Red Flags

Red flags where I live? ROFLMAO! Phili and I's conversation started since she was wondering where to dump all her empty Mojito bottles. I guess she's been partying in her room. I tried talking to her about the issue of being with a guy who was sleeping around. However it fell on deaf ears since has it rationalized in her brain. Anyway she's taking me to our local minor league baseball game Friday night.

The whole conversation was good for me and parallels the book I'm reading (The Power of Full Engagement). Sticking to ones values helps build and replenish us spiritually. I know myself, anytime I compromise my beliefs I always have trouble. Red and VP are the big ones from last year. So it was good to say what I believed in with dating. My friend Paul and I discuss this a lot. For him he'll stay in relationships that aren't fully fulfilling to him if he's still having some fun. For me I want to be firing on all cylinders. I've wasted enough time in my life with relationships that just weren't fulfilling to me. My energy and time are very important to me and I guard them well.

This actually worked well into my business meeting this morning. My coach was pointing out that we usually choose people we like or can help instead of people that will push us. The story of my life. My Mom use to tell me when I was a kid that I was helping people that weren't helping me. That I would put all this energy into them and then they would leave me in the dust. While I'm not that bad anymore I still pick my strategic partners in that area. I'm still doing most of the work and not really getting anything out of it. So that's my new project on changing.

On Inverse since it was asked. Besides starting cosmetology school at the end of the month and working as a cocktail waitress I don't know anymore. I haven't seen her since before she left.

The Roller Coaster of Darkness

Since many of you like hearing a guy's point of view here it is.

As many of you know I always let a woman know if I'm not interested. Even if I'm not looking forward to it, which I never am, I do it. Why? Well if I want to be treated a certain way I better be treating others the same way. Personally I'm okay if you're not interested. I may not like it, but I'm better for you telling me.

However when I'm not told and I have to guess it really tears a hole in me. It's like being a kid again and feeling like I just don't matter. My self-worth does a toilet spin. It's in this crazy time that I do stupid stuff and find crazier women. Red happened in this time as did the VP. Both stories my friends love, but I can do without the memories.

Anyway what makes me share all this. Well not hearing back from Blondie. Like I said perception is every thing. With the possibility of this crashing before it got off the ground and her not saying anything was bothering me. However I do want to thank Melissa for saying calm down. I did and I texted Blondie to see how she was doing. We went back and forth. Finally she did call me and we'll hang tomorrow for some Starbucks. She informed me that she'll be very busy until April 15th doing taxes. I know how it is. However for me I do like open communication so I know what's happening.

2008 Dating Round Up

The other day, okay it was yesterday, I commented on how I've noticed changes in myself business wise. Well today I'm reflecting on dating this year since it was a big year for me.

Law girl started it out for me. She was the first "normal" woman I ever dated. While our chemistry level wasn't super it was a real kick being with someone who was "normal". No dram, problems, etc. It was very weird and totally virgin territory for me. On the other hand she strung me along for a while since I was such a nice guy that she waned. However guilt finally got the best of her and we broke up since she knew it wasn't fair to me to tie me down to someone that was not going to deepen the relationship with. I should of learned then to require chemistry.

The Planner was next and my longest relationship besides my ex. She will always have a special place in my heart since there was so much I liked about her: the goal setting, her physical side, silliness, looks, etc. However there was always some strong issues on the opposite side. The biggest was always the sleeping arrangement. She never wanted to sleep in the same bed together which was always a deal breaker for me and she knew it. I don't do Lucy and Ricky. The other was her controlling attitude. However I got more of my sexual mojo back with her and saw again how long term relationships really are great with how they grow.

The Photographer was a surprise for me. I knew she was a chaos type girl, but I never thought I would feel as attracted to her as I did once we dated. What I had knocked back into me was that when you date chaos there's always problems. While I wouldn't date her I would probably have sex with her for some reason.

Tech girl taught me firmly that a spark is needed to make things work. Also she was the first women for me to break up with since my marriage.

There were a lot of screwed up women mixed in there that never really got off the ground. Like Army girl who was so drunk the night I met she didn't remember me or our conversation. I didn't even think she was that drunk. There was Red who said she was separated, but then introduced me to her husband. The Florist with her bizarre home life and arrangements. Lastly the VP who was emailing me pornographic pictures of her after 3 minutes on the phone.

It was a very good year.

Deal Breakers

In digging for blog worthy stuff for my other blog I have some open accounts on dating sites. Some have my full information since I have used there site to find a date at some point in time. So when I log into find juicy pieces of information that I share with the world my information comes up as I'm active. Because of this I still get occasional emails and added to people's favorites. So this morning when I logged onto my computer I saw I had been added to some one's favorite. Always intrigued and hey I might find something to post about. However it was a nice woman with good pictures and by that I mean normal. However she had a few deal breakers for me and since a few of the blogs I read have been asking about them over the last week I figured I'd comment here. The first was that she's separated. After the incident with Red I'm not touching that with a 10 foot pole. The second was 16 month old twins. Whoa! If you have kids younger than Eric I'm not the person for you.

Gimme Three Steps Mister

So after Happy Hour I dropped the Stylist by her car since she was in a different garage a few blocks away. Don't want anything to happen to anyone. She's a fun person and I'll always be happy to see her, but she's not a match for me.

When I got on the highway I called Red to see how she was doing since I knew she had a busy day and had a wedding to go to Saturday. She invited me over to a friend's house. A small party was going on and I got to meet a lot of interesting people. It was nice to have a woman on my arm again.

Then I got my ticket to the Twilight Zone. Red turned on the heat sexually and I wasn't complaining since it's been a year since I broke up with L. However I was never a one night stand type of guy. So while some kissing and groping in the corners was fun I really need an emotional connection for it to do anything for me. It's just the way I am. I guess I can't change certain parts of me.

So anyway like I said I met many interesting people throughout the night. One was this guy that Red who joke with or make snide remarks at. Whatever. Anyway he leaves and they have words over by the door. She comes back and plops next to me to tell me that was her husband. WTF! Let me say that again. WTF!

Red goes on to tell me they're separated and live in separate bedrooms. Okay how the fuck do I get out of her without being shot. I think I need a break from dating for a while.

Dating Playbill

I was talking to a friend yesterday and they asked how dating was going. ROFLMAO! So I had to write out the list to make sure I didn't forget anyone. So I figured I'd post it here with 2 new ones. Hey you need to keep up.

Charming - we emailed, talked, know each other from the singles group. We plan to go out. 3 hours before hand she text me that her son is sick and cancels. She tells me she will call me later. Nothing.

Tax Girl - CPA very hyped to go out, but no way she can find the time before the 15th. Understood since I have friends that are CPA's and I know there going crazy. After the 15th - nothing.

Army Girl - explosives expert in the army. Yes I know I can pick them. We've been using ever form of communication for about a week and half now. However like Army girl will say a lot. Army life kills her relationships. We still haven't been able together since her schedule has been so erratic.

Stylist - I met at one of my single's events. I was more focused on Charming to really feel her out. She emailed me and we chatted a little. However I got to talk to her last night somewhat. Attractive, but I don't think it's a match.

VP - VP of the biggest east coast shipping co. We talked a little while and I mean a few minutes before she asked for my email address and sent me explicit pictures of herself. I joked about having to tie her up to be good. She made a comment about not being that type of girl and that was that. LMAO it was like a comedy show.

Sweet - just started talking to and we'll see how it goes. She had to run and we never finished talking. Maybe today.

Red - We chatted some last night. She hoped we could get together tonight, but I have Happy Hour. She has a wedding tomorrow so we're getting together Sunday. OMG an actual date.

So that was my last 2 weeks.