A New Chapter Begins

So I'll nickname this girl D since nothing really pops out for me. I'm use to meeting a date at Starbucks, but D wanted to meet inside of a Barnes & Noble Starbucks which if you don't know is a totally different animal. All Starbucks stuff doesn't work at these which sucks. I did something with D that I never do. I looked at her face then at her breasts. She's not big, but her shirt was so low cut it just drew my eye. That's my excuse and I'm sticking to it.One of my strong points is I can listen to anyone. By that I mean I can get people to talk usually. D was almost embarrassed that she was talking so much. She said that she usually didn't know what to say, but I was so easy to talk to. D is a strange mix like me being German and Puerto Rican.

Usually I sit there and try to figure if there is enough chemistry for a relationship which puts a lot a pressure on the date. However I used what I learned in my business meeting this week. We had fun for the 2 hours we talked. I enjoyed my time and had enough information to want to do a second date. With talking she liked museums so we're going to get together Wednesday to go to the Chrysler Jazz & Wine event. I tell you I do so many first dates there it's strange. A museum? Who knew?

Shall We Dance

Since this semesters dance class started I haven't been too enthused about it. I know it's a class and a certain amount of work is needed, but that's the problem. At my age I'm looking to have fun, not master anything. Salsa classes are becoming too much work and less and less fun. I just want to go back to the clubs and enjoy dancing when I want to. Hey I might not be the best on the dance floor, but that was never my purpose. So I'm still thinking, but I'm starting to lean towards letting it go. I also think something else that is pushing me is that 15-20 year age difference between me and everyone else. Law girl says I can easily pass for someone in their twenties and I think everyone at dance forgets it, but its really hard to bond with them. I have much more fun with my singles group which has most everyone around my own age.

Salsa not Selzer

I was not looking forward to dancing last night. I really haven't been into it over the last month since the jam which was really fun. So I got there and I did get into it. However when I started dancing I wasn't looking to be this great dancer, just to have fun. I've done a lot over the years and I know how much time is needed to be put into something to really excel.

It was fun and I took classes to bond with everyone. However I don't go out 3-4 times a week to do it, go up and down the Eastern seaboard to different salsa events. So there is a growing rift between everyone else and me in our abilities. I'm okay with that, but one of my female classmates let me have it last night with a what the hell are you doing. It stung and the fun drained out of it. Is this what parents talk about with their kids, sports, and the desire of excellence? Everyone else was cool about it, but it did make me think. I would keep dancing, but I'm not quite sure about classes anymore. I'll have to think on it.

Some More Pics

Mary & Me doing Bachata

Teaching April how to salsa

Listening to something?
Analisa teaching us to bachata

The Day After

7 hours of sasla dancing not good. Boy am I sore.

Dancing Fool

Well that was a lot of dancing and I know I'm going to be sore tomorrow. 3 hours in the afternoon at the workshop and 4 more tonight at the jam. It was a good turn out. I danced with a lot of different women. I didn't go too high above me with the dancers. I did teach a lot of beginners how to be better. What truly surprised me was hearing any time you want to dance let me know. This from seasoned dancers. My repitiore may not be large, but what I know is very good.

I got ribbed a lot by my fellow classmates since I usually don't stay out this late. Hey I remember how it was when I was in my 20's. I don't think they realize how old I am. In the room I am the oldest or one of the oldest there of the men. Again another surprise is them wanting me to stay. Hey it's a lot of fun, but staying out to all hours one night messes with the rest of the week. One that will end with me going to NY. However they are funny when they say you can't leave. I feel like I'm dealing with a little kid.

The only problems I had tonight were: 1 is the usual they are twenty-something females and I sometimes forget their age and they are totally misreading mine. Going out. Been there done that. Really not worth it. 2 is Salsera. She is the organizer of many of the salsa events in the area. Very attractive woman in her 30's. I can never tell if she likes me or not. It always seems to go up and down. On the other hand I don't think we are a good match, but I would like to know there things.

It's Tony Montoya

Tony Montoya taught us salsa today. I kid you not. Right down to the scar. It was freakin' weird. He was a good dancer, but an okay teacher. Bite size was not his middle name. It was like stuffing down a six foot hero. Oye! I did get it by the time we were finished, but it is slowly leaking out of my ear like guacamole. Couples dancing was a little rougher. I'm use to all the girls I know, but there were some really good dancers there and I felt like a numbskull trying to get it all. Hey if I'm not going to be hard on myself who else will? One of the good dancer's kepy holding my hand in a way that I felt like saying are we dating? I'm by far not a prude, but I believe somethings are appropriate when you are involved with someone. If not then their nothing really special is there?

Also I found it very interesting that the guys studio had no AC. Let me tell you we were all dripping when we came out of there.

So now I'm resting before I go back later for just normal dancing. Trying to leave my intimidation of the better female dancers at the door. I'm good with what I know and I have to remember that. My teacher drills it into my head every week. Better to be able to do a few thing really well than a lot poorly. Photos to follow.

Salsa Coming Out of My Ears

I signed up for this month's Salsa Jam. This is pretty much an all day event of workshops and then dancing into the wee hours of the morning. I missed last month's and I figured what the hey this time around. For some reason the workshops are more geared for the women, but I hope to learn some cool things tomorrow. However I know I'm goinng to hear it from the youngins' when I want to cut out before 2 am. Let me tell you besides sex it's hard to do one thing all day long. I get tired of it. I believe the Florist is coming at night. I'm not quite sure if us just being friends has fully sunk into her brain yet. However since she is still sleeping in the same bed with her ex fiance she might never get it.

Tuesday Thoughts

Well I graduated from my second salsa class. Looking forward to starting the next in 2 weeks. Since I'm in town this week I'll hit the seminar and jam to learn some more moves and have some fun. I really like to see some of the guest guys dance so I can see what they do.

Brush fires still run wild south of here and boy you can smell the smoke here. It's actually not bad. Kind of has that fireplace smell. It's way better from when they control fire some of the swamp each year, let me tell you.

I was bummed today to find out my OVDC's next door neighbor was already seeing someone. We chatted quickly last week and as my friend says she's really attractive. Yes I know. she made it clear that she was still looking out for me and I'm doing well with all her married friends. Doesn't do me any good, but it's a nice ego boost. Which is good since Match is getting really tired really fast.

Looking over my Wellness chart and feel good with everything except my finances. So I'm meeting with Loan Lady tomorrow about seeing what's in my future. Also I'm talking to the Advisor to see what I can do financially with everything I already have to see what I can sqeek out. I just want to cover all my bases as best I can. It's still hard with money tight, but I want to do the best I can and have a direction to be moving in.

Tired Tuesday

Having family around is churning up a few things for me. Bizarre dreams that I can't remember. Add to that staying up late and getting up early, I'm tired. However the weather is great. We took our Mom outside today to get some sun. She was a little more interactive. My Brother wanted to see how much she remembered. She remembered my Dad, and he friends. Didn't remember our other brother, her first husband or her last boyfriend. After a while she got tired of the questions. My SIL got blasted out of the water today. She was like I'm tired with a four year old. The volunteer she was talking to was like she does spinning classes and yoga and she was 80. She wasn't taking any excuses from her.

I got to show off my office to them which was fun and then we headed over to the beach since I had a reschedule. It was nice to relax in the sun in February. It's in the mid 70's here for some reason. Let me tell you dance class is going to be difficult tonight.

Okay for all you die hard readers who made it this far here is all the juicy stuff. L emailed me again. Jeez lady. For someone who dumped me you keep contacting me. I have to admit she is persistent. It's a relationship that will never be what I want it to be. She made it just over a month this time. So we'll see how long it is to the next one. I guess it will probably be opportunity.

Then my affair patient called wanting an appointment since she was off. All I had was late in the afternoon since I already made plans with my family and she's never that bad off. She couldn't make that which was no biggie for me. Then she was like did I grab lunch? I'm going to need to talk to this lady.

Hmm I seem to be attracting women just not the right ones.
(I'm getting tired of no spell check)

Kelly Clarkson Sucks

I have nothing against her personally it's just she and Reba were in Norfolk for a concert tonight at the Scope. See one might think that having two concert places next to each other in the downtown district of a city may be great. It starts to get sticky when neither place has parking. It gets worse when downtown is pretty tight for parking already. Now through me in trying to find parking to go to salsa. Yeah you get the picture. If I knew before I left I would have passed. Oye was it a pain in the ass.

Starbucks turned out great. I don't like to be on the cellphone when I place orders so I grabbed a seat while I finished my conversation. During this time they deliver me my drink on the house. It was great. I was even more happier that I already set my friend up to come in and give the girls roses on Valentines day.

Salsa went really well. Since we were ending early tonight everyone hit the dance floor when class ended. One woman who I haven't seen since I first started was like, "you've been taking lessons. I can tell." That was nice to hear. I don't know a ton of moves, but what I know I know how to do well. The worse thing was the temperature really dropped here and I walked out dripping wet with sweat from all the dancing. Oh boy did my head hurt.

When it's Raining

I have to admit I'm not looking too forward to my sushi and drinks with the Florist tomorrow night. Lot of money and energy for just a friend. I know she wants more and I don't feel like putting my hand in a bee hive just to see if I'm going to get stung. She's a nice person and I'm happy to have a friend. So we'll see how it goes. I know she's passive with thing so I know I can steer it.

So the magnet is still in overdrive at attracting crazy shit. I got a call from Spa girl today. I couldn't talk because 2 new patients walked in the door. I told her I would call her back. I did and left a message. We'll see what happens.

Besides that it was busy as hell in the office. 3 new patients called or just showed up. With my normally scheduled patients it was a record day. So that was great, but I'm needing some slow time. I think I'll hit Starbucks before salsa tonight just to quiet my mind.

The only other thing is that my landlord decided to wait until he gets back from his trip to lease one of the rooms in the house. So I get the place all to myself for 2 weeks.

Salsa Singles

I got home tonight and I can't believe I left my shoes at class. It's all Jennifer's fault. She stole my pen and wouldn't give it back. She's a pen stealer and I'm neurotic about losing my pen. Not a good match. Anyway I was pretty good and let her have it after I stole her sneakers, but hey she had like 5 pairs of shoes with her it didn't matter. So I need to traipse down there tomorrow sometime to get them.

My day is different tomorrow. It's my annual Animal Readers day. I volunteer to take an animal from the shelter to an elementary school and read to the kids and let them pet the animal. This is my 3rd year and it's a lot of fun. Not quite sure what critter I'll be getting tomorrow. The first year was a rabbit and last year was a guinea pig.

I only had 3 people show up for the singles salsa event. As usual many signed up and didn't show. However they were all women which is always beautiful since it evens out all the guys. The Florist (the blond) was able to make it from telling her about it Friday at the skating rink. I can tell she likes me, but I'm on the fence with her. I still couldn't decide by the end of the night so I asked her out for drinks hoping that one to one time will help me decide.

A few of you asked about K. I left a message, but got no response. So I move on. No biggie.

Tuesday Afternoon

I have to thank my friend Dawn. She owns a online toy store that sells toys to kids to help them think. I was wondering what to get Eric for his birthday next month when I met her. After looking at all her stuff I found the Techno Gear Marble Mania. Oh Eric is going to love it. Hey I love it. It's going to be really fun to give it to him.

When I was separated I never met another separated women. Most divorced women don't want to touch you with a 10 foot pole if your separated even for years. Now that I am divorced all I seem to meet are separated women. What's up with that? After dealing with Spa girl I don't want to touch them either. So where did all the divorced women go?

Well I've made tonight's salsa dancing into my next singles event. So far 5 people are coming. If none show up I still have my normal group, but if they show it will be great. Since I do this every week anyway I'll make it a weekly event.

Dancing Shoes

Marquita my salsa instructor told me that if I wanted to continue with the higher levels of salsa I would need a good pair of dancing shoes. Since I have flat feet I know I can't get away with the slipper types, but for the amount I dance a good pair of shoes would be nice. So I stopped by the dance supply place and told them I needed shoes for myself for salsa. Then the lady asks do I want high heels or not. WTF? Is some kind of code for finding out if I want Paul's or RuPaul's shoes? WTF would I want 3 inch dance shoes?

I did see CPA girl today. She didn't notice me, but she lives right around the corner from my frequented Starbucks. So I knew it would happen sooner or later. Nothing else to report on that.

We'll the interviewing for the empty rooms in the house continue. Many pregnant teenagers have applied, one mom looking to pimp her 15 year old daughter for rent, and others most have been under the weird radar since my landlord hasn't said anything. I did have lunch with one of the applicants. She's a year older than me and seems stable enough which would be good. Since she would be taking the room next to mine and we would be sharing a bathroom together. I have to have a nut job or a guy since he would probably be a slob.

Sounds of Salsa

Boy it's been 3 weeks since I've been out dancing. I kept saying I was going to practice and boy that never materialized. It came back to me, but I could have been sharper. On the way to class I was like I can take or leave this. It's kind of dried up for me. LOL. Couple of hours later I'm so back into it. Class was good, but the club was better. Mostly because we had more women then men tonight. Yes all the planets have aligned. For most of them it was their first night which wasn't great, but it was a lot of new faces which was fun. Since it was only me and one other guy we were on the dance floor constantly. I have to admit it is interesting how dancing brings people together. I might have to go back to the old Tropicana one Thursday to dance and meet someone. That atmosphere is more for that and the places I frequent it's more about dancing.

Quiet guy has given notice and he will move out of the house at the end of the month. I know my landlord is interviewing now for both rooms. I was happy when he wanted my to stay were I was. I like my room and didn't want to change. However I got so use to never having Port girl around it was like living by myself on my side. Since I work banker hours I'm hoping I don't get an early riser on my side.

Getting a little bummed since Spa girl has not returned my phone call on getting a haircut. I have to admit I got really spoiled with her. She does a great haircut and all the cleanup were awesome. If I don't hear from her by Thursday I'll go back to my old barber.

Tired Tuesday

OMG I'm exhausted tonight. Actually I don't even know why I'm blogging instead of sleeping. Guess I feel I need a real entry for Tuesday instead of just a Meme. My instructor was funny since I was breaking protocol by stopping a dance in the middle, but my brain was just getting too fuzzy to think and lead. Not to mention the music breaks which were driving me insane. Salsa songs have this notorious habit of breaking then coming back with a different timing. It's like going out on a date and throughout the night different women keep being your date. WTF? If your going to start something finish with it.

Very weird, but Spa girl has fallen off the face of the earth. Bizarre behavior since we work across the street from each other. If we never saw each other she could probably get away with it, but I'll see her Friday at the block party. Whatever.

No response from Aroma girl so life continues on. May still get something, but I sort of put things on hold since I gave her a higher priority. So now life goes on.

Office life is good and staying level. I picked up the last of the chairs today so now I have nice waiting room chairs. I also picked up a file shelf that I'll set up once I finish cleaning up my extra room. I can't believe I have pizza tomorrow night. It feels so long ago that I did it. I can't wait for it to be over.

Oh Momma!!!

The day started great with the Seamstress giving me back my leather jacket. All fixed. I was so glad to have saved the jacket at some one's suggestion. It was so nice to slip on. It's soft and just fits like an old comfortable shoe.

The rest of the day was just busy, busy, busy with a side of a lecture tossed in there at a senior apartments. Not my favorite target audience for money, but I do enjoy lecturing to them. They were very nice to say I was knowledgeable and humble doctor. So by the time the day ended I was like "that's it!" Tomorrow when I go to pizza I'm telling my manager next Friday is my last day. I can't do this anymore. Damaged my car last Wednesday, twisted my ankle Friday, and I just plain don't want to do it anymore. The other side is a second job has allowed me to live these last 3 years. However in a way it has also held me back. I just have to remember I can always go back if it gets tight again. Hopefully it won't, but I have to make sure I don't think so black & white. It will be a Christmas present to myself.

Salsa was real fun tonight. My official class ends next week then the second session starts next month. It's been a real learning experience. The little nuances have made a world of difference. So that the little I have done in the class is really good and then the other stuff I learn n the clubs I can still do for fun until we get to it in class.

Boobies & Butts

I think I'm dropping Monday night dancing. The reason its just way too crowded. There is like 40+ people now in a room that doesn't hold that many for what we are doing. It takes so long to get through the learning that by that time I need to go. So for now I have my Tuesday class and then over to 111's for dancing. Having more sleep the night before allows me to stay out later until the smoke level gets too much at the bar. We were way down in women tonight. So we tried to get the women at the bar to join in. We got one brave soul to do so. We tried to get Lori the bartender and Lindsey the waitress to join in, but they were too scared. Now it is truly funny to see these two together cause they stood on different lines. Lori's got a set of boobs on her that she proudly displays and how she keeps them in that tiny top defies the laws of physics. On the other hand Lindsey has a butt so tight it could lip sync. Both women draw a lot of attention. Better tips I'm not quite sure on.

On the work side I've decided after much thought and talking not to get a massage therapist in this office. I hate working with others since I have to deal with their idiosyncrasies. I've done it too much in the past to want to walk back into it. The other reason is that as I grow I need the room to make sure everything runs smoothly. So over the next month I'll start making that happen.

Tuesday Afternoon

Well I got my B12 shot for the day with Spa Girl stopping by. She wasn't feeling good with a headache so I took care of her. It was the mutual admiration society with compliments flying back and forth between us. Got and gave a lot of hugs. I only kissed her cheek, but really wanted to kiss her lips. However something in my mind says it's not right yet. Can't pin point it, but since we really haven't gone out it feels off. I'm heading over later when the day is finished to get a clean up on my hair and we can set something up for us to get together. Something I'm really chomping on the bit to do.

Being prepared paid off this morning with me hoping in to do the presentation at my networking event. It should give me a nice shot of more business which will hopefully get me through the holidays. However events like that charge me and I'm still trying to put the breaks on to slow down. When I'm doing Warp 5 it's very easy for me to slide back into old bad habits.

Well tonight after dancing class we're having a Thanksgiving celebration at the club. Their giving us a tapas special. For those of you who don't know what a tapas is :

Tapas - (n) exotic term used for smaller portion at normal portion prices.

I have to admit the food at the club is kick ass and I ordered the Cool Tuna and Baby Buffalo burgers with a spinach salad. I doubt if there will be any dancing after eating for me.