Second Thoughts

Working on not being so black & white with Spa Girl. While I like her part of me is leery to get involved with a women who is still getting her head put together. I remember what my therapist said to me when I was talking about dating again. She said Michael any healthy women will run the other way from a person just getting out of a marriage. While I believe it is 16 months since her separation or she had a husband thrown in jail and left. So I have to remind myself that we can always be friends. I'm not quite sure where I am going with her. For now I am enjoying the ride.

I called Eric tonight and he asked when we were getting together next. I asked did he get my letter. He said he did, but forgot to read it. So like any kid he went straight for the cards and forgot the letter. LOL. So he wants to bring his new bike with us so he can learn to ride. So we'll be very busy with boxing lessons and bike riding.

I cleaned house with my links. If I'm linked on your end and not here let me know.

Wednesday at Starbucks with Spa Girl

Well I stopped over at the spa to say hi to Spa girl. She asked about coffee and we tried to find a day and today worked. So we walked around the corner to Farm Fresh. They have one inside and it's the best place to pick up download cards since their traffic is low. She's a big coffee drinker and a regular there I found out.

So we got to talk about many things. Mostly marriage. Hers was way more abusive then mine and she is in the place I was 2-3 years ago. I did find out I'm year older than she is which I wasn't quite sure. We talked about many things. Life in general to furniture. It was a nice conversation and nice to be on a date with someone in my age category. I suggested we go see the interior design show Sunday since she really likes that stuff and my friend wanted me to come and see her work. We hugged at the end, but it was a little awkward since it was in the spa with people around.

I like her, but I am not head over heels since I know she isn't in the right place. However I know if she warmed more so would I. Not that she wasn't warm during out talk it's just she is moving slow and totally understand it.

Other than that my lecture at the law firm worked out very well. I believe I scored some patients from it and another lecture at their other office.

Well That's Over

Well 6 weeks of work came to an end today with our visitor's day at my business group. We had a excellent turn out and many new people wanting to join. That will be the next phase of the work reviewing and interviewing the applicants. However it was very satisfying since it had become my baby and it was nice to run smoothly.

It worked to my advantage last night that salsa was cancelled since it allowed me to get to sleep early since I really needed to be at my meeting early this morning. So tonight I'll pay my tuition for 6 weeks to really learn all the basics.

Lastly the blood has finally returned to my brain and I'll hold off on having Spa girl come to the office until we go out. It's such a boundary with me not to date patients. For me to do my job right I have to be doctor and I need information and other stuff to do my job well and not to short change the patient. The reason these lines aren't crossed is that there is a power relationship going on. I have it you don't and that is no way to start a relationship. However I will stop over there tomorrow to say hello.

Now I need to gear myself up to do a presentation at a law firm tomorrow.

TMI Tuesday

1. Do you believe in ghost? If so have you every seen one? I guess I never really thought about it. However I have seen and no I wasn't on drugs. When we first moved down here to VA there use to be a child that use to run up and down our halls. I never mentioned it to my ex and then one night we were talking about it and she described the same thing I use to see.

2. What’s the scariest movie you ever saw? The Two Sisters. I'm not a horror fan, but this was suppose to be more suspense. What a fuckin' load of crap that was. It was HORROR all the way. I didn't even finish watching it.

3. If you were given a house that was free would you accept it if it was haunted? No. There's just some bad mojo there.

4. If you were given a house that was free would you accept it if the last person had been murdered in it? Even though the odds of it happening again are astronomical that's just some really bad karma.

5. What was your most favorite costume you wore for Halloween? I would say 4th grade I was a werewolf. My brother's girlfriend did my face with a eye brow pencil. Everyone wanted to see it.

Bonus (as in optional): What’s your most memorable Halloween memory? My ex wife found out I had cheated on her on Halloween. 5 days later I stated to change my whole life around.

The Common Mistake

Got to talk to MK Lady about dating and the such and she was like, "how old are you?" She was a little shocked when I said I would be 41 in a few weeks. She though I was younger than her 38 years. This the common mistake. Most people don't peg me for over 30. It's probably why I attract younger women even though I don't anything in common with them. I see it whenever I talk to someone my age and a twenty something. Like MK Lady said fun for a few dates, but when it's Happy Days what? It's time to bail.

As those people who follow me on Blogger I have changed my layout since I was bored. Kind of went with the sane and insane stuff in my life.

The Sunday Wrap Up

Even with the time change I still woke up a few minutes before 8 this morning. I could have slept. Anyway since the fall has finally come to the area I had to iron shirts for the week. That was the great thing about summer. Polo shirts really don't need to be ironed.

So I have joined the bandwagon of save the cheerleader, save the world. It took several episodes, but Heroes did grow on me. Now I just need to see the rest of the season.

Today's health fair went well although I think I might have seen more adults than kids. Kids are always fun to deal with and I was very surprised to see how many flat feet were not being treated out there. I'm glad it ended a little early. As soon as the bouncy castle came down I was out of there. The 4 hours were long.

The best part of it was that Spa Girl gave me a call. We talked for a few minutes. She couldn't do tomorrow, but wanted to do next week. I was okay with it, but I have to admit I hate this waiting around. In waiting to see if it will work out with the basics I have no patience and I guess that is my lesson here. She was apologetic about charging me for my hair and said next time it would be free. She keeps saying she needs to come see me. I told her to stop on over. She said she would have to wait till she got insurance. Part of me wants to say don't worry about it and the other says just wait. If we start dating I will have no problem, but I don't want her beholden to me if I'm treating her for free or if that is a secret plan of hers. Time will tell. I told her I would talk to her during the week. So I'll pop on over Wednesday to see her.

Day of Rest

Well I finally rented out Heroes to watch after I hear everyone talk about it. I have to admit he first episode was a little slow for me, but the second did catch my interest. What sucked was that their was only 2 episodes on the first disc so I had to rent the second disc to see if I liked it. I have to admit that it is growing on me.

On a day I could sleep late I was up nice and early. After laying around in bed I did some stuff that needed to be done like laundry and cleaning. One thing that I did accomplish that I have been meaning to do is fix my photo album. I realized when CPA girl showed me hers that I really needed to upgrade mine. I mean I was with my ex for 16 years of my life. So I unweaved her today so that when women want to see my past this other woman isn't just dominating it. Another thing that came up then was something that also came up when I dated Brenda 2 years ago. I hold off on telling stories of my history since it's not nice. It's weird and unhappy shit. Everyone that knows me looks at me and wonders how I segwayed into a pretty normal life. I don't really have an answer beyond that I try to do the right thing.

It sparked in my mind yesterday when Spa girl and myself were talking and she was like we could compare notes on ex's. Some things I just steer around until some bonding had taken place first and maybe some DNA. My one worry with Spa girl is that she is still not divorced even though they are living in separate states. Sounds familiar to me. However she is just getting back out. She seems very assertive which I always find attractive, but their is an undercurrent of manipulation. Something that makes me wary since I seem to attract these women. So far all she has done is to keep getting me in her chair. So like the Geisha am I only business?

I have to thank CinnKitty for this one. Since it is very true. Spa girl has a smile that lights up my world, she's attractive, and I enjoy talking with her. So whatever concerns I have go out the window.

Spa Girl Update

Well we had our monthly block party today. What a difference a day makes. It was 15 degrees cooler and a LOT windier. So it made things a little rougher. Spa girl waved to me when she first got to work with her big smile. Yeah I like her.

I was happy to have my friend stop by. Especially MK Lady and daughter so the could meet Spa Girl and hopefully start a business relationship. She really liked her and wants updates. I had a few patients want to come in so I had to leave early and I told Spa girl I would stop by afterwards.

So I stopped by just to confirm when we would get together. She was like lets clean up your ears. So while talking I cut a trim, wash, and I have no idea what else. She just kept running her hands through my hair so I was like whatever. Anyway we got to talk a lot. She's going through her divorce still. Has a 19 year old daughter. Been a hairdresser for the same amount of time. Has lived in the area for about a year and hasn't really gotten out much. She's a great person to talk to and that smile is awesome. On the way out I asked about Monday she was going to give me her number then she took mine instead. So we'll see.

The Sky is Falling

That's what happens when you live under oak trees when there is a wind storm. I was pleasantly surprised to make it into the house with not being hit as everything around me was being pummelled.

Bizarre night at pizza. I got to deliver 3 free pizzas. THREE. That means not tip plus I got stiffed twice so I was soo happy tonight. It seem to spread as on driver got fired and the new assistant manager was having a mental breakdown. It's funny, people want to be managers. The funnier thing is that they don't know manager is another name for babysitter. So when all the employees are throwing fits and tantrums they look so confused. Like I'm suppose to be making good money and running the store not dealing with every one's problems. ROFLMAO! I find this hilarious cause everyone always ask when am I going to hire staff. Well besides being the number one biggest expense, having staff is just another work for day care. I don't want to pay to take care of some one's kids. I've done it before with someone else's money and it was a big pain in the ass. I'll survive just fine on my own.

In talking with my brother today about out kids he stated it was unfair that our young kids have to worry about getting jumped so young. I had told him the story of Eric getting jumped. He told me about my niece Lucy who is 3 getting screamed at by another boy who threatened to spit on her. I don't think he has been in the loop for a while. I knew problems have been getting younger and younger. During the 90's it was down to kindergarten so I guess now it's in the preschools.

I was happy to hear that Eric had a fun Halloween. Although his friend got shaving creamed and another kid got hit by an egg. He asked me why kids did that and I didn't have an answer other than some kids like to hurt and scare others.

Thursday Thirteen

Thirteen Things I Need to Get Done Today

1. Treat my patients - hey it's a work day
2. Change all decorations from Halloween to Thanksgiving - I keep the office decorated all year round just with different themes. The therapist across the hall laughs at me, but I have to look at this place all week long so it needs to change
3. Move all pictures in office - every month this happens to give a little change to the office plus it puts certain pictures in people's face
4. Print up last month’s patient notes - my handwriting sucks. hey I took the class in school so I type a lot better and faster. Just need to print and file it all.
5. Visit my Mom - get in my twice weekly visits and do her nails today
6. Stop by Walmart for supplies for block party tomorrow - everyone in NY keeps asking "what?" However it is 75 here today.
7. Go to Speed Networking event - I don't know about this event. I get some patients out of it, but the cost doesn't balance out
8. Pick up folders for next week’s Visitor’s day - I'm in charge of our Visitor's day at my networking group so I need to get the pamphlets together
9. Review all patient charts seen last month - just to make sure I'm crossing my t's and dotting my i's. Are patients doing well, have they dropped out, etc.
10. Call my brother with an update - we talked about Mom for a little while, but we ended up talking about parenting and child bullying. Yeah I'm surprised too.
11. Stop by library for another book to read - almost finished with this book and need a new one in the warm up spot.
12. Pick up some more Thanksgiving decorations - I don't have any hanging decorations for Thanksgiving. The pumpkins will work, but I want something else.
13. Go to pizza - Gotta be there at 5




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