Charming Isn't She

Oh I forgot to mention that Charming emailed me the other day. Yes she fell off the face of the earth again after coming to one event in November or December. I'm starting to think she's got this entitlement thing going on. Anyway she wanted to inform me of how busy she's been and that's why she can't make any events.

Actually I'm always surprised when people email me telling me why they can't make events, especially from the people I don't know. I generally don't give a crap why you can't. All I need you to do is RSVP yes or no. No long winded explanations. This isn't my job, nor do I get paid enough to listen to you ramble.

Anyway back to Charming. Her email was asking to have events over in her city so she try to attend. I gave her my standard answer to this kind of request. I don't live in your city and don't know much about it. If you know of something happening let me know and we'll see what can be done. I never hear from anyone after that. People seem to want things done for them instead of taking life by the horns. If this all sounds like I have a bad taste in my mouth, Charming does that to me.

Capt. Subtext & his Girls

Replaying my conversation with the woman that destroyed my hitting my goals this week. Senorita does this well so here's my version.

Me: Did you forget your appointment?
Her: I decided not to come in.
Thinking: Bitch thanks for calling.
Me: Would you like to reschedule or call back another time?
Her: I'll call back.
Thinking: I'll never call back. Bitch.

I texted back and forth with Navy girl yesterday since I stopped by the thrift store to pick up a cheap driver so when the weather is nice we can hit some balls. She was worried that I spent good money for a high class driver. I informed her that I may be crazy, but I'm not stupid.

Charming has dropped off the face of the planet again. Not that I really cared, but I do watch out when people say they have changed. She's RSVP'd a few events, but has missed them all. No loss.

The singles and I are off to play pool today. It was a last minute event, but 2 days of nothing just doesn't happen in my world anymore. I have the choice to do something and I like doing something with my life.

It's Still a Dog's Life

This is one of my patient's dogs. His name is Chico and he came to visit the office yesterday.

I spoke the Barker last night, actually she called me. It's weird to have this "relationship" being driven by her. She keeps making all the communication. I really don't have to do anything which is okay for me since we haven't met. Until we meet I really don't like putting that much energy into it. I know that the longer we go with talking on the phone the less chance that we'll ever meet.

I did find out a few things about Barker. One that weekends are bad for her and during the week is better to meet. Two that like the Planner she is giving up her social life for her business. The difference is that Barker has 2 daughters and that keeps her sort of social. We talked about this item. She keeps trying to give me ideas for my business which is nice, but for me not my point here. I did say how much I enjoyed the Funny Bone smoke free night. There was no response on her end for whatever that says. As always she makes sure that I know that she wants to meet me.

Charming cancelled out of tonight's Game night with the singles. This was a good thing since I could use less hassle. I know prolonged interaction with her wouldn't be good. Dating would probably happen which I don't want to do with her.

Success!

I stopped by AC Moore today to pick up winter decorations for the office. You know something to last me a few weeks before I put up Valentines decorations. My color blindness must of kicked in since I went for the snow effect. While the giant snow flakes look cool hanging from the lights. The snow garland just blends in with the white trim around the doors. Oh well.

The turn out for pool was great. The usual no shows and a few surprises. We ran 4 tables with everyone trading in and out after each game. I was surprised that I did so well or that everyone else sucks so bad. We have one member that only has one arm and he was kicking some ass there. The funny thing was the outfits they had the waitresses wear. Can we say we work for tips. They were some interesting/revealing outfits.

Afterwards I suggested Starbucks since I had a bunch of card games in my car. The only thing we didn't prepare for was that the place was packed. I couldn't believe it. However I wasn't daunted. I swooped down on the first open table which was small, but we traded it to a single older gentleman that had a large table. So we were set.

Charming did show up. She had changed since I seen her last in that she had more of a confidence about her. She looked attractive. Throughout the day I paid her no extra attention than anyone else. I did catch her look at me when we were all talking about online dating and Match came up which was where we were communicating. The funny/ironic point was when we were playing Flux and I stole one of her cards -party. She said she was happy I didn't steal her love. I responded that I didn't want her love.

Anyway it was a great time with a lot of laughs especially at Starbucks. Charming gave my hand a little squeeze when I shook her hand goodnight. If she never blew me off I might ask her out. Now I have desire. She'll have to do something to light a fire under my ass.

Wozers

Just finished all the stats for 2008 for the business. When I added all the information into the history of the practice I was really surprised by two pieces of information that I gleamed from the stats.

1. That this was the 5th year I was in my own practice. Holy shit who knew.
2. That divorce sucks. The 2 years that I dealt with my ex with divorce and child custody battles the business just flat lines. All the growth in the first year just disappears and doesn't come back till year 4. The difference in numbers is astonishing.

This year the office moved in a good direction. Not as far as I had expected, but made good strides. If I can increase the business the same amount in 2009 as I did this year I will be very happy.

As always when I put everything in order my life calms down. Facebook girl is still trying to impart that she only ever wanted to be friends with me. I was going to email back what she said while she was drunk, but I realized why fight just to be right. Anyway I'm happy that we're over.

With that taken care of I responded to Charming's email with a "just business as usual attitude" which helped focus my mind with her. With the right mindset I'll have no problem with her tomorrow.

My god the office looks barren. I took down all the Christmas decorations and since it's raining I haven't been over to my storage unit to get the winter decorations. Now I remember why I keep it decorated all year round.

I had some good news today. One of the bigger chiropractors in the area has moved his office further south in the city. As with any move you lose 25% of your patients. Two just came my way. So this week that will be my push for getting new patients. People that don't want to go the distance.

Friday Fun

Well I ended it with Facebook girl and it went well as it was going to. I have to admit I wasn't quite sure how it was going to go. She made sure I knew that she only wanted to be friends.

I'm trying to let Charming go, but having a hard time about it. Like I stated a while back I have a hard time when a woman is interested in me. She's emailed me a few times and I can already feel the changes in me towards her. However I'm not satisfied with her answer so I feel like I'm saying it's okay to treat me like crap anytime you like.

Back in the office today and will leave early after my last patient. I want to enjoy the last of the holiday season. Not saying I'm going to do anything exciting, but it will be nice to do nothing.

Talking Out My Ass Again

I love my blog. I had to look up Charming in it to get all the loose ends. We never went out which makes sense to me now since I can't remember anything. We only talked on the phone. She said she was shy in one to one situations, but was better in group settings. Hey maybe she went for assertiveness training. Maybe that could explain the leather studded collar.

What truly surprised me was all the women I was trying to go out with at the time. I don't remember half of them since we never ended up going out.

Charming You Say

Charming emailed me wondering how I was. I answered and joked about her picture. Then cause I have no reason why I should pull my punches after I was left hanging. I asked what happened to her after she fell off the face of the earth?

"Yeah I did kind of just drop. Trust me it will not happen again. Lets just say gravity kicked back in and leave it at that, k."

WTF does that mean?

I'm Back

You know I'm finding my dating life funnier and funnier. The reason is that I go out with so many women I forget what the hell their nicknames are. Anyway do you guys remember Charming? She was in the singles group. I met her when I was dating Law girl (Now it's all coming back to me). So after I was dumped I asked Charming out. We had a fun Starbucks date. I'm thinking we had a fun time since I asked her out for dinner. Anyway we were suppose to go out. It was scheduled and I texted her that day that I was looking forward to seeing her. She texted me back hours later saying her son was sick and she needed to cancel. No biggie. I know how it goes. However that was it. I never saw or spoke to her again. I texted and left a message and never got a response until today. (cue dramatic music)

Charming signed back up for the singles group. Saying hi to me, that she was back, and to drop her a line. Do I swing from woman to woman or what? I wish I could get lotto numbers as easy. Not saying I'm going back out with Charming since I really can't remember much about her since it was like 7 months ago.

Dating Playbill

I was talking to a friend yesterday and they asked how dating was going. ROFLMAO! So I had to write out the list to make sure I didn't forget anyone. So I figured I'd post it here with 2 new ones. Hey you need to keep up.

Charming - we emailed, talked, know each other from the singles group. We plan to go out. 3 hours before hand she text me that her son is sick and cancels. She tells me she will call me later. Nothing.

Tax Girl - CPA very hyped to go out, but no way she can find the time before the 15th. Understood since I have friends that are CPA's and I know there going crazy. After the 15th - nothing.

Army Girl - explosives expert in the army. Yes I know I can pick them. We've been using ever form of communication for about a week and half now. However like Army girl will say a lot. Army life kills her relationships. We still haven't been able together since her schedule has been so erratic.

Stylist - I met at one of my single's events. I was more focused on Charming to really feel her out. She emailed me and we chatted a little. However I got to talk to her last night somewhat. Attractive, but I don't think it's a match.

VP - VP of the biggest east coast shipping co. We talked a little while and I mean a few minutes before she asked for my email address and sent me explicit pictures of herself. I joked about having to tie her up to be good. She made a comment about not being that type of girl and that was that. LMAO it was like a comedy show.

Sweet - just started talking to and we'll see how it goes. She had to run and we never finished talking. Maybe today.

Red - We chatted some last night. She hoped we could get together tonight, but I have Happy Hour. She has a wedding tomorrow so we're getting together Sunday. OMG an actual date.

So that was my last 2 weeks.

I Love it When a Plan Comes Together

Game night was a big success. Pretty much everyone came that said they would so that was 16 people. We used every wooden chair up in Starbucks. Charming didn't show. I got to meet a lot of great new people and see old friends. The Florist showed up in here usual breasts hanging out outfit. I swear she has a closet full of these tops, but hey I guess it is a singles event. I was looking forward to seeing the Stylist. I met her at comedy improv, but I was focused more on Charming. So I got to know her a little better last night. She's attractive, but I don't think a match. Anyway the night was so awesome we decided to so it twice a month. One person offered their house so that should make it better.

So we played Scruples, Blurt. and What's Mind Like. All fun games. The games really helped give flavor to everyone to see what their like. Mazda would probably sell his mother to cannibals for $2, I have little shame and have sex in strange places, etc.

I started talking to the VP yesterday. Yes you do need a playbill to keep up. After a few minutes she sent me some very explicit pictures of herself (Hey I wasn't complaining). I made some comment about tying her up to keep her good. For some reason she took offense at that. Like Woody Allen said, "how could I miss read those signs?"

Hard, but Not Rock Hard

Talking to friends about dating and the mysterious no call back. It's hard not to become jaded. On the hand I try not to laugh at women who after one bad event are writing dating completely off. I'm a guy and rejection is a daily thing. You do things to lessen it happening, but it does. Not everyone is a match even though you desire it. I just wish people would be more honest with it. The best example was years ago after I got divorced I was watching TV and I still had cable an a reality show was on. In those days I'd watch anything to pass the time. Anyway it was a dating reality show and I remember this woman saying she wasn't into this guy who she dated and kept calling. She just didn't want to call him back and hoped he would get the message. Lady you just told all of America about it. I think it would have been easier to tell him.

Anyway what the hell was my point? Oh yeah Army girl. We're still trying to get together. However every time she says it will be this week, I'm starting to hear in the back of my mind, "yeah right." I don't want to go there. I know her schedule has been topsy turvy for over a week now. Army life so I know it's logistics problem at the moment. I guess so many blow offs and no return calls in the last week have harden me somewhat.

Well I have to big Singles events this week. Game night which is really growing fast is tonight. Charming signed up for it. Now it will be interesting if she shows up and if she'll say anything about blowing me off last week. Friday is the start of our Happy Hours series and it looks like our biggest turn out yet. I'm pretty proud. Now hopefully everyone shows up.

Feel Like I'm Playing the Stock Market

Well Charming never called last night. I would say she was busy with her son, but she was on Match. Who the hell knows? I run all the singles events, so we're going to run into each to other. So either say no or go out and say theirs no chemistry. Weird.

Also no reply from Tax girl either. I so love dating. Anyway in usual Mike fashion I started talking to someone else. She's going away for the weekend so we'll talk again next week. I knew Army girl was working last night so I didn't expect to talk to her. Hopefully tonight.

Failure to Launch

I texted Charming this morning telling I was looking froward to seeing her tonight. I just got a return text with her cancelling tonight. Her son just got home from school sick. She apologized and told me she would call me later.

On other notes I hate when I make a mistake that prevents me from getting paid. Today I got a EOB (explanation of benefits) on a patient. When I submitted for authorization I accidentally put a 3 instead of a 2. This then entailed a 20 minute call to India with a lot of holding and me going, "what did you say?" At least I got an answer and it will take time, but payment will be mine.

Now they may be saying that their is no recession (yes I know the definition), but it still doesn't change the fact that things are slowing down big time out there. While my patients are still coming in, new ones are coming in to replace the ones getting better. Oye.

Motivation

I want to thank everyone for their views on my little experiment. It gave me a lot to think on and about why I do the things I do. Over the past 8 years I've come to realize that it doesn't matter what I do, but the motivation behind it that defines me.

I get a lot of compliments on my kissing ability. It's always been a surprise to me. My answer that I give when I'm asked is that the thoughts and intentions of my heart are behind it. I'm always working towards the best situation and I take the relationship as far it will go.

So back to my little experiment. I'm never into it just for a fun time or booty call. Something special is what I'm always looking for. It's what guides all my actions while I'm in a relationship and all the women I've been out with have enjoyed that.

Over the years I've heard and read enough about keeping women on a string like pearls. When one doesn't work the next is right behind her so that it keeps the anxiety level down. Going out with Spa girl I lost most of my insane anxiety. Anything that is left is normal. If I felt nothing then I know that I don't really care which is never a good place to start a relationship.

So I have my date with Charming tonight and I'll see how it goes. I left it off with Tax girl to contact me when she was free. So I don't have to do anything until I've gone out with Charming. I will not write Tax girl off to soon. I've done that in the past and that didn't work out well for me. So I'll keep making adjustments as more information comes in. All the way down on the scale is Army girl. She was the one from left field that would just be fun. Not holding my breath, but she is my last choice since I know it would be a limited relationship.

One Down, Two to Go

Well Charming and I got to talk tonight. Like she mentioned she is shy when it is one on one instead of the outgoing person she is in a group. It was a nice conversation, occasionally interrupted by her kids. I made a few jokes, especially with her living in another country being out in Suffolk. However she explained to me where she is which isn't to far. Why they call it the northern part is beyond me, I would say the eastern section. Oh well. Anyway we're set for the Baker's Crust Wednesday night.

Being a doctor, I've realized that perception is everything. So when Charming said how about later in the evening, I had to ask when would that be. She was like 6:30 and I'm thinking 8. Her time is better for me since I can shoot right over after work.

Since I've already met Charming she is on the top of my list. I would say Tax girl is next. Army girl I know is just for fun. She was too shocked to learn that I was married for 10 years. Our lives are too different, but we joke around so much I think it would be a blast to have drinks together.

Blowing My Mind

I'm the serial monogamous dater. One person at time, that being once I'm in pursuit of a woman I stop trying with others to I know what's going on. So this is weird and new territory to me. Tax girl said contact her Wednesday, Charming said call her later, and I just finished talking with Army girl who was busy tonight but swore that we would get together later in the week. When did this all happen? Yeah I know it's a real problem. Thanks for playing that tiny violin.

Tale of 3 Women

At times I may complain on problems meeting someone which usually gets me many jokes from my friends. They usually point out that I meet women and go out on a pretty regular basis for the amount of energy I put into it. So after this weekend I can't say anything for a while.

1) Tax girl - still waiting for the 16th to come around for her to have free time. I like her since she is like me, analytical with a artistic streak.

2) Army girl - you know I never met someone that didn't appear that drunk, but totally didn't know who I was the next day. She was very amusing Saturday night, but their was a whole new level of humor having the same conversation last night. Also throwing little tidbits like her breast size and her just shaking her head. She's a twenty something, but a lot of fun and speaks her mind which I like.

3) Charming - actually I have no idea what to nickname her so I'm going with her Match name. We met last month at my monthly comedy improv event. I was with Law girl so I didn't really notice her that much. Anyway we are both on Match and we chatted during the week. She's very outgoing which I really like. A little far for my taste, but at least on this side of the water. I figured I would see her last night at improv. She was lively and more attractive than I remembered. We'll go out sometime this week. Now I just need to learn the area she lives in.