The Dating Game

As my friend Paul will say I'm anal, but in a good way. Whether you know it or not I keep a dating chart of all the women I date. If we went out 2 or more times you land yourself on the chart. Your name and your blog nickname go on it. The second part is so I know who the hell they are after a while. After that I just list all their good (green highlights) and bad (red highlights) aspects as adjectives. It allows me to see how I'm doing. Am I still being attracted to that bad trait? Am I make progress up the dating ladder? The biggest thing is that black and white is a lot more accurate. Adding Asp to the list today I looked over the last few women I dated. Facebook, Dancer, Happy, and Blondie all had a lot more red than green.

I knew taking time off from dating last year would help. I have to admit I went out with most of them for their looks and found nothing beyond it. I have to admit Asp was borderline herself so I have to watch myself again. I'm not looking to get right back out there, but when I do I want to keep going up instead of taking the bat pole down.

It's funny cause I would never admit it, but I guess I'm a sucker for a pretty face. Every few women there is one that I remember was a real looker and their is all this red under her name.

Do you do anything to monitor your dating?

I'd Like Some Wiiiiiinnnnneeee

So I'm becoming a marketing fiend this week. Hey it helps pay the bills. Anyway I've been trying to figure out what my next patient appreciation is for July. I still haven't found anything small for June yet. The funny thing is that even though most people don't come, many are asking what the next event will be. Anyway talking to my coach he suggested wine tasting. Now that works especially since I don't drink. Why this works is because I can focus on everyone and I know how I can get it down for free. I figured I could do it with Ar lady since her clientele and mine match up. They're mostly female and I know you ladies like your wine. My thought was that Blondie does the Traveling Vineyard and I could get her to do it. However since we no longer go out would this be advisable. I was waffling in indecision, but as soon as I typed one letter here I knew it would be a bad idea. Well not bad, but more chance of a problem happening. So I called someone else to find me someone.

Today will hopefully be the last day of the heatwave. It was only 2 days long, but 90+ degree heat is way too hot for me. I hate running the AC in my car when gas is high so I'm not a happy camper this week.

Why Won't You Please, Please, Please Help Me?

Well in the last 24 hours I've asked for help. I asked my patient to bring over his code scanner for my car since I couldn't unhook my battery to do it manually. Then this morning I asked Phili if she would be in my area today for a ride to work after I dropped the car off.

I had to admit I had a lot of internal resistance to doing this. My couch has been on me about this in that I have a perspective of things getting worse if I ask for help or that I'm just going to not get it. So I'm looking at this since this is a major thing in interpersonal relations. Growing up for me was like Lord of the Flies and it's what my marriage became. Unable to depend on others I always took care of it myself. So I know I have a high self reliance, but I still have problems with interdependence with others.

Speaking of Phili. Oye! The Landlord had to leave early this morning to help a friend give there son a ride to school. Every morning Phili blow dries her hair like 2-3 times, but always behind closed doors. This morning she did it with her door open. I don't know if this is some form of passive aggressive nature, is she that much of an air head, or what? Something needs to be done about this.

I am happy to say my car was inspected with no problems. Actually the place was empty so I just sat around for it.

Blondie returned my text stating that everything went well yesterday, but she was tired from the anesthesia. Hopefully she will let me know what happens.

Thursday Tidbits

Over the past few months I've had request for pictures of the people I blog about. While I do have the digital camera I just never think to take pictures. I believe Marty has the eye to pic out who is who anytime I do post something. Since these people are a big part of my life I'll try to get pictures for posting.

I did call my patient to use his code clearer for my car. I hate when mechanics use there pneumatic wrench on everything. I can't for the life of me unhook my battery to manually reset it. It's so bad I'm starting to strip the nut and stripped nuts are the worse.

I've had two of my patients interested in talking about my weight loss program. So for day 1 it's going good. I just need more exposure with it. My online ads for it will hopefully hit the web tomorrow.

Blondie went in for her procedure today. I just texted her some hugs and good wishes. Hopefully she will let me know how it went.

As always the singles surprise me with trying to join back up after being removed for non-payment. They act like nothing ever happened. I guess I probably take it a little too personal.

Double Standard

You know I thought terms like "sweety", "sugar", "honey" and more had gone the way of the dinosaur when dealing with people in business. Well actually for the male population it has unless you want a sexual harrassment suit. However for women it's still okay. I get these terms all day long as I interact with other businesses. I know it's not professional, but I don't care. However it does always hit me if I said something like that there would be a problem.

I did text Blondie today to see how she was doing and to wish her well on her procedure tomorrow. Also to let me know how it goes. She thanked me for the well wishes and asked how I was doing. I still like her and I know it we'll be friends, so I'll still keep in contact especially with this stuff going on.

Centering Myself

As always I need to stop myself and ask how I'm feeling and experience it. I'm sad about it not working out with Blondie. Also I'm trying to have acceptance about listening to actions more than words. While Blondie may say a lot a great things about us and our interactions, her actions while we are together say another story. This can be the insanity zone as the two realities collide. I tell you it's going to be hard to add her to my dating chart to see what was good and bad since many things were just "chemistry".

Phili admitted last night that she's very flighty which I pretty much knew. However I didn't know if she was nuts too. She has a good sense of humor as we talked last night. The weirdest thing is that all her dresses and shorts are really tiny. I mean she has the legs to work it, but I almost asked were her pom poms were last night.

I'm off dating again. Not that I have an end date to it, but I know I need some time again. In my head dating is not optional at the moment and that's never a good thing. Like I said the other day it's when I make bad choices. The good thing is that I know I caught a few women's attention yesterday when I was out. Also I thought Gym girl had given up on me, but she tries so hard to get eye contact with me when I hand my membership card over. She's just not my type.

And it Ends with Laughter

So I finally got to get together with Blondie today at Starbucks. We grabbed drinks and since the weather had gotten so great we sat outside to talk and play a game. Lifestories always works in these situations and we had a good time. Conversation flowed very nicely, but I don't think there is any chemistry for Blondie. With her sickness they are doing tests this week to biopsy her lymph nodes to see what's going on. So we had a fun time for 2 hours before she needed to head back to get some more work done. When I got the cheek I knew what was going on. I'm sad, but okay knowing what's going on.

The Landlord was out tonight so Phili and I got to hang out. I tell you she wears some short outfits. Today's is like a tennis skirt. If you bend over you're giving the world a show. I know since I've almost had that show several times already.

The Roller Coaster of Darkness

Since many of you like hearing a guy's point of view here it is.

As many of you know I always let a woman know if I'm not interested. Even if I'm not looking forward to it, which I never am, I do it. Why? Well if I want to be treated a certain way I better be treating others the same way. Personally I'm okay if you're not interested. I may not like it, but I'm better for you telling me.

However when I'm not told and I have to guess it really tears a hole in me. It's like being a kid again and feeling like I just don't matter. My self-worth does a toilet spin. It's in this crazy time that I do stupid stuff and find crazier women. Red happened in this time as did the VP. Both stories my friends love, but I can do without the memories.

Anyway what makes me share all this. Well not hearing back from Blondie. Like I said perception is every thing. With the possibility of this crashing before it got off the ground and her not saying anything was bothering me. However I do want to thank Melissa for saying calm down. I did and I texted Blondie to see how she was doing. We went back and forth. Finally she did call me and we'll hang tomorrow for some Starbucks. She informed me that she'll be very busy until April 15th doing taxes. I know how it is. However for me I do like open communication so I know what's happening.

Turn the Corner

It's interesting how a change of perception can change your world. I texted Blondie last night to see if she was up for a talk, but got no response. Still nothing this morning. I probably won't contact her today to see if I get any response which will tell me a lot. I was saving this weekend in hopes of us getting together. So I have nothing scheduled to do so I think I'm going to make an event for tomorrow to cover me. I hope I'm wrong, but for some reason I don't think so.

I tell you for some reason I have one bad week a month. This week was it and it always takes me down a few notches. With a few extra bills next month I don't need to behind the 8 ball. So my anxiety is growing.

A Shift in the Winds

Maybe I'm just being paranoid, but I have this feeling that Blondie and I won't get off the ground. While talking is still going well she is doing more things while she is talking to me. I knew last Saturday when we met that she couldn't keep her focus long. I was going to take offense at it, but saw that was the way she is. While I have no hard evidence it's just a gut instinct. I'm not quite sure if it's from past experiences in which the more phone talk I have with someone without seeing them it never lasts. Although that has always been if we never met. So we'll see.

Happy hour went very well tonight. 12 members showed up and the place gave us a nice long table to sit at. It was the first place to really give up some place. I've eaten there before so I knew the food was good. It was mostly new to recent members which was good. I heard some of the new ones say that they saw that and figured it would be a good event to come to. They still have smoking there, but it wasn't too heavy. I left just before the band started so I don't know who stayed for the show.

People were asking about my events. In any endeavor I do I figure out what I want to get out of it. For me I want to bond more with my patients. In doing so I've networked with fellow business people to give them a chance to expand their business so that makes it free for my patients. What the event really gives me is a reason to call people who aren't active at the moment. People may not call for an appointment even though they have been thinking about it until they talk to me. Since they know I did the event and I invited them they know they care. So really the big numbers are more for my network alliance people. However a good amount of people is needed to have fun. I'm just surprised people pass up a free massage.

Ticket to Ride

Well Blondie got no satisfaction from the doctor only tests ordered. I offered her some needle less acupuncture to see if it would help, but she decided against it. The good news is she got half a turkey sandwich down today. So when I'll talk to her tonight I'll see if we can get together this weekend. Even if it's Starbucks and a game to get to know each other. Sitting here with my wheels spinning isn't doing much for me.

I'm surprised my patient appreciation is being lightly attended. The free chair massage you think would bring people in. However I though the women would like the free make over, trying fashionable clothes on, and glamour shots. Hey I offered. I still have a few more people to call.

Alone Time

Blondie wanted to know how come I was home tonight since I've been out every night this week. That was pretty much my answer. I wanted one night to relax and get some laundry done. Hey there is always a method to my madness. Actually I'm just very good with my time. I know with my personal time I make very good choices on the best way to use it so I get a lot done and enjoy it along the way. Anyway Blondie added grits to her diet today along with crackers and Gatorade. She's seeing the doctor tomorrow to hopefully get some help on fully getting rid of this. Blondie says that she's had it off and on since December. Oye. I tell you I'm missing her and would like to see her. However the way she sounded today I don't think that will happen over the weekend which is a bummer.

The Landlord seems to be out of the house every Thursday so it's me and Phili tonight. We had dinner together and she told me her game plan for getting on her feet. She has her full time job and starts her second job tomorrow night as a waitress. Then next weekend she's starting a third job. Hey she hopes to have all her bills paid off and money in the bank in 3 months. I wish her well. Hopefully the lack of sleep won't cause a psychotic episode. I tell you she must like showing off her legs since she's always got on a short skirt or daisy duke type shorts.

Correction: Phili wasn't crying this morning she was laughing her ass off. She's doing again tonight while watching TV.

The Dead Zone

Ugh, it's a dead day in the office today. I think I'm going to cut out early and head on home to do some laundry. I've made as many phone calls as I'm going to do today. All work is done here and my mind is starting to wander.

Last night's singles event went well even though we had about 60% absent. I think I'll skip the place until they get some new exhibits there. Last night was my third time there in the last 6 weeks. I need a break.

Blondie and I had a fun conversation last night. Hopefully she will be better soon so we can go out. I'm trying to keep out talks to about 45 minutes and for us to always leave on a high mark. I texted her this morning, but haven't heard anything yet. I'll call her tonight after dinner and see how she's doing. It's weird without face to face interaction how things slow down.

Not quite sure what's up with Phili. She was crying in her room this morning. In talking to her she lives with a lot of denial and fantasy holding things together. What caused this all I'm not quite sure. If you ever hear about a brunette going postal it may be her. Tomorrow night she starts her second job as a waitress so she'll be out of the place more often.

Sadness Grinds In

When I got up this morning there was a message from Blondie hoping I didn't take her text as a blow off and that she wasn't feeling well. Then the text arrived and it was nothing. However I know when you like someone you worry and if you're not feeling well, it's only worse. I have to admit it's nice knowing someone likes me which can be a major drain of worry. Anyway we just decided to do the date another day since she's still not feeling good. So I'll call her later when I get home from the museum. Since people asked, Blondie has a North Carolina accent. Like she says all white redneck.

The office is grinding down to a halt today. The funny thing is that is that I've heard the same thing from friends about this week. Some in chiropractic and others in different jobs. Today I'm doing some ghoul work. I'm looking for chiropractors going under or have gone under recently to get their patient lists. So far nothing is coming up.

I have come to understand that Phili is a wounded bird. She may be a nice person and will do well as a housemate, but she's got a few screws loose. That wounded bird syndrome detection is big in me and I know to stay far away from her.

Inverse will be moving out this weekend which will be good as tension levels in the house will drop. The funny thing with her is that she buys these movies that everyone pans. First it was Max Paine. Last night it was Twilight. Oye. I don't call her Inverse for nothing.

House Calls

I called Blondie last night. She was wondering who it was since I was calling from my land line. I did inform her that she was now one of the select few who had it. Anyway it was great talking to her and I love listening to her accent on the phone. I tell you it was good to laugh a lot while talking with someone. Blondie admitted that it had been a very long time since she enjoyed such easy conversation. I told her I wasn't looking to ask anyone out, but I knew there was something there after we met. Her two cats got to say hi to me on the phone which was pretty funny. The male has a deep voice that is easily heard over the phone. I have to admit I watched the clock as we talked. I knew she had a bunch of things to do and I had a few before I went to bed and I know how we talk. 45 minutes flew by before we knew it. So we scheduled to meet for sushi tomorrow night at our favorite place. I'll just leave the singles event a little early.

It was interesting. Blondie made a comment that many do that they like that I do cheap events. Hey no one wants to break the bank, least of all me. Especially since I do many events a week. She did want to know how I handle everything time wise if we continued to date which is always a good sign. I tell you I haven't been this happy and excited about someone in a long while.

The Spirit is Weak

Oh it's Monday and another week of working it. You know I want to be able to coast sometime although I know you only coast down hill, never up. I know how it is in other parts of my life. It's a new day and time to start at the beginning and work my way up. It's the same with the business. However today I'm tired and wish for the mindless work of a normal job and a consistent paycheck. Yes it's my day to whine.

While in this area perception is 9/10ths of the law. I feel like I'm not doing anything, but I've seen my patients, made phone calls, took care of my Mom's stuff, and marketed. It's just quiet here and I have a stack of paperwork that needs to be done.

I did call other patients that had just started to see how they were doing and if they had any other questions. One did and as usual didn't want to bother me with a phone call. So I was able to straighten him out over the phone.

I'll give Blondie a call tonight to see if Wednesday is a go. The funny thing is that we singles are going to the Chrysler museum then. I think this will be date #4 there. If I ever write a book about dating I might have to make a chapter to that place since it works so well.

Some Thoughts

Thinking more on my date with Blondie, I realized in a way we're both the same. More joking when with a group, but a serious side when one on one. German girl made a good comment on the whole thing. She said that all the touching Blondie did when we were with everyone else indicated that I was hers. Touch is possession. I remember when we went to Gordon Beirsch and we slid into the booth. My friend Kathy was going to sit next to me, but took one look at Blondie and sat on the other side. I remember being out a long time ago after L and I broke up and we ran into each other in a club. She hugged and touched me a whole bunch. I theorized that she was marking me as hers even though she was there with another guy.

The other thing she said was that if she touched me during the date I would have taken it as a come on which I have to admit I would. That by not touching me it would slow things down to get to know each other. I have to admit I am taking it slow in my mind. When we were trying to set up our sushi date. I was okay with it being next weekend. Blondie was more intense on having it happen soon.

The extra incentive Blondie brings to my life is that extra kick in the ass to get the business going. My coach always tries to get me to focus on something that business will bring me so I'll work it hard. Right now I'm doing it to be the star pupil that I seem to fit into. However I would rather have the focus be on me so that it's self perpetuating.

Anyway since we are getting together Wednesday I'll call her tomorrow night to catch up with Blondie.

We All Need a Human Touch

Well after finishing up the record morning in the office that being busiest week and Saturday. I gave Blondie a call. She like me has many things going on at once and I had just caught her before she opened her new toy from Home Depot. She loves her power tools and creating and building stuff. Wow I could be in love here. Anyway we agreed on Starbucks so I suggested the fireplace one which she liked since she was cold.

I was thrown when she arrived since I was waiting for the men's room. I turned around and there she was. So I don't remember how I greeted her. Anyway we plopped down in front of the fireplace to warm up then after a while made ourselves comfortable on the couch.

During our date, a 78 year old lady kept stopping by to talk. She was cute, but at times a little bit of a pain with a first date.

We covered all the general topics and it was interesting how many things we had in common. The same amount of years dating and married to our exs. Both worked in the jewelry industry. I enjoy her North Carolina accent or redneck as she describes it. The whole date was a lot of fun, but I had to call it an end 4 1/2 hours later. Yes you read right. We were both floored that we had been talking that long. We also agreed it had been a lot of fun. So I asked her out for sushi during the week so we're going to try Wednesday. This happens to be a busy week for both of us so it may not happen.

The weird/interesting thing for me is physical touch. If a woman is touchy with me she gets extra stars. If there is none it takes away. For the last two nights at the events Blondie has been physical with me and even had to stop herself a few times. Today there was nothing. She even pulled back a few times if she accidentally touched me. Blondie seemed okay if I touched her when we were joking. So I don't know what to make of it. However I was happy I asked her out.

For What Ails You

Well Blondie joined us last night for the Funny Bone. It was a hilarious show. My cheeks were hurting from all the laughing. It was a little weird interacting with her since we haven't gone out yet, but we like each other. While she hates smoke like I do she's a bit of a drinker which raises an eyebrow. Our waiter got the bills all wrong so we had to figure it out. Since I don't drink I forget how much hard liquor is. Holy shit, Blondie had 2 drinks and it was like twenty something dollars. WTF? If I get a bill for twenty something just for me there had to have been a really thick steak in there somewhere.

Afterwards we all went over to Gordon Biersch for drinks. I kid you not, our waitress was shorter than Eric. She looked like she was 13 years old. It was freaking weird every time she came up to the booth. It was made worse that it was raised so all you would see is her head poking over the table.

Blondie and I are getting together later after I get off of work. It will be a record week with some to spare and a record Saturday. I'm staying an extra hour to make sure the record is broken so I have 2 extra visits. So far she's passed the litmus test if I would have sex with her. So communication will come next and we'll see what happens.

Bouncy ... Bouncy ... Bouncy

I'm still keeping my record week even though people keep cancelling and rescheduling. Someone else has been calling to fill in the gap, but I'm at the line now. Hopefully I can keep it for 24 more hours.

So I asked the girl out from last night and she said yes. So now for a nickname. I think I'll call her Blondie since all her pictures show her as a blond, her hair is dark now and I think natural. Also I think it looks a lot better this way. Hopefully she'll come to the Funny Bone tonight and we can set up a time. I'm pleasantly happy.

My Mom's stuff seems to be draining my bank account. Her place was suppose to take over her AARP, but for some reason her account is still being drawn from. The one that is empty now since we transferred all the money to them. So I'm waiting to her from them to resolve this issue.

The good/bad thing about being busy is the phone is ringing, constantly at times. I had 2 meetings back to back today and the phone just keep ringing. In between I had to make all the return calls. Grumble.