to Ground Control

Well Facebook girl emailed me to confirm our 2 o'clock Starbucks. I have to admit I'm a bit anxious which surprises me since 72 hours ago I didn't even know this woman. I guess what's getting me is I don't know what to expect which brings up issues of my Mom and you never know how she would be when she came home. Most of the time she was great, but that one in ten that she was a wailing machine. So I can get these anxious moments when I'm not quite sure what to expect from a woman. Ah feels better to talk/journal about it.

Like I said yesterday I'm not expecting much. Besides being a fellow transported NY'er and a single parent I don't know much about her. She flirts well, but that only lasts so long. I'm going to OVDC afterwards to get treated so when I get back to the office I'll let you know how it went.

I have to agree with Senorita about Tech girl's email. I had hoped that it meant she had moved on, but I doubt it. It's why I wanted to end it when I did since I knew she was attaching to me really fast.

Well Dress Me Up & Call Me Sally

Facebook girl asked me to meet her for Starbucks tomorrow. I figured when she said no Friday we would just be talking online with some flirting thrown it for good measure. I had chalked her up to just a fun online friend that would never pan out. Well I have to admit she has initiated everything. Hopefully she doesn't leap across the table onto me. I have to admit I'm not expecting much. The weird thing is it's her birthday, but that's actually why she has time since she's off. I sent her a birthday card on Facebook and gave her a Christmas goose a few days late. What can I say it's the romantic in me.

Another woman was flirting with me, looking for a guy for a nice woman. However she's on the peninsula in the Planner and Tech girl's neck of the woods so no thank you. Also she just broke up from her cheating BF. I don't think so not even for rebound sex. Is it the holiday season? Am I in season? Are there posters of me tacked around town?

Speaking about Tech girl, she emailed me back today thanking me for the contractor information and hoping I had a good Christmas. It took her a little over a week, but I knew she was becoming really attached to me. Hopefully we can still be friends. She finally RSVP'd for an event although it was one that I said "no" to. Whether that played into it or not I'm not quite sure.

Hi from the Beach

I'm not quite sure how it is by you, but it's 75 and sunny here. I'm still getting all the sand off me from my walk on the boardwalk and beach. The singles and I went to the Contemporary Art Museum today. I've passed it so many times in the last 5 years and always say I should stop. So I made it an event to do so. It was interesting. While modern art isn't my favorite it was a nice place. They needed at least 1 more exhibit hall to make it worth it though. Since we were finished with it so fast I suggested the walk on the boardwalk.

Facebook girl contacted me again yesterday. I didn't think I would hear back from her. However throughout the day we would chat. Last night we flirted a lot which was fun. I doubt if I will ever date her, but who knows. However as dating usually brings things up in me. This brings up a reoccurring problem. Women who are interested in me before I'm interested in them. Yes I know I'm nuts. However this creates an attraction in me for that woman whether I want it or not. I guess it hits that part of me that is still damaged that says I'm unlovable or something. So when I meet that attraction I become like a moth to the flame. Just like Gym girl who was eyeballing me yesterday. She's too young for me and there's nothing there for me to connect to. However I know she's interested in me.

So back to the problem at hand. I really haven't found a way to deal with this yet. Saying I'm grateful that she likes me just feeds into the whole unlovable angle. I tell you it's a nice high from it, but I would like to be able to keep my wits about me. I become very reactionary which I don't like. I like making conscious choices.

Well the nakedness has to come to an end. My landlord should be back today or in the next few. So back to closing doors and no more clothes optional. Oh well. The good thing is that we're running out of food.

Tonight the singles and I are off to the Funny Bone for more comedy. Till then I'm going to try and figure out Facebook. Stop by if you like.