Sad, Very Sad

Eric called me today after to school to clarify his message last night. My ex is too sick and won't be able to take him to the airport. I was very upset as was Eric. I was also very angry that my ex didn't call and tell me instead of making our son do it. It's not his responsibility, but I know she wants to avoid me like the plague. The last time she pulled shit like this I let her have it with both barrels and she didn't talk to me for a year afterwards. During that time her father brought Eric to me. The only thing that changed that was that he got to sick to do it.

I'll cancel the tickets later tonight in hopes that my ex will see what this is doing to Eric and get him to the airport. I don't want to wait forever with them since I can get about 30% of the money back which I can use next time. I want to bring him down after Christmas, but as always is this shit going to happen again. Like I was telling Paul, this is why I have a hard time getting excited to see Eric. I never know if it's truly going to happen until he's standing in front of me.

Start your engines

Last night was game night with the singles. Only a few people came out, but we had fun. The place was a bit noisy with the music playing so I didn't hear when Eric called. I had called him earlier in the evening. When I got out of there I called Asp first since I knew he was asleep and she would be going to bed soon. So we chatted a while and I try to pace myself since I know I can move quickly. With Asp I'm very comfortable so I have to be especially careful.

Now the Eric voice mail was disturbing. He was upset and may have been crying it was hard to tell. He asked if I could call him cause he was going crazy about something, but I couldn't tell what. So when I called I got nothing since the answering machine wouldn't pick up. I texted my ex for clarification, but didn't get and still haven't gotten a response. Asp asked if he was still coming and I told her yes. However that was turning the key since it wouldn't be the first time my ex pulls shit. This is like growing up again. I'm unable to get excited about future stuff cause I'm waiting for shit to happen. I would like to say that she would call to tell me their is a problem, but she has had Eric tell me in the past. So I have no clue. I figure I'll hear from him when he gets out of school today. Meanwhile it's a lot of surrender on my part so I don't get a head full of anger on something I have no clue what's going on.

Date 3

Note to self: date women that sleep late in the morning. I slept over Asp's last night and 5:30 comes way too early when you stay up to midnight. She's a good sleeping companion which I find most people aren't. Whether you know it or not I'm a very physical person. So a lot of my affection is through physical acts like hair brushing or massaging. Asp is also physical so it works out well. However lying next to her this morning while I was massaging her hand in our attempts to get up. I remembered after my ex and I got married how all my touching became so irritating. It was a little healing thing this morning to know that there is nothing wrong with me. That my form of affection is okay.

The rest of the night was fun. Asp made pork chops which were delicious. Her son was more okay with me being there. We made out like teenagers for hours on end treating her son as the parent should he find us. Asp did ask if the bites were painful which I responded yes. However they did make me feel out of control which I become sexually aggressive which Asp likes. She has promised to be gentler.

I'm hoping she is able to get her all her schoolwork done by Sunday so we can see each other that night. If not it'll be another week until she gets back from Florida.

Some Fathering

I hate being torn sometimes. I know how I would act if he was with me all the time, but since he doesn't I do fold. Eric has a science investigation project this week. He choose pine cones and his teacher gave him 2 questions to investigate. He needed help getting the information. So I looked it up online for him. I realize that I'm doing the investigating and he's just putting the information together. For me this only happens twice a year that I can help him with his schooling. Even though it's something he should be doing I'm just happy to be part of it.

Asp did have a good suggestion with Eric. Here she can access her son's school grades from the Internet to keep abreast of how he's doing. I need to track down to see if I can do the same since it would allow me to be more in his life.

The Challenge

Well it was a fun and interesting night with Asp who I really should rename Jaws. She does like to cook and she made stuffed peppers which were yummy. Her son wasn't quite sure what to make of me in the house, but it went well. Asp knows I don't really watch normal TV so she wanted to show me some of her favorites. I think we only got through one show before it Asp through down the gauntlet of how sexually crazy she could make me since her son was there and we weren't going to be doing anything. When it comes to sex I'm rarely a passive person so I took up the challenge. We were two freaking pools of sweat after a few hours. She wanted me to stay and sleep there, but I wasn't ready for that with her son there.

Did I forget to mention that Asp likes to bite. The damage report this morning for someone that doesn't bruise are 3-4 on my chest. She was upset since I left a few marks on her neck. So I promised to keep them out of plain sight tonight. We decided to get together again tonight since this maybe the last time until the end of the month. Sunday is still up in the air and after that it won't be until she gets back from Florida the following week.

The funny thing while we lying around cooling off was that we both thought the other had initiated this dating thing. I thought with the texting and she thought with my sexual innuendos which I'm use to doing with her. So it was interesting, but we were both thankful for getting together.

Cold Shower

I think I'm going to need a cold shower before going over to Asp to have dinner. A break in my day and too many sexual hints playing in my mind from out texting today have run a muck in my mind. Now if her son wasn't going to be there I would care. However with him there I can't do over half the things I have in my mind.

Other than that it's been a slow day. I did pick up flowers for tonight. I was surprised that the flowers were mostly spring colors instead of fall.

Biting the 21st Century

As I've mentioned before I'm a fast mover. So when I hung up with Asp last night I was wondering if I was again moving very fast with communicating with her everyday after our 1 date. Normally I don't do that until a few dates have passed, but since Asp and I know each other for most of this year it just slid in to place nicely. I let my thoughts relax when she texted me today to see how I was doing. We caught up a little and joked especially about her biting. Personally I like an assertive woman in bed with a splash of aggression. It makes it exciting. I have a funny feeling that Asp will have me pushing some envelopes. On the non-sexual side it will be good to see her tonight.

I took another step into the 21st century today by ordering a Bluetooth for my Blackberry. My old ear piece doesn't fit and the one that came with is more for listening to music. It was funny cause my new daily reader I got for next year (yes I started early) reminded me of a year or so ago when I was watching my friend John use his Blackberry. It was something so beyond me. I don't mean technology, but worthiness to have. That realization really gave me a kick in the ass to get rid of this poverty mentality that I grew up with. Now all this stuff has become so much a part of my life and business I don't know how I could do with out.

Dating 101

I'm trying to get this week jump started. Like when people work out. If you break the routine many are lost. So with the storm many of my patients had their schedule affected and I'm trying to get them back on track. It's always a hard time.

I got to talk to Asp last night on the phone as we progressed to talking instead of texting. She has a interesting habit that she quickly explained about her phone habits. Asp yawns a lot when she's on the phone for some reason. The rate changes. At one point it seemed to be every 10 seconds and at other's a few minutes would go by. It's pretty funny. I finally remembered what that last connection to my ex was. Elton John. When she gave me those tidbits of information in a tight ball. I laughed on the inside.

I tell you I might describe myself as spontaneous in a relationship, but it's how I just let my feelings drive me. Looking at it, its probably not the greatest way to go. I like making decisions instead of being unconscious monkey looking for his next food pill. It's probably why my relationships move fast since I'm wanting to do a lot of things together fast. The excitement is there, but the deep roots aren't. So I'm trying to learn my lessons this time around. As usual I get a lot from the women I date.

I'm slowly conquering my Blackberry. It's taking time, but I'm getting there. I wish I could personalize my calender a little more, but what I have now isn't bad. I can see why they call it crackberry. All the fun stuff is done very well. I just use more of the business stuff which is pretty bland.

Habits

I was surprised that L picked up that I was off today. I'm a man of habits and mine have been off for many days now. The storm started it all, but what really kicked it into high gear was getting a new phone and spending hours and do mean hours getting it to do what I want. Server guy was able to help me sync my Outlook and I'm getting the hang of everything else, but it's taken time. Time that I spend on doing my normal stuff and when I can't do that I get stressed. Even my date with Asp knocked me more off. I was expecting 3 maybe 4 hours tops together. 8 hours later and my day was gone. I'm not complaining since I had a good time, but I would have planned better.

On the subject of Asp, she's the first women to have a preteen child that I've dated. Any other woman I've dated has had kids in the 20's or older teenagers that didn't need babysitting. So this is going to take some getting use to. Scheduling our time for when she can get a babysitter. It's a whole new world for me and will take some getting use to. Since I'm pretty spontaneous. The good from all this is that it will teach me patience in a relationship. Either that or I'll go insane. Asp did invite me over Tuesday night to have dinner with her son. I've met the boy before, but in all of this I'm letting her make the rules with her son. I'm not quite sure what her rules are on this topic. I'll be happy to see her since I'll have Eric Saturday. She'll be gone all next week and the first weekend in December I'll be in Williamsburg for a seminar. So the pace of this budding relationship is going to be different than I'm use to.

L and I got to do our hike today which was perfect since it was finally sunny and the temp topped off at about 70. I got to see a lot of the destruction caused by the storms which was quite severe on the beach. Most of the bulkheads for the homes were completely destroyed.

Snake Charming

Last night's Meet & Greet got cancelled due to lack of power at the place. My intention is to reschedule for next month and make it a holiday event. So Savant, Asp, Saturn girl, and I got together to play games and eat Chinese food. As always we had a blast. However I was trying to gauge Asp with what I thought of her and I wasn't getting a big chemistry vibe. So I didn't have any high hopes for today's date.

The storm had closed the museum we were going to go to so I suggested the place where we first me many months ago. We went to play pool. On the drive there the first thing I realized was how relaxed I felt around her. We both stunk at pool so we had a fun time, but conversation was low. Afterwards I asked if she was hungry and we grabbed some dinner. It was there when the conversation really took off. While I've hung out with Asp numerous times, this was the first one on one time. I liked that she had worked to come out of her social shell and didn't want to go back. She was working on her business degree and has plans to open her own business. Asp has strong values that she fights for in the community which I was very impressed with. On the flip side I had a moment that I joked with myself that I was dating my ex. Just a few random facts came up together like her past panic attacks, astigmatism, and I can't for the life of me remember what the cherry on the cake was.

Anyway after dinner I excused myself to go to the bathroom. While using the facilities I thought about what I wanted to do. Usually I go with that strong flood of emotion with someone which wasn't here with Asp. However their was a good calm feeling that I liked and never experienced before. So I decided to go forward with this relationship.

While I knew Asp liked me it was hard reading her body language and cues. So while we were hanging out at her place talking I didn't know how she would react if I kissed her. I took it slow since I've gotten many different responses over the years. I shouldn't have bothered. Boy did she kiss me back. Then she found out that I was ticklish which prompted her to tickle me. In retaliation I just kissed her more. This quickly escalated to me trying to restrain and kiss her at the same time she was trying to tickle and bite me. Good thing I don't bruise easy. Now I know why we joked about the handcuffs.