2008 Dating Round Up

The other day, okay it was yesterday, I commented on how I've noticed changes in myself business wise. Well today I'm reflecting on dating this year since it was a big year for me.

Law girl started it out for me. She was the first "normal" woman I ever dated. While our chemistry level wasn't super it was a real kick being with someone who was "normal". No dram, problems, etc. It was very weird and totally virgin territory for me. On the other hand she strung me along for a while since I was such a nice guy that she waned. However guilt finally got the best of her and we broke up since she knew it wasn't fair to me to tie me down to someone that was not going to deepen the relationship with. I should of learned then to require chemistry.

The Planner was next and my longest relationship besides my ex. She will always have a special place in my heart since there was so much I liked about her: the goal setting, her physical side, silliness, looks, etc. However there was always some strong issues on the opposite side. The biggest was always the sleeping arrangement. She never wanted to sleep in the same bed together which was always a deal breaker for me and she knew it. I don't do Lucy and Ricky. The other was her controlling attitude. However I got more of my sexual mojo back with her and saw again how long term relationships really are great with how they grow.

The Photographer was a surprise for me. I knew she was a chaos type girl, but I never thought I would feel as attracted to her as I did once we dated. What I had knocked back into me was that when you date chaos there's always problems. While I wouldn't date her I would probably have sex with her for some reason.

Tech girl taught me firmly that a spark is needed to make things work. Also she was the first women for me to break up with since my marriage.

There were a lot of screwed up women mixed in there that never really got off the ground. Like Army girl who was so drunk the night I met she didn't remember me or our conversation. I didn't even think she was that drunk. There was Red who said she was separated, but then introduced me to her husband. The Florist with her bizarre home life and arrangements. Lastly the VP who was emailing me pornographic pictures of her after 3 minutes on the phone.

It was a very good year.

Virginia Beach 23455

I talked to Eric today to find out how his Halloween was. You should of heard the sound in his voice at how much candy he must of collected. It was great. I was happy he fun and was able to go around with friends. I remember that from when I was young and it was a great feeling. Hopefully my ex won't all his candy on him.

Eric has moved on from Pokemon and Yu Gi Oh cards and onto Tops baseball cards. I was wondering if the day would come. Since I'm not a sports fan the previous two types were much more up my alley. So I'll start including baseball cards with my weekly letter.

When I first took over the organizer position of the Singles group I was dating Law girl. It was a move to take care of myself instead of catering to someone else which worked out well since she dumped me a few weeks later. I've always pushed it as an activities group instead of a dating pool although the Photographer is the third woman I've dated from our group. At times I feel like our group is becoming a Beverly Hills 90210. Never really watched the show, but my ex did. The thing that always stood out was the incestial like dating between them all. I bring this up since the first person I went out from the group was the Florist. She was a headcase and it was only one date.

Gameboy dated her for a while afterwards. Then afterwards dated the Stylist. Recently he started seeing the Photographer. It never really got off the ground because they didn't see each other that often. So the Photographer said last night that she needed to make sure the Gameboy knew it was over. I feel bad with this. I probably should feel good that I've been chosen over another, but I think its my low self esteem rearing its ugly head that I'm not worthy enough. It's all crap, but I need to say it all to make it go away.

I Love it When a Plan Comes Together

Game night was a big success. Pretty much everyone came that said they would so that was 16 people. We used every wooden chair up in Starbucks. Charming didn't show. I got to meet a lot of great new people and see old friends. The Florist showed up in here usual breasts hanging out outfit. I swear she has a closet full of these tops, but hey I guess it is a singles event. I was looking forward to seeing the Stylist. I met her at comedy improv, but I was focused more on Charming. So I got to know her a little better last night. She's attractive, but I don't think a match. Anyway the night was so awesome we decided to so it twice a month. One person offered their house so that should make it better.

So we played Scruples, Blurt. and What's Mind Like. All fun games. The games really helped give flavor to everyone to see what their like. Mazda would probably sell his mother to cannibals for $2, I have little shame and have sex in strange places, etc.

I started talking to the VP yesterday. Yes you do need a playbill to keep up. After a few minutes she sent me some very explicit pictures of herself (Hey I wasn't complaining). I made some comment about tying her up to keep her good. For some reason she took offense at that. Like Woody Allen said, "how could I miss read those signs?"

Friday Night

Looking forward to my date with Law girl tonight. We're going for sushi, but one thing I learned from the Florist that can go by fast. So I been trying to think up some backup plans for afterwards. I can't get tickets to the Funny Bone till 10:30 which would be a long ways off. There is a pool place around the corner. I think I will suggest Starbucks and a game. I have Lifestories which is a good getting to know someone game. So we'll see. I'll pick up a flower and clean the car later on.

The totally weird thing is that L contacted me yesterday saying she dreamed she walked into Starbucks and I was on a date with someone from the legal profession. Whoa! Pretty freaky. She then went into us in a threesome, but L is always sexual.

OMG it feels so good to be just about over this cold.

Ahhhh Haaaaa

Well with emailing back and forth today with Law girl I found out I had her wrong phone number. Guess that was the problem in talking with her. So we talked some tonight and I'll pick her up Friday to go get some sushi for dinner. She just lives down the road from me which we both found funny.

I pushed hard against my normal grain to keep contact with another potential. Don't know enough of her yet to give her a nickname. However I don't want to burn a bridge if Law girl and I don't work out. I'll know more after a real date. In the past I've dropped everything at this point and it leaves me high and dry if it doesn't workout. So I'm trying not to be so black and white. It's really difficult since I'm a focuser. I like the number one. You don't have to split yourself to deal with multiple objects.

Wine and Jazz and the Art museum went well tonight with the singles crowd. It was different. You take a group of people and place them together and their can be some awkward times. I really wanted to see the Gordon Parks travelling exhibit. I go to the museum often enough to know everything else. The other attendees were newbies to it all. The jazz group was very good and it was nice to walk through the museum hearing them play. Also the price is free on these nights so its something I'll do again. One thing I really wanted to know is how the Florist and this other guys date went. His name is Mike also and he emailed the Florist and gave her some compliments especially about her outfits, which is pretty much saying you like her cleavage. Ever outfit I've seen the Florist wear has had a plunging neck line that has shown off her ample breasts. Anyway she thought is was me and emailed me back then called to say sorry. Back to tonight. The Florist usually has her ex husband or ex fiance drive her to these events. Not a great thing if you are trying to meet someone, but I don't think she gets it. Anyway Mike seemed like he was still into her, but she was with the guy she's still living with. Yes way too much drama. So I'm just curious.

A new housemate will be arriving Saturday. I'll call her Friday. I already joked about her real name which is the same as an actress's. I was surprised that my Landlord went for it with her. She's a smoker and there is no smoking in the house. He said he has no problem kicking her out if she breaks the rule. He told me how my life would be affected. The washroom probably would smell like smoke since her day stuff would be there. Also her 2 year old when visiting would use my tub for bathing so I might have a rubber duckie left in there. Let me tell you. If a rubber duckie being left in my bathroom was the total of my problems I would count my blessings.

Go North Young Man

Well I'm preparing for my trip to see my son this weekend. As always gas prices have rose when I do this. Only this time they shot up 30 cents in the last 3 days. We just blew past the $3 mark like it wasn't even there. Unfuckingbelievable! I have a few worries this time. It's suppose to sleet tonight and then warm up tomorrow. However I'll be out of here before the warm up. So I'm hoping the Bay bridge tunnel will be okay. I have my reservations driving 20 miles across open water after a sleet storm. NY itself is suppose to get 1-3 inches which in itself is nothing, but will probably make the Jersey Turnpike a nightmare. Not that it needs a reason to screw with you. Other than that I'm really looking forward to seeing Eric. I feel bad for him. Usually he has school to occupy him when I come visit him, but tomorrow he'll be home on vacation. He's going to be bouncing off the walls all day long.

Game Night went really well last night and a core group seems to be forming for it. Everyone looks forward to it and to the next one. We did find out the Buck Naked's wife's name is Mona Lot.

Tonight I have my date with Law Girl. I'm looking forward to it. I did realize that dating Spa girl did help me out. In dating a woman that I was totally not nervous about I've seen how it all flows with out the anxiety. So it really decreased any anxiety in any date since then. So we'll see.

The Teacher and I still talk, but my interest is waining. Nice person to talk to, but there's no spark of vitality that I like. The Florist still hints at dating and she can keep hinting if she wants, but it ain't happening. L is still emailing me little snippets to arouse my interest and other things. Jeez when did I get this list of women.

Salsa Coming Out of My Ears

I signed up for this month's Salsa Jam. This is pretty much an all day event of workshops and then dancing into the wee hours of the morning. I missed last month's and I figured what the hey this time around. For some reason the workshops are more geared for the women, but I hope to learn some cool things tomorrow. However I know I'm goinng to hear it from the youngins' when I want to cut out before 2 am. Let me tell you besides sex it's hard to do one thing all day long. I get tired of it. I believe the Florist is coming at night. I'm not quite sure if us just being friends has fully sunk into her brain yet. However since she is still sleeping in the same bed with her ex fiance she might never get it.

Game Night

Well Game Night was a huge success. 12 people showed up when 13 had RSVP'd. I was expecting 6. Everyone was really nice. Being the first time we worked out a few bugs for next time. Tonight we ended up splitting into two groups. Next time if we have the same crowd I would go for 3 and every 30 switch so people can mingle more. I played Outburst most of the night. I took some ribbing for knowing more woman's undergarments than my female partner. I was happy that the Florist was flying on her own and I don't have to worry about her. So everyone is looking forward to next month already.

I have a date with the Teacher Friday morning at Starbucks. It will be interesting since she is and inch taller than I am. I remember a girl back at the radio station that was 6 foot and that was something to get use to. Anyway the Teacher likes purple lilacs and peach roses. I don't know if I'll be able to find one of those for then. We'll see.

That's Interesting

Something I found very interesting last night with the Florist was that when we were talking about ex's. I had a hard time remembering facts about my marriage. Like how long we were married that kind of stuff. Wow stuff that use to roll of my tongue I really had to think about last night.

I think she may be the type of person who swings from one relationship to another. I asked her last night if the guy who didn't marry her, but still wants to be with her asked her to marry him again. What would she say? She didn't know, but was leaning towards yes. He was still verbally abusing her so I was surprised to think she was in the dating arena.

The Question?

Are you really a nice guy? That was the Florist's question when I was driving her back to her car. I asked her what she meant and she asked did I have a temper and a few other things that I can't remember. I told her there was a picture of under nice guy in the dictionary. I'm always surprised when someone says this to me. Mostly because it comes up pretty fast and I don't ever remember doing anything to make it stand out.

Anyway it was a nice evening. The Florist was a novice sushi eater so I expanded her repertoire. The food was excellent, but the place was more packed than I have every seen it and they were hurrying us once we were finished. So dinner went a lot faster than I thought it would. The Florist asked what else was in the area and did I want to do something else. I said sure. The night was still very young and I wasn't crossing any lines here. So we drove past a few places, but nothing was happening. So she suggested a video.

Now it's been forever since I've taken a woman back to my place. I had to do a mental inventory to remember if it was clean which it was. We got 3:10 to Yuma. (okay film). We sat and laid on my bed since I don't any other furniture for two besides the floor and that wasn't happening. After a while she scooted over to me. Now I didn't want this relationship to go beyond friendship and I found I couldn't get over the fence with the Florist in my mind. However when she took my hand to hold and was laying against me I had to rethink it. Could I have sex with her and still be friends. I didn't find her super attractive and I didn't want to dig a hole I would have to climb out of. I enjoyed being next to her and I left it at that. If she had been aggressive I probably would have caved since I'm only human.

So after the movie I took her back to her car and we talked awhile on her situation and I told her some of my past. I gave her a hug and the night ended. I think at some point she wants to cook for me. If she thinks we are going places I'll have to have a talk with her.

When it's Raining

I have to admit I'm not looking too forward to my sushi and drinks with the Florist tomorrow night. Lot of money and energy for just a friend. I know she wants more and I don't feel like putting my hand in a bee hive just to see if I'm going to get stung. She's a nice person and I'm happy to have a friend. So we'll see how it goes. I know she's passive with thing so I know I can steer it.

So the magnet is still in overdrive at attracting crazy shit. I got a call from Spa girl today. I couldn't talk because 2 new patients walked in the door. I told her I would call her back. I did and left a message. We'll see what happens.

Besides that it was busy as hell in the office. 3 new patients called or just showed up. With my normally scheduled patients it was a record day. So that was great, but I'm needing some slow time. I think I'll hit Starbucks before salsa tonight just to quiet my mind.

The only other thing is that my landlord decided to wait until he gets back from his trip to lease one of the rooms in the house. So I get the place all to myself for 2 weeks.

Hey Rocky Watch Me Pull a Rabbit Out of My Hat

Talked to the Florist tonight about getting together Friday for sushi. It was a fun talk. We talked about being creative, dancing, and vacationing. Hey doesn't everyone on their first phone call. She was fun and easy to talk to. Anyhoo I ask if she wants me to pick her up or meet me at the restaurant. (tune the Dragnet theme) You see the Florist is living with someone. Yeah my head was spinning on my shoulders too. So I kinda waited for her to continue. It seems she was dating this guy for 4 years. They were suppose to get married back in August and 3 days before the wedding called it off. She is no longer the woman for him. So they're still living together because with her daughter she can't afford a place on her own yet. You know I must have a magnet stuck up my ass to attract this kind of stuff. You know I can't even make this shit up, but I still find it. Anyway we'll see how drinks are Friday.

Volunteer Reader

As always it's fun to go to the elementary schools and read to the kids and tell them about the animals. To see there eyes full of excitement at what I bring with me. This year I had Honey Bunny, a full sized rabbit. She was very well socialized and wasn't nervous or anything while I held her or the kids came up to pet her. While at the shelter waiting for what critter I would get I got to pet a few dogs and I forget how much I miss having an animal at home.

So with this in the middle of the day I decided to take the day off. If someone called and wanted to come in I would have, but since no one did. I figured what the hey. So I hit Starbucks twice today to celebrate. After the gym I had time before the dance studio opened to get my shoes back so I felt like it was worth it.

The Florist left me a message on my phone thanking me for inviting her last night to dancing. So that's a plus in her corner. I'll give her a call later tonight to schedule drinks. I think she wanted me to kiss her last night, but if I don't know how I feel about you. That's not going to happen. I hate having mixed signals giving to me so I'm definitely not going to do it on my end.

Salsa Singles

I got home tonight and I can't believe I left my shoes at class. It's all Jennifer's fault. She stole my pen and wouldn't give it back. She's a pen stealer and I'm neurotic about losing my pen. Not a good match. Anyway I was pretty good and let her have it after I stole her sneakers, but hey she had like 5 pairs of shoes with her it didn't matter. So I need to traipse down there tomorrow sometime to get them.

My day is different tomorrow. It's my annual Animal Readers day. I volunteer to take an animal from the shelter to an elementary school and read to the kids and let them pet the animal. This is my 3rd year and it's a lot of fun. Not quite sure what critter I'll be getting tomorrow. The first year was a rabbit and last year was a guinea pig.

I only had 3 people show up for the singles salsa event. As usual many signed up and didn't show. However they were all women which is always beautiful since it evens out all the guys. The Florist (the blond) was able to make it from telling her about it Friday at the skating rink. I can tell she likes me, but I'm on the fence with her. I still couldn't decide by the end of the night so I asked her out for drinks hoping that one to one time will help me decide.

A few of you asked about K. I left a message, but got no response. So I move on. No biggie.