The Dating Game

As my friend Paul will say I'm anal, but in a good way. Whether you know it or not I keep a dating chart of all the women I date. If we went out 2 or more times you land yourself on the chart. Your name and your blog nickname go on it. The second part is so I know who the hell they are after a while. After that I just list all their good (green highlights) and bad (red highlights) aspects as adjectives. It allows me to see how I'm doing. Am I still being attracted to that bad trait? Am I make progress up the dating ladder? The biggest thing is that black and white is a lot more accurate. Adding Asp to the list today I looked over the last few women I dated. Facebook, Dancer, Happy, and Blondie all had a lot more red than green.

I knew taking time off from dating last year would help. I have to admit I went out with most of them for their looks and found nothing beyond it. I have to admit Asp was borderline herself so I have to watch myself again. I'm not looking to get right back out there, but when I do I want to keep going up instead of taking the bat pole down.

It's funny cause I would never admit it, but I guess I'm a sucker for a pretty face. Every few women there is one that I remember was a real looker and their is all this red under her name.

Do you do anything to monitor your dating?

You Think I'm Cute

Well I have to admit I was surprised that my crazy chick spell dissipated while hiking with L. She didn't know about it, but my head cleared so I was happy. I think pheromones must be in the air or something since a bunch of women were looking at me at the beach which is something I'm not use to. I have to admit most of them were a little younger than I would like to date, but some were my age.

It's going to be a very cheap weekend. I need to pay off one more big bill tomorrow. I hate to say it all comes down to how things are put in the bank which means I'm going to get screwed. Hopefully not though.

Tonight it's off to see J Medicine Hat at the Funny Bone with the singles. The last time I saw him I was there with Happy girl and she was a volunteer. It was very interesting. This time I think it'll be a little more normal.

Gotta Get Out of This Place

I'm tired today. I agreed to get up for 30 minutes at 2 am this morning so that Inverse's daughter could sleep through the night. It wasn't great, but I'll help out for a 5 year old. Landlord has been Inverse's driver until she gets a new car next week. So he needs to pick her up at 2 am when she gets off of work. The little girl has been wanting to get up to see her mom, but I think its dragging on her.

The bigger news is that said daughter will be gone all weekend and Inverse will be stuck in the house without a car when she's not working. Now all comments up to this time have been made with the daughter standing right there. I shudder to think how this weekend will be. Usually she goes out and tries to get laid at a club, but being home bound her prospects fall to the landlord and me.

I texted Happy girl this morning to see if she is free this weekend for a game of pool, but she is off to Carolina. She suggested next weekend, but I'll be in NY. So it'll have to be sometime in the future.

Where are the White Women At?

Okay this no dating is starting to become boring. While I have to admit I'm a happy single. I do enjoy the chase of dating. So without it this weekend I miss some of the excitement. While work is keeping me very busy during the day. I can only do so much me time. For me it's weird to say, but I enjoy socially interacting with others instead of my alone time. Years ago it would have been the complete opposite. While I still need alone time to recharge and center myself. The amount is getting smaller and smaller. Life just doesn't throw me as much as it use to do. I'm not saying I'm going to give up my not dating for the rest of the month, but I do miss it. I probably will ask Happy girl if she wants to go play pool this weekend. One to have something social to do and if she really meant being friends.

On a Roll

After finishing putting Happy girl on my dating chart I see that I'm on a roll. The last 3 women that I went out for more than 1 date I ended it. Before that I hadn't done so since my divorce. Not quite sure what that means, but at least I'm owning what I want in a relationship. I could write a book. I doubt if it would instructional except that one could say at least my dating life isn't that crazy. Maybe I should rename my blog "Going Sane in a Dating World"?

Someone in my business group mentioned I should back off in the group. She said she had the same problem when she stepped down from leadership. Letting go. I know I'm having that problem, plus I'm trained as an assistant director to spot the errors. So I will try and let go in the meeting, but I know I won't be able to take my hands fully off.

I'm pretty happy with myself in not asking anyone out today. Even with running into 2 attractive women today. Maybe I should get a rock and start carving slashes in the wall to mark how many days it's been.

Decisions...decisions...decisions

As you probably can guess what's been on my mind the last few hours. Yes it's my Achilles heel: sex. I'm a high moral type of guy when it comes to life and standing my ground. The only area where it always turns to quicksand is sex. If I hadn't seen all the sexual stuff with Happy girl on stage I wouldn't had such a problem letting her go the next day.

So in dealing with Inverse and Senorita's excellent description of "SHE DEFINITELY WANTS TO BANG YOU". I remembered something Inverse said about the Landlord (who's almost 70) wanting to do her. The dirty old man thought came to my head. I know to sleep with her will just perpetuate the same dysfunctional cycle that she's in. Yes I know this is heady, but it's better to think with the bigger head than the smaller one. I will continue to be friendly to her and if I can help her in other ways like I would do anyone else I will.

My hope is that she will see that she can fill the void inside of her in other healthy ways than she is doing now. Cause now she is giving me descriptions of women she sees out there that are scantily dressed and using her body to show me what was covered and what wasn't. I guess she's declaring war.

My other hope is that she gets lucky tonight. She went out clubbing again last night and was unsuccessful in getting laid which I truly find hard to believe. Now she's out again in one more attempt to find a man. I just hope she stays safe.

What Sunday Brings

Game night went very last night in our new location at Panera Bread. The usual problems arose. No one reads the event or the announcements to see that the place had changed. For some reason the address I got off the web was wrong so a few people couldn't find it. Although it was general consensus that if you called information you could have found the place since it was right across the street from our normal Starbucks.

Coffee girl never got back to me with a time so I'm officially on dating hiatus for now. I was good last night at Panera Bread. One of my friends came back to the table that all the girls upfront liked my laugh. They said it sounded like Santa Claus. There are no "ho's" in my laugh so I'm not quite sure what they meant, but that a group of girls wanted to know who I was, was a good thing. However I didn't go up and start any conversations. I'm going to try and not date for the rest of the month. We'll see what happens. Every time I do the women come out of the woodwork.

Since the weather was awesome today, 73 degrees and sunny, I did a impromptu miniature golf event. Only a few others made it, but we had a great time being outdoors. I tell you sitting in the sun afterwards and I was ready for a nap. Still am.

Navy girl wanted me to come play 9 holes with her, but I think I want to start just hitting a bucket of balls before I try playing a game to see if I even like what I'm doing. I felt bad when she got a sad face when I turned her down.

The funny thing was the Photographer was at the Funny Bone when Happy girl and I were there. She was sitting in the back and couldn't see that I was the Mike in question.

My So Called Life

On the way into work this morning I was thinking of my dating life over the past month and a half. I don't know why I think cause I hear from so many people that they can't meet anyone and I've been going out with a woman a week for a while now. Not saying that's a good thing or bad, but never in a million years would I think that this would be my life. The funny thing is that I don't care if a woman turns me down which I guess is a positive because I know I feel it when I'm turned down in work.

My friend Paul apologized for telling me he laughs every time he thinks of my last few stories. Of Inverse who for many of you that asked is a 25 year old ex stripper (you can hit her tag at the bottom of this entry to find all about her) that lives in the same house as I do. Where I live my Landlord rents out rooms since it's a huge house. Anyway Inverse has set her sites on me and is trying to manipulate me to like her. However I'm very sensitive to that and it doesn't work. Now if she just was normal about it I probably would be dead. A 25 hottie ex stripper coming onto you would be too much for me. The other was Happy girl on all 4's shaking her ass on stage in front of a crowd at the Funny Bone. As well as the lesbian act with another women. At times my life is just way too funny.

I haven't started talking to anyone else this week so if Coffee girl doesn't work out I should be in the clear for a while dating wise. Yes Senorita I do agree that I could use a break, but I have no idea what I would entertain you all week with. OVDC loves my stories each week I see her.

Yes Ada I'm basically a shy guy. Close all your mouths please. While I'm a very open person starting conversations is rough. Over the last few years I know how to overcome it, but it's still a lot of work. That's why things like the convention the other night overwhelm me. For those of you that are shy I'll give you a secret. Host. Yes host stuff. It gives you the reason to talk to people and if you get stuck you can pawn the person on to someone else to go talk to someone else.

Get Your Progams

I avoided playing the game of looking at Happy girl's last text and wondering if it meant anything else. I cut through to the chase in that I wasn't being nurtured in the relationship and I knew it wasn't changing. It didn't matter what she was getting out of it like Tech girl. So after several hours I started to feel normal again.

I took care of all the calls I had forgot to do during the week and got back on the wagon of business focus. With that I tried to stay on the gratitude road with I had enough money to pay to get my computer fixed instead of complaining that bills now need to wait since the money was used for that.

I lucked out tonight at dinner. Inverse was preoccupied with not getting the tax refund she thought she was going to get to focus on me. Hey there is a god.

So what's it been about 10 hours since I goodbye to Happy girl. Well enter Coffee girl. We talked just before Happy girl and I went out last week. I didn't talk to her this week with me seeing how things were going with Happy girl. I hate juggling women. I like the assembly line dating process. You work on what's in front of you then when it's finished you move onto the next. Hey what can I say I like to focus. I like her because she's very jokey and the way she talks about her coffee addiction is a hoot. We're going out Sunday to where else? Starbucks.

Let this be a lesson to all my readers. You miss a day and you'll miss a woman.

Shocked and Stunned. Very Stunned

I was really surprised how much I felt battered after letting Happy girl go. For some reason I guess somewhere I had some expectations. Her being very attractive and sexual probably didn't hurt which is really weird. Since I'm a physical person and she wasn't physical with me.

Inverse will be home tonight with her daughter so it will be a full house for dinner. We've been running on different schedules so we haven't ran into each other. The interesting thing I found this morning was that she was talking to the Landlord in her robe this morning I guess after a shower. She didn't hang around to talk to me. I'm guessing she feels she needs to look a certain way when she's around me. The funny thing is that I would probably connect more with her if she just acted normal instead of trying to manipulate everything.

My computer is up and running normal now. I still need to enter all of January in my Quicken which is going to suck, but I have my bank statement. Every once in a while I find something that just didn't get saved which has no rhyme or reason.

Tonight the Finger, Tomorrow the Fist

That was Happy girl's cry last night to the crowd at the Funny bone at what she was going to do my ass. She was hypnotized at the time. We went out last night. It was a fun time, but I realized that the chemistry between us is very low. Conversation is rough. Happy girl can tell a great story and I enjoy them, but there isn't anything to build on.

Anyway it was J. Medicine Hat last night. I've heard a lot about him, but have never gotten to see him. He's a comic hypnotist. If he ever comes to your area he's well worth seeing. Happy girl had been a volunteer before. She said she wasn't going to last night, but they were low on volunteers so she asked if I would mind. I said no and off she went. Starting with about 20 people he worked his way down to 4 people (3 women and 1 guy). Happy girl being one of them.

Now the comic can't get you to do anything you wouldn't do. He just puts you in a scenario and you react like you normally would. So I got to see how Happy girl would show off her ass and breasts for judges and I say she could give Inverse a run for her money. I also got to see how she would be with a vibrator and as a lesbian. Seeing this stuff does something to your mind.

Anyway the comic asked who she was with and I raised my hand. He asked if she was a wild woman which Happy girl is. So that's how the whole my ass being violated came up. It was suppose to happen after she bit and scratched me all up.

After the show I walked her to her truck and she drove me over to my car. We lightly kissed, but that was it. I knew that there wasn't enough chemistry for me to be happy on the one hand, but the sex thing was heavy in the other hand. However I know that with out the chemistry I never enjoy sex.

So I broke it off this morning. I told her that she would make a great friend and she agreed that she enjoyed my company. Happy girl told me to let her know if I ever wanted to hang out to let her know. So I'll keep her number for that. Whether she really means it or not I don't know. I think that she may have fallen under my nice guy spell. A lot of women I've dated will continue because of that even though there is no chemistry.

On a side note, Navy girl texted me last night to make sure I knew she hadn't forgotten about me and that as soon as it was warm we would golf.

Almost There

I finally got my laptop back last night and spent many hours since then upload, re-installing, and updating everything. It's not going too bad except that I need to restart my computer pretty much after each item which is painful. The biggest problem was that my office program wasn't working. I thought they were going to charge me to fix it, but they showed what to do and it's all fine now.

So I'm recreating the last 4 days into my computer. I'm going to need to recreate the last few weeks for my Quicken file since I thought it had self backed up. Other than that it's working smoothly. I'm just making it stressful with trying to do all of it while I treat patients and do normal office work. My desk is starting not to look like a disaster area with papers and discs all over it.

What's adding to the problem is that I only had 4 hours of sleep. I had to work my business networking convention. 230 people showed up and I helped sign them in. My partner in crime with it dreamed up the scheme of getting 2 business cards from everyone. Since we were stuck there for most of the event it gave us a way to know who was there and contact them afterwards if we wanted to.

To most people's surprise I'm a shy guy. Most people know me as very social and outgoing, but it's not my norm. I work to get there. So I was pretty overwhelmed after four hours of having people in my face. While I was pretty wiped when I got home and feel asleep with no problem. I awoke at 3 am with my mind racing and couldn't fall back to sleep.

So I'm starting to wind down now. I do have a date with Happy girl tonight. I'm taking her to the Funny Bone. Her week has been crazy as her job swings into it's busy season. So we're both looking forward to seeing each other and relaxing. We've been texting and having short conversations with both are crazy schedules this week. It's been nice since we've both made the point of communicating with the other.

Blessed Silence

Yeah right. I'm waiting for Geek Squad to call and tell me I can pick up my computer. It's way to cold to be walking door to door today to drum up business. Without all my info in my old computer I'm just kind of sitting here. This old computer had milk spilled in it so it's temperamental at best, but hey it works. Hopefully some year I'll finish paying DELL off for it.

30 more minutes to my online seminar on rehab for the shoulder. Hopefully it will be entertaining since I'm getting really bored here. Not until later in the afternoon to I have other classes and patients. Whether the computer is back or not life kicks back into gear tomorrow.

I can't tell if it's my imagination or what, but something is going on in Happy girl's head. If you asked me what I couldn't tell you. I'm just very sensitive to any change. Having grown up in a crazy household, sensing what attitudes the grown up were in helped in survival. As an adult it makes me very sensitive in relationships. I can sense the subtle changes in the wind. Right now I'm only going off text messages, but I've come to listen to my gut.

What a Difference a Day Makes

Yesterday it was 60 degrees and I was walking on the beach. Today it's in the 30's and sleeting. Got to love Virginia Beach. Really I have no complaints it's always just so interesting how fast and how much the weather changes around here.

Talked and texted with Happy girl yesterday. I'm starting to see some limitations to the conversation. She seems to have her sphere of talking and that's about it. I need to access if she'll go out of that or not cause if she won't this will die pretty damn fast. Today I'm waiting to hear from her when we'll be getting back together again.

Got my taxes back today and I knew I would owe money since I didn't pay anything last year. I was hoping I still had enough roll over from previous years, but it wasn't enough. So I'll be adding that to all the money I owe. Oye.

Still waiting to hear from the Geek Squad about my computer. I really need it back today since it's going to take me a while to load EVERYTHING back into it. Also I have to keep notes on everything I do until I get it back which sucks.

You Know ...

You know I didn't realize how small my old laptop was. I mean I use it at home all the time, but I brought it to work today to try to get a few things done. Sitting on my desk it looks like a toy.

It's a beautiful day and I have nothing to do. I'm going to try and finish up anything I can think of in the office and then get the hell out of here. The problem, I'm not quite sure what to do with myself. Maybe I'll go miniature golfing. I want to be outdoors since it's so beautiful.

Happy girl hurt her back after dancing Saturday night. So I offered to her to stop by and I'd help her out. She asked how much and I told her not to worry about it. I don't date patients. She may take me up on it and it'll be nice to see her. I'm still waiting to hear whether we'll get together on Tuesday or Thursday this week. Again it's a weird relationship since we talk so much, but we've only met once so I'm having a hard time gauging where we really are.

Inverse's daughter returns today so hopefully that will calm things down on the home front.

Their were two things I didn't backup. Music and pictures. The music kind of sucks, but the pictures are worse. I did lose some of my pictures with Eric and I lost all of the pictures I have for making presentations. The only good thing is that ACT will have been scrubbed from my system and my Outlook should work fine now.

Mixed Drinks

Ah Sundays. I love sleeping in on Sunday mornings especially when it's the only morning I can sleep late. Inverse let me know she was taking a shower this morning. I think afterwards she was walking around without a bra on since she needed to get it out of her car afterwards. It must have been a good show since my Landlord kept looking up from his paper. Unless we're talking I usually don't look at her. I'm very sensitive to being manipulated and automatically counter it.

I see that Happy girl and I can't have any serious texting. It always breaks down to being silly, so I called her and we talked for about 30 minutes before I told her I would call her again tonight. I'm seeing if I don't set the boundary we'll keep on talking and talking. Not that I don't enjoy it, but I do like to pace myself.

I visited my Mom today. Usually I try to avoid her lunch, but no such luck today. It was a bad eating day for her and the assistants were having a hard time getting her to eat anything. She was also more quiet today. She will always say something to my brother on the phone, but nothing today. I'm not quite sure because of all the going ons in the dining room. It's funny since most of the staff don't think she can talk because she doesn't talk to anyone. It's just sad.

Not much going on today. I'm still pondering what I'm going to do tomorrow. I have nothing on the books so I might make it a half day at the office. I might as well enjoy my time when I can.

As Dinner Conversations Go

It's been a few days since I've had dinner with Inverse. She worked the early shift today so she was home tonight before heading to the clubs to relax since her daughter is away this weekend. I know Inverse has a plan for me. I can see it in her eyes, it's just going to take time. Her "back/muscle" issues come up almost every time we eat dinner. However Landlord asked me straight out how much I charge which I thought hopefully would put the conversation to rest.

Inverse's next question to me was if I had a girlfriend. Can we go back to talking about your back? I said no since Happy girl and I aren't official and if I said yes to get her off my back I knew the Landlord would have been asking questions.

Anyway as she was getting ready to go out clubbing I don't remember how her and the Landlord got talking about relationships when she looked at me and said she didn't want to be single for the rest of her life. For some reason I felt like a deer in the headlights.

No offense to Inverse or anyone out there in there twenties. You have TIME. When you realize how long you're going to be on this planet. You got time.

For Inverse I know she doesn't like being single and wants someone to take care of her which compounds the problem. If she gets lucky tonight like she would like to I hope she is careful. She needs another child like she needs a hole in her head. I'm also glad my room is on the opposite side of the house from hers.

Happy Times

Well I'm happy to report that my patient showed up today which finally made a record week. Woohoo!

Okay I know you don't want to know about that, but my date with Happy girl. We met to play pool today and she was a very attractive woman. She's spunky and outspoken which I like. We played a bunch of games of pool and even had an old timer watch us for a while. Happy girl can talk and I think it's from growing up in a large family (8-9 kids). Afterwards we hoped in her truck while it warmed up to talk some more. Yeah that turned into over an hour conversation. I might have to kiss her more to limit the conversation.

The interesting thing is that it's hard to gauge how things are going since Happy girl will just talk about anything. We talked about family, sex, drinking, etc. She had a fun time and said she would call me tomorrow to schedule when we could get together again. I liked how she smelled and how soft she was. We talked about a few things we can do in the future. I did find out that I may need to get a prescription for Viagra since she has a high sex drive.

My only complaint on the day is Tech girl emailed me to ask about the deadline for membership dues and my doing a day early. I have to admit I'm starting to lose my temper with this stuff. a) I don't get paid to do this stuff, b) it's $5 pay and rejoin or don't I'm not really giving a shit. c) It just business, nothing personal

Happy Time

I got a surprise tonight. Happy girl called to make sure we were still going out tomorrow. I was going to text her tomorrow, but she preempted me. We had a few breaks, but we talked like 2 hours tonight. Happy girl can talk I found out. Nothing wrong with it. She's entertaining and forward which is a good thing. The funny thing is that when I went to call her back after dinner I accidentally called the Optometrist. I got her answering machine, but I have to make sure not to leave different women's numbers lying around if they have become undateable. My hope is that we work as well in person as we do on the phone. It was funny I had to actually end the conversation since it was 10 and I needed to start getting ready for bed.

Keep your fingers crossed. If this new patient shows up tomorrow I will finally break a record with 20 visits for a week. I make 19 a lot, but someone always reschedules or pulls a no show and it never happens. Will it happen tomorrow?

Dating Subplot

I talked to the Optometrist last night. It was a good reminder why I don't date that demographic. She told me she was divorced, but that is official 2/19. While I know she's not getting back with her ex. I could tell she was new to the dating world. She grilled my on all my dating history and why they ended. How I looked, what I did at the gym, etc. I felt like telling her there were no guarantees in life and that she was taking the fun part out of dating. I did enjoy talking to her, but anything more than a friendship would drive me nuts. She was also the first person to make me being comfortable being single a bad thing.

I played my subliminal CD all night long and I got a good night sleep finally. I'm tired today from my body relaxing, but I know I need to keep it up. A good reminder that if I don't talk about my problems, solutions will never show themselves.

Last night was the second time this week I've had a sexual dream about my ex. While we didn't have sex they felt sexual in nature. In some way I think they are finish business dreams. The first one she was just on my back and that was the first thing I thought of when I awoke. My ex was always on my back for something. Last night she was on my ass. The same analogy was drawn from it.

I'm looking forward to my date with Happy girl tomorrow. It will be the first time that I did an activity for a first date. I'll see how it goes. No expectations which is really good. I do like her philosophy that if not we can be friends which is great.

Still no one for Gran Torino Sunday with me. Getting a lot of "no's" though. Sunday is also the big day. The day I start kicking people out for non payment of dues. Monday I'll get the flood of payments and complaints. This week has been funny with all the letters from people I have no idea who they are until I open and see it's payment for the singles group.