The Long and Winding Day

I'm tired. I spent the first half of my day in meetings. First up was my usual Tuesday BNI meeting. It went well. Do you remember the character Pat from the old SNL bits. Well "Pat" walked into our meeting today. I held this comment in, but I had to share it before I had an aneurysm with it.

Right afterwards I had to zoom over to another meeting across the city. It was a seminar on Constant Contact which I use with my patients and associates. The interesting thing about being a chiropractor or maybe its just me is that I know people from there backs. Hey it's what I have conversations with during treatment. I mention this since as I was walking in I spotted one of my business neighbors from the back of her head. The bigger surprise was when I'm sitting down during the seminar and I notice up a few rows the back of the head of Aroma girl. I'm not quite sure if she ever noticed me, but I did notice her. I had to admit I felt a little uncomfortable. Although after I talked to someone about it I realized I didn't have anything to feel uncomfortable about.

Aroma girl was the first woman I dated for short period of time after my separation from my ex. She ended up dumping me since I wanted to wait on having sex. Yes I know me. Actually I think this is why sometimes I move fast nowadays.

Anyway I ended up leaving early so I could pick up a physician's scale for $20. It was a steal and I was happy. I then raced back to the office to see a new patient who had forgotten there appointment. She works in a doctor's office so I had hoped this wouldn't happen, but it did. I was able to reschedule her later in the day. However then all my patients were back to back and I couldn't get to eat. What made it worse was my last patient was late.

So I ended up hurrying out of the office to meet the singles for Gran Torino. I've been wanting to see this movie for a while and it was great. Even old Clint Eastwood still packs a wallop. It may have been a $1 movie, but boy did they screw me over on food. With tip I ended up spending $15 for a coke and wings. WTF.

Anyway there was no 3rd letter for Phili or cops banging on the door for her. I was surprised that she left as many clothes here as she did. Besides some personal affects.

Breaking News

Hmmm, let me think how should I state this.... should I relate how it played out or should I just get to the point? I'll go for the latter. Phili is gone. Shocked huh? Yeah I was. When I got home tonight I asked the Landlord if he had heard if had heard from her. So he pulled out two letters. Friday she had called and told the Landlord that she was going to McLean and wouldn't be back till Monday. She had called me and that same night asking if she left her hair dryer plugged in and asked a few questions about dinner. Anyway the first envelope had her key and was postmarked in Charolettesville on Friday which is no where near McLean. Oh yeah there was no note. However the second letter which was post marked Louisville, Kentucky on Saturday said that she wouldn't be back, that she would send the money owed, and that everything was okay. Yeah right, lol. The weird thing is that she left stuff here. While not much, she didn't have much to begin with.

So the Landlord is thinking of going only guys in the house again. However before that he's thinking of going to visit his family again. So that would give me the place to myself for a few weeks.

Well for me at least one problem has been solved.

Monday Changes

Since the ex and I have been doing well lately I texted her this morning on Eric flying down by himself. It would save me hundreds of dollars over the summer with bringing him back and forth not to mention the time. She said she would ask him and get back to me ASAP.

I'm on a mission to get my abs in better shape. While the rest of me is in good shape my abs have always been something I wanted better. With hiking with L every week and a bike ride another day I've covered my cardio which I knew needed work.

I seem to be getting better contacts this week. So I'm working on them as soon as I get all the contact information. I felt very popular this morning when I looked at the reports for my newsletter going out. Usually it takes 3 days for everyone to open them. I send out about 378 and 62 to get opened. However I'm already up to 55 on a Monday which was great. Hopefully new people will be opening them.

Other than that I'm trying to work on how to get the most out of my radio interview next week. Since there is no shelf life it's all or nothing.

What a Picture is Worth

Well welcome aboard my day in pictures. First off I head off to Mt. Trashmore for the Earth Day festival.

Black Bird Pond was playing there. They play original songs that are rock 'n roll. The lead singer sounds like Christine Hine from the Pretenders. I like them. I hadn't seen them in about 4 years.

The singles that were on time. Other joined us as we walked around.

Afterwards I met with L to go hiking on the beach. We're trying to hook up once a week to walk. She does it twice a day since she has Trevor the dog, but with me she'll do longer distances. As is normal its more fun to exercise with someone else.

It was a hot hike with intermittent rain. The beach was pretty empty of people except for an attractive woman that kept pacing up and down a stretch of sand.

Sunday in the Park

Earth Day went very well. I got to watch all the model boaters with there remote control ships while everyone got there. It began to rain about 5 minutes after we started walking around. We ducked under a tent to wait it out. It only poured for a few minutes then it was back into the sun. A few members turned in there plastic bags for a free cloth shopping one. We looked at and got in the Smart cars. I was making too many jokes to remember to take pictures of them. A second little shower had us duck into one of the covered picnic areas. I talked to a very attractive lady at the MS table. I was thinking of asking her for her number, but finances are not where I want them and summer is coming up with Eric's visits which have priority. Afterwards we stopped to watch the band. It was Black Bird Pond who I like. There a local band that I saw years ago. I saw more dark clouds coming so I left before they arrived.

Now I'm just relaxing and cooling off at Starbucks before I meet L for a hike. I think L is falling into that category of I don't want you, but I don't want anyone else to have you. She flirts with me a lot. When we went to see that band a couple weeks ago I pretty much got a lap dance standing up from her. I usually push her then to see her answer and she never follows through. I think she just likes keeping me enticed.

Game Night

Woohoo. I finally got to play at the geek's table last night. Saturday game nights are usually very well attended so we have to split into groups. Usually its Game boy and myself heading the groups. However last night Server guy spoke up and took the group to another table. He took my normal traditional route of games. So I got to play some of Game Boy's games which are reminiscent of my gamer days. While the geek table is never the loud laughter table is was a lot of fun. Actually between Saturn girl and a new girl at the other table they were loud as hell and drawing a lot of stares. On a side note I think the Photographer and Game boy have broken up.

Today there having an Earth day celebration at the local park. So between the singles and my patients, we'll be attending the event. I heard it was a lot of fun last year. They keep saying it's going to rain, but still sunny. So we'll see.

Tapestry

So I'm working on my pessimism today. What was funny was that I felt very pessimistic after I got the results of my tests yesterday. Anyway I started with saying how it was going to be a good day. Boy that was a wet bag of cement to lift. The tapestry of my subconscious quickly unraveled as I realized how before everything I have a negative thought. Whether the phone may ring, interaction with person, the mail arrives, etc. I have this feeling something bad is going to happen and it will have been my fault. So low self-esteem strikes again. I'm use to tackling this problem after it happens, but now I'm working on getting at it at the source so I start looking forward to things. I may enjoy everything, but it's such a waste of energy to go completely negative and then climb back up to being positive.

Phili Free

When I got home tonight the Landlord told me that Phili wasn't eating dinner with us, but Inverse's daughter would be. No biggie, but when I got upstairs I saw her toothbrush was gone. Could she be gone for the weekend? When I asked the Landlord, he confirmed that she went up to see her bf (?) in DC. So I thought I was free this weekend until she called me to see if she left her hair dryer plugged in her room. It was no where to be seen. I answered questions about dinner and the such and then she was gone. Even a couple of hundred miles away and we're still talking.

It was a relaxing night. I ended up chatting with L on FB most of the night. We set up a hike for next Thursday after work. I don't remember how it came up, but she thanked me for brushing her hair while we were dating. I remember she use to fall asleep in my arms while I was doing it. I was surprised that she thanked me. I offered to do it for her anytime since I love brushing hair. She offered her driveway for me to park anytime I went down to the beach.

Hey I'm Off the Chart

Usually when you're off the charts it means a good thing. Not with an Attributional Style Questionnaire which measure how optimistic and pessimistic you are. I'm at a -1 which isn't even on the chart or very pessimistic. I know that's my history, but I thought I would have come up. Although I have no idea what it would have been years ago. China here I come it would be so low. I took the test since it does correlate with how you do with sales. While I do have hope I know my knee jerk reaction is that something bad will happen. I guess something else to work on harder. Too many years of being trained like a monkey that the read and green buttons both zap your ass.

One thing I realized the other day is that I still really have few close friends. While I now know more people than I have ever in my life. Close friendships are still few and far between. 10-15 years ago when most of my close friendships ended either because they were toxic or physical distance just separated us I was left to my lonesome. Since then I haven't formed many deep friendships. While I have a few, most of them aren't local which I miss. I guess that's why I like the singles group so much since it does get me together with other people. While I now have some friends, I wouldn't classify any of them as deep friendships. I guess like my friend Paul and I always talk about. We have many healthy hobbies, but they are all singular. So all I bond with are crazy people or geeks. What can I say.

Bummed I was hoping to go hiking with L over the weekend since we couldn't hook up during the week, but it's not going to happen. So we'll have to try again next week. In an attempt to increase my cardiovascular work I think I'll go biking tomorrow instead. Just like doing this stuff better with people. I tell you deep down I have this funny feeling that L and I will be together again somewhere off in the far future. I don't know why. She doesn't have a nurturing bone in her body, but belief wise we are right on. Who knows?

Crazy Is

With all that's going on with Phili I've been asked many times what's my thing with crazy chicks. I forget that I've been blogging for years and many people haven't been reading that long. The thing is my Mom was nuts as was my ex wife. Dealing with crazy women is like a pacifier for me. While I'll end up with diaper rash from it, it is a comfortable place. When my ex and I broke up our marriage counselor told me that there would be no way I would go from my ex to a healthy relationship. I've lived by those words over the last 4-5 years and 60-70 women later. I can spot the craziness a mile away. It's still very attractive and probably always will. Just nowadays I have a choice if I want to enter that insane world again. It's how the Destroyer got her name. She's very attractive, active, and I know she's crazy as a loon. While I haven't seen anything super tangible, I've seen little things that set off alarms inside me. If I lived in the same space as her I would be talking about her everyday instead of Phili.

The funny thing is also how I perceive things. I'm attracted to nurturers even though I've never really dated one. I bring this up as I compare Inverse and Phili. Inverse had a very sexual body and pretty much offered to sleep with me. However knowing she just uses people didn't make her attractive to me. While Phili is unbalanced and a attractive athletic body she is also a caring person. So she is more attractive to me. Not quiet sure where I'm going with this now except that I'm starving and need food.