Legacy

Phili when she was living with us talked up the Birdcage so much. All her talk about the movie peeked my interest so I put it on hold at the library. I think they were missing it so its taken a long time to get it. So I was very surprised yesterday when they said they had it for me. I watched it last night and I have to admit it was a good movie. Mouth wanted to know why I was laughing so much.

Well it might be a cool, damp, cloudy fall day, but it's dry and that's what I wanted. Today the singles and I are headed over to Stockley Gardens art festival. I believe the twice a year festival is one of the reasons to live in Virginia or some such crap information. I have to admit I enjoy going every time it's around. However bad weather has hampered the event for the last year or so. The other big thing of the festival is to get a sense of where Tango girl's head is at. She will have her daughter today since she said she is bringing a guest. Hopefully I'll find out why I'm getting so much more attention from her.

Tonight is my friend's Halloween party. It's not a single's event, but many of the members will be going. I was surprised to see that certain individuals weren't going. By that I mean people that were dating and now aren't going to events together.

Sick Sad World

I almost feel like I'm juggling women today. It's Phili's birthday today so I texted her a greeting this morning. I got a thanks back, but who knows if she even knows who sent it. However I knew it was today and I still had her number in my phone so I figured I'd be nice since I know she usually is alone.

No claws came out at the meeting of L and the Photographer. The Photographer joked that we were strolling later on FB. L welcomed her on FB an mentioned the rain and to have a great weekend. Who the hell knows what it all means.

My ex called and left a message about did I want to try and do the flying this month or in August. I texted back that I would see what I could find out. With it being only a few weeks away it maybe hard to pull off. I'd rather text than talk. I know myself it's WAY too easy to fall into old habits that I don't want to do.

I'll be out of the house most of the weekend with 4 different singles events that I'm running. Yes I know I'm probably stretching myself thin on this one, but hey it'll be fun. Anyway Single's son and younger brother will be staying with us at the house while she works for extra money.

Free Falling

Well I have 24 more hours till I'm on the radio. It'll be an experience, but I still don't have what I'm going to talk about planned out. I had hoped to drive people to my website, but I'm having a hard time getting a email sign up button installed. I use to use the websites, but it's not worth the money. So I'm using another site, but for some reason they can't hook it up do to the flash. Whether this is true or it's sour grapes is beyond me. So I might just be talking about the office.

I'm teaming up with HHC lady to try and get more from the senior market in the area. While it's not a lot of money for me, it would help fill the holes in my day until I can install higher paying customers. For HHC lady it's her main business so she wants a doctor on her team. My problem is that I can sense she's codependent and as always I love a crazy chick. I'm happy to say that she's married so I have a natural barrier against asking her out.

Speaking of crazy chicks I do miss Phili. I realized this last night. While she was very wacky, we did get along very well and joking was big between us. So I miss that camaraderie at night.

Doing all this extra networking by going out to meet business people in the neighborhood had tired me out. So I think I'm going to leave work early to grab a Starbucks and veg out. So I can go home and think of my script for tomorrow.

Phili Exposed

In cleaning up her room the Landlord found Phili's expired registration for her car. When I had asked what her last name was a while ago he couldn't fully remember and I never followed up. So seeing the registration I saw her last name and Googled it. I was surprised how much stuff had her name. I know she did a bunch of plays, but she did some kind of movie in Philly so her name is on every movie site out there. I even found little videos of her acting. Boy was she young looking then which wasn't that long ago. What I did find that was interesting that I didn't know about, but the Landlord knew some was when she took her son to Florida. I guess the custody agreement said the child couldn't be taken out of state. She was arrested by the FBI and given 5 years probation. From what I could get is in that time she wasn't able to see her son. It's also what started her moving around. Interesting stuff.

Lawn boy is suppose to be getting his key to the house today. I haven't met him yet, but he's 25 and from Massachusetts. He's given up on his business degree and is working landscaping now. He offered to work minimum wage on the yard to be taken off his rent. The Landlord said that was a big thing in deciding if he would be accepted or not. He'll be taken Phili's old room so I have a neighbor again.

The Long and Winding Day

I'm tired. I spent the first half of my day in meetings. First up was my usual Tuesday BNI meeting. It went well. Do you remember the character Pat from the old SNL bits. Well "Pat" walked into our meeting today. I held this comment in, but I had to share it before I had an aneurysm with it.

Right afterwards I had to zoom over to another meeting across the city. It was a seminar on Constant Contact which I use with my patients and associates. The interesting thing about being a chiropractor or maybe its just me is that I know people from there backs. Hey it's what I have conversations with during treatment. I mention this since as I was walking in I spotted one of my business neighbors from the back of her head. The bigger surprise was when I'm sitting down during the seminar and I notice up a few rows the back of the head of Aroma girl. I'm not quite sure if she ever noticed me, but I did notice her. I had to admit I felt a little uncomfortable. Although after I talked to someone about it I realized I didn't have anything to feel uncomfortable about.

Aroma girl was the first woman I dated for short period of time after my separation from my ex. She ended up dumping me since I wanted to wait on having sex. Yes I know me. Actually I think this is why sometimes I move fast nowadays.

Anyway I ended up leaving early so I could pick up a physician's scale for $20. It was a steal and I was happy. I then raced back to the office to see a new patient who had forgotten there appointment. She works in a doctor's office so I had hoped this wouldn't happen, but it did. I was able to reschedule her later in the day. However then all my patients were back to back and I couldn't get to eat. What made it worse was my last patient was late.

So I ended up hurrying out of the office to meet the singles for Gran Torino. I've been wanting to see this movie for a while and it was great. Even old Clint Eastwood still packs a wallop. It may have been a $1 movie, but boy did they screw me over on food. With tip I ended up spending $15 for a coke and wings. WTF.

Anyway there was no 3rd letter for Phili or cops banging on the door for her. I was surprised that she left as many clothes here as she did. Besides some personal affects.

Breaking News

Hmmm, let me think how should I state this.... should I relate how it played out or should I just get to the point? I'll go for the latter. Phili is gone. Shocked huh? Yeah I was. When I got home tonight I asked the Landlord if he had heard if had heard from her. So he pulled out two letters. Friday she had called and told the Landlord that she was going to McLean and wouldn't be back till Monday. She had called me and that same night asking if she left her hair dryer plugged in and asked a few questions about dinner. Anyway the first envelope had her key and was postmarked in Charolettesville on Friday which is no where near McLean. Oh yeah there was no note. However the second letter which was post marked Louisville, Kentucky on Saturday said that she wouldn't be back, that she would send the money owed, and that everything was okay. Yeah right, lol. The weird thing is that she left stuff here. While not much, she didn't have much to begin with.

So the Landlord is thinking of going only guys in the house again. However before that he's thinking of going to visit his family again. So that would give me the place to myself for a few weeks.

Well for me at least one problem has been solved.

Phili Free

When I got home tonight the Landlord told me that Phili wasn't eating dinner with us, but Inverse's daughter would be. No biggie, but when I got upstairs I saw her toothbrush was gone. Could she be gone for the weekend? When I asked the Landlord, he confirmed that she went up to see her bf (?) in DC. So I thought I was free this weekend until she called me to see if she left her hair dryer plugged in her room. It was no where to be seen. I answered questions about dinner and the such and then she was gone. Even a couple of hundred miles away and we're still talking.

It was a relaxing night. I ended up chatting with L on FB most of the night. We set up a hike for next Thursday after work. I don't remember how it came up, but she thanked me for brushing her hair while we were dating. I remember she use to fall asleep in my arms while I was doing it. I was surprised that she thanked me. I offered to do it for her anytime since I love brushing hair. She offered her driveway for me to park anytime I went down to the beach.

Crazy Is

With all that's going on with Phili I've been asked many times what's my thing with crazy chicks. I forget that I've been blogging for years and many people haven't been reading that long. The thing is my Mom was nuts as was my ex wife. Dealing with crazy women is like a pacifier for me. While I'll end up with diaper rash from it, it is a comfortable place. When my ex and I broke up our marriage counselor told me that there would be no way I would go from my ex to a healthy relationship. I've lived by those words over the last 4-5 years and 60-70 women later. I can spot the craziness a mile away. It's still very attractive and probably always will. Just nowadays I have a choice if I want to enter that insane world again. It's how the Destroyer got her name. She's very attractive, active, and I know she's crazy as a loon. While I haven't seen anything super tangible, I've seen little things that set off alarms inside me. If I lived in the same space as her I would be talking about her everyday instead of Phili.

The funny thing is also how I perceive things. I'm attracted to nurturers even though I've never really dated one. I bring this up as I compare Inverse and Phili. Inverse had a very sexual body and pretty much offered to sleep with me. However knowing she just uses people didn't make her attractive to me. While Phili is unbalanced and a attractive athletic body she is also a caring person. So she is more attractive to me. Not quiet sure where I'm going with this now except that I'm starving and need food.

Urgent

Relaxing last night, reading one of my business books. It talked about urgency which is something my coach always talks about and something I lack most of the time. I can be impatient, but a sense of urgency is missing and I know it. One of the exercises what to take the average life expectancy and minus your age to see what you have left. I pretty much have 30 years. That didn't give me any sense of urgency, just depression. Shit! I'm way over the mid way point. So far that technique isn't working for me.

It was interesting last night. After Phili (who L calls Glenn Close) finished dinner she came upstairs and she started opening my door before she stopped and then knocked. I'll have to watch her over the next few days to make sure boundaries are in place.

They're Coming to Take Me Away

I'm a pretty solid guy and few things shake me. Well Phili just shook me. She got home just as the Landlord and I were finishing dinner (more to follow on that). So she followed me up when I went upstairs. When I got in my room she pulled out the dress she bought today. It was nice. Then she was like let me show you what I got for us and closed my door. I tell you my nuts hid. I had no idea what was going to happen when the door opened. Was she going to be in lingerie, have a DVD, do it yourself satanic ritual kit? After a few moments she said it was in the bathroom. She had got it when she went out with friends earlier. So I walked cautiously into the bathroom. Phili had stolen the bathroom sign that said men and woman's restroom.

Anyway dinner conversation flowed about Phili since it was the first time for the Landlord and I to talk since he got back. I was surprised when he asked if she came on to me while he was away. I told him what I already shared. He believes that she has been committed before and possibly just recently. This would make sense since she had given me a story of her being in an accident 15 years ago that she was in the hospital for many months and that caused the breakup of a relationship. We both agreed that something violent happened in her life and that she is delusional and paranoid. I didn't know about the super chip implanted in her head so that her father could keep track of her.

I've heard that crazy chicks are great in bed as long as you pick positions that you can watch there hands.

Alcohol, Rosy Glasses, & Breasts

Talking to the Landlord about the visitor. He said he told her to pass on the place since she wants to move to DC in June. His point was valid. Stick it out where you are for your daughter so you don't keep moving around. We both thought it was really weird that she didn't know what her bf did for work even though she is going to live with him in June.

Phili called to ask me to go to another baseball game tonight. I turned her down. She was quite surprised that I just didn't want to go and I didn't have other plans. It was too soon for me and I could use a break from her. I'm starting to think she's a closet alcoholic. The Landlord had said she had some AA history, but said she didn't explain. Through many of her stories I've heard of times when hasn't had a car for some strange reason as well as breaking custody agreements.

Anyway when Phili arrived she was very positive. I mean like 200% positive, I shit fairy dust positive. Since then she's had a few bumps in the working world and that glass has cracked. Last week while the Landlord was gone she brought down a 6 pack of empties. I began wondering if this was part of her early morning schedule of going out to her car before everyone got up. Phili could be headed for a lot of trouble.

While this week is slow, new patients are coming in an scheduling which is great.

Talking to the Destroyer this morning. It's been a while since I've seen her. While I'm happy I no longer have that strange attraction for her. It was hard not looking at her this morning. Yes I know you work in sales, but a shirt that is almost open to your belly button is a little much. I almost felt like taking dollar bills out for stuffing.

A Dad's Movie

If you've seen Taken, you're a guy, and you're a dad you are probably in love with this movie. While all the women enjoyed the movie also. The guys really were charged. Why we would never want anything to happen to our precious children. There is a secret fantasy in the back of our minds of this kind of twisted shit happening to them. The other part is bringing down the Almighty on there asses for touching our kids. Hence the whole plot of the movie. Phili joined us. We went in separate cars since she won't let anyone else drive her.

One thing I did notice about Phili is this avoidance of information. While she tells a LOT of stories of her life, most of what I believe to be bullshit. It just never adds up and if you ask for more specifics she jumps to other stuff. This became more apparent tonight when we left the house and the visitor asked where we were going. Phili just said out. I stopped to give her all the information. For someone who takes 40 minutes to answer a freaking question, avoid giving out information was weird.

I don't know if the visitor is moving in or not. The Landlord does a minimum 6 month lease and I thought I heard her saying she wasn't quite sure about that. While a nice lady, she's nuts too. She's suppose to be moving to DC with her older boyfriend. What does he do you ask? Well she has no idea. WTF! You're dating someone. You're planning on moving and living together. Yet you have no friggin' idea what he does. Oh yeah this is good.

All this led to another Phili story about her bf, but it was insane. It went something like the guy she's been dating for 9 years. She doesn't live near where he lives since he always travels. When asked if she trust him she said absolutely. Even though I know she knows he sleeps around. Whatever.

Last, but not lease. As far as I know Inverse didn't pay back the Landlord. If she did I have no idea where all the money would come from. So yes after all that he is still babysitting her daughter. My belief is that he's hoping to give the girl some grounding. Even Phili believes the daughter will probably have a screwed up life since Inverse is so unstable. So that's saying something.

The Mobeius Strip

I got home early today since my last patient cancelled and I wanted to beat the traffic. I found Inverse's daughter here so I guess the Landlord is babysitting while Inverse goes to school. Since Phili wasn't home I left my door open since I wanted to ask Inverse a question when she arrived.

It's always different when the bubble breaks. 2 days off of Phili made a difference cause when she gave me her story of how her day went. I was like God please help me. I can't take the whacked out stories anymore. The tiny, short outfit didn't do anything for me.

I did get to see Inverse and I have to admit she looked more serene then she use to. Since she works at Hot Tuna I wanted to find out if the rumors were true that they went smoke free. They did I found out which is great since a Happy Hour there would be awesome. Besides a "hi sweetie" and a smile that was the extent of our interaction.

Tonight is $1 movie night with the singles. We're seeing Taken. That will be after my dinner with the new person. Reviews to follow.

What Tuesday Brings

Well new blog fodder seems to be on the way. We have someone coming over for dinner to see if she likes the place. The Landlord seemed pretty happy with the person. I know he's never met her so who knows what she looks like. I believe she her daughter is 4 and she doesn't have custody every other weekend. It's amazing what you hear. She seems to already have a guy since the landlord was informing her the room she was getting had twin beds.

The door being closed to my room is a good thing and Phili is suppose to start working nights again. So hopefully that will stop that train in its tracks.

Today is a day of marketing. Over the last few months I've learned a bunch of different things to teach my patients. I spent part of the morning trying to figure out how best to present it. I was thinking of doing a 8 week program, but the logistics of it just weren't working. So I'm going to do classes in the office. I'm hoping people will answer my survey so I can figure out when the best times for it. I know people will want to know what they can do to better deal with stress, how to prevent arthritis and falls in seniors, but its always getting them in the door.

The ex is still being nice to me which is still freaking me out. I'm still waiting for the other shoe to drop. L thinks she's getting sex. I think it's her aunt bank rolling her so that she doesn't have to work and can stay home. What ever it is, I just pray that it doesn't stop.

Sign of the Times

Since the economy went down the shitter, sales calls to my office have gone up. It's truly a pain. Since my main phone is my cell, I can see the numbers coming in. I have several saved that are titled "sales crap" since they just keep on calling. While this maybe a pain the increase in emails from businesses wanting to advertise on my blog has jumped from 0 to WTF in the last week. Today it was even a place from Singapore. The topper was when I got a sales text message. Holy hell. I think I need to go ape shit on someone with a golf club.

I closed my bedroom door last night which decreased Phili's interaction with me. I was asked what I want from her. Really I'm happy to be partner's in crime. We watched some Sopranos together yesterday. If we play a game or if bored we do something together I'm okay with that. While I could have a relationship with Phili I know it wouldn't be healthy for me. The problem for me is a lot of skin and too much interaction. From the singles group I know many single women. Some that I know like me very much. For me there's nothing there or I know it's not a good match. However since my interaction is occasional it's not a problem. So I'll start closing my door more so that Phili interaction is less. However I can't promise that one day I'm going to announce that I slept with her.

I can tell it's hot around here. I just downed another pint of ice cream. Yum. Love the stuff on a extremely hot day. German girl usually gets a good laugh when I do this.

If It Wasn't For You Damn Kids

After a 90 degree day the house was warming up quite nicely last night. Since the Landlord wasn't home yet we had to wait on any relief. Although I think Phili was comfortable, but I was hot. So I headed out to get some ice cream. Since I'm allergic to dairy it's soy for me. The weird thing is that I can easily buy it around my office, but the same stores near my place don't carry it. So I hit Harris Teeter which is close. They use to carry it, but I was pretty angry last night when they had ice cream treats for dogs and cats, but nothing soy based. However after digging around I found what I was looking for. On the way out I caught myself using the f-bomb again. Then I realized what was happening. The Sopranos marathon I'd been watching had been influencing me. Mystery solved.

With the Landlord back Phili has disappeared. She was out of the house before anyone was up and was still gone by the time I left. Hopefully she'll pull back with him around.

Besides that not much else to report. L was already busy today to go for a walk and to be honest it's way to hot out there. You could fry and egg on the sidewalk. So I stopped by my Mom's and did her nails. Ran a couple of errands and now just relaxing at Starbucks.

I'm trying to motivate myself. As usual I rev up for a while, but after a time I start to poop out. I'm stalling out again and I need to keep on pushing to keep the business afloat. I might need to schedule a day off or a large afternoon each week to recharge to keep up the high pace.

A Hot Saturday

The word of the day is "fuck". I'm not quite sure why though. I'm not a big curser, but the f-bomb has been coming out of my mouth a lot today. Only when I've been alone. Something happens and I'm a saying it.

The Pow Wow with the singles today went well. The setup of the festival was different from the Filipino one they do there. So how I told people to meet me really didn't work. I was happy I gave everyone my cellphone number to find me. So we did meet up and the one late comer was able to be talked in. I tell you it was almost 90 here and being out in a big field was not the greatest place to be cause it was HOT. As many of these big event are they aren't structured and people wandered here and there. I don't know how the Native Americans did all the dancing in full costume today without passing out.

Phili again made dinner tonight. If she has a plan for me I have no idea what the hell it is. Rarely is she ever close to me. Nor does she bring up anything sexual. I'm happy to be friends, but I know I have to limit my exposure to her. With having her so closely available and the little outfits is going to wear on my reserves. Whether she's waiting for me to lean over to kiss her or what I don't know, but I don't want to find myself in that position.

The Landlord should be home tonight which will be good since it's getting hot in here.

Running the Bases with Phili

Phili lost the coupon so we ended up buying tickets for ourselves. I had no problem with that. We were going to meet down at the park, but she came home before I left. It was interesting for her to announce that she wished the landlord would stay away since she had a great week in the house. Phili did leave me a dish of food in the refrig, but I didn't know it was mine so she ended up eating it.

I found out that Phili likes to be in control. She detest being a passenger so she drove last night. Also when the night turned chilly and she put her coat on I went to help her and she was pretty firm with she had it.

Anyway after a tense drive to the park. Phili is a notorious tailgater. Also her not believing I knew a different way to get there. Her way was the really long way around, like 2 extra cities worth.

I almost had to strangle her. All she had been talking about was getting a beer there. Baseball and beer. That's all I had been hearing. Then when we got there she was like I don't know if I want one. She finally ended up getting one.

Since Phili doesn't know how to connect I started conversation. She's a little bit country and I'm a little bit rock 'n roll. She's big into sports and NASCAR and I could care less. The interesting thing was during the game. Now I always hear her laughing in her room. For what reason I have no clue. Last night she was doing the same thing and I was puzzled until I realized she was looking at the advertising screen and reading it. She was very amused. I mean to crying amused.

Phili may want to be more. I have no clue, but I'm good with being friends. Time will tell what she does.

What Friday Brings

I tell you dealing with Phili this week has really given my dating mojo a real work out. While I know she is doing things like making me dinner and taking me to the ball game tonight. In truth it doesn't mean that much to me. Most everyone does the 80-90%, but it's that last 10-20% that brings results. With Phili its these actions followed by a screwed up story of her dating or something similar. If she's looking for me to prove that I'm a nice guy. I already know that and don't need to prove it. However it reminds me a long time ago. I did a lot, but I never connected with people deeply. I didn't know how to. Bells and whistles make a big splash and get your attention, but it's the small day to day stuff that keeps your interest and starts the building process. It's a good reminder for me cause yes I can be distracted by an attractive body. What makes this situation more difficult for me is that I constantly see Phili and it's not every once in a while. With that I think it's giving her an extra star in my book. So far she hasn't shown me anything that can lead to a deep relationship. All I see is a lot of low self esteem and insanity.

International Man of Leisure

I was pretty burned out yesterday. Since it was a light day aroun the office I left early to hit the beach before Game night with the singles. So come on along.
I can feel the breeze from the water now.

The Lynnhaven Fish house.

The fishing pier juts way out into the bay.

You can see the Chesapeake Bay Tunnel off in the distance.

Fort Story army base anchors the other end of the beach.

Oh well it's time to go.

I was surprised it was a low turn out last night for game night. 4-5 people cancelled at the last moment. It was only 3 of us there. Phili said she was going to come, but she never did. A phone call would have been nice to know that.