A Year Later

Okay I know you women out there think you have the monopoly on this, but I'm sad to say you don't. In 3 days it'll be a year since I met the Planner. I have to admit I'm sad. While I know now that we weren't a perfect match and the problems we had. I'm not looking to be back together with her. However besides my ex wife the Planner holds the spot of longest relationship. I know at a measly 4 months it's not much compared to 16 years, but no one has really taken that spot in my heart in the last year. So while I miss her I also miss being in a relationship with someone. I have to admit over the last month I've stopped turning my head when I see a car like hers in the area even though she lives no where around here. So I'm surprised that I still have this sadness all this time later.

Surprised Myself

Eric called me for his school project on the family tree. He had to focus on one country on the tree. His mom's side is all Irish and can easily be tracked. So he asked a few things about my Dad's side which is Italian. I have that tree all written down for myself when I was curious a few years ago as everyone is starting to die off. My Mom's side which is Filipino is more obscure. Her parents were dead before any of us came along. My older brothers knew her half sisters and brother. They were just names that were occasionally mentioned in passing. Honestly I met my first Filipino person when I was in chiropractic college in my twenties.

Anyway Eric was focusing on the Philippines for his project. Jeez I was impressed on how much shit I was able to pull out of my ass on the subject. Since I've been a chiropractor I've met and dealt with a lot of Filipinos. Hey they pervade the medical field. Plus now being in Virginia Beach, I think we have the highest concentration on the east coast, Jersey may have more. So I knew there were over 7000 islands making it up, the Chocolate hills, government, food, etc. The biggest problem was that he wanted names of people which I didn't have. I knew my Mom was named after her grandmother and I believed her last name was Aguilar. However her parents were a blank which he kept asking about. I don't think he could fathom that we didn't know.

Memorial Day

I tell you I can just sleep. I've slept really late the last 2 mornings something I haven't done in a while and it felt good. Too many early meetings lately have left me wanting more. It's funny I may still get my 8 hours, but when I get up earlier than my normal time it leaves me tired. My body is just set for a certain time.

Last night the singles and I met for the Funny Bone comedy club. It was a nice group since most people had never been there and their were many newbies to the group. I have to admit that we had to military women in attendance. No offense to any military woman, but usually not the most feminine looking. However these two were extremely attractive. The comics were great and it's always funny when they get people from the audience that are hilarious. The last comic Steven Burn grabbed 5 guys from the audience to make a boy band named Sausage Factory. 4 of the guys were good, but one guy nicknamed Prison Fuck Toy was soo funny. I thought the comedian was going to fall off the stage from laughing.

With the weather mixed I decided to pick a cheap movie for today. So we're off to see Paul Blart, Mall Cop.

I've Got a Feeling, A Feeling I Can't Hide

Did I ever mention I hate feeling "bad" feelings. I went to visit my Mom today and it was an off day for her. They were going to give her a nap when I got there, but they were like no hurry. So I did her nails and tried calling my brother, but he wasn't around. My Mom was a lump on a log today and not very responsive. So I left there feeling sad which is an appropriate feeling, but I don't like it. I never do and I know that sounds childish, but it's been a life long battle. My psych profile says I'm too sensitive. When I was first told that I was like yeah right. However the explanation that it's because I'm too sensitive and don't know how to handle my feelings is why I avoid them like the plague. I'm better with them, but we're not best buds yet.

Clubbing 2

Okay I'm a little more awake today after spending most of the day outside in the sun. So I remember more of the fun stuff from last night's clubbing. One of the most funniest things was that my friend Anna was starting to yawn so she asked her friend for something. The women were still chattering, but all the guys were looking to what she was going to get to stop yawning. After a bag was completely emptied out a Green Tea energy drink was produced. A small thing which Anna downed with a nasty face. What was great about this? Well 10 minutes later she sat back down at the table after getting a drink from the bar. She was chattering away so fast with different accents that we just watched her and smiled. I don't even think she realized what the hell she was doing. It was too funny.

I tell you once the place became a club the men's bathroom became a beauty parlor. I never saw so many guys primping at once. I felt like I was in the wrong bathroom. It was really weird.

The last thing I noticed is that people don't really dance in clubs. Singles just bounce around, some with better bounce then others. While couples the woman grinds her ass against the guys crotch. That was it. I expected better dancing for some reason. I guess from my time doing salsa and talking to other people who dance that it can really become a great thing to watch. Not last night.

Clubbing

I met up with my friend Anna tonight on her visit from Colorado. It's been 2 years since I've seen her. Most people there I didn't know or only met once 2 years ago. While Anna and I are friends it's a strange mix and it gets weirder with her friends. They're not bad people just we're different. Almost everyone smoked at the table and listened to black and death metal music. Not really my thing. It was interesting talking to the guys since we were just tourist at the party.

We all met at Guadalajara's which I knew from Happy Hour with the singles. They all wanted to stay until the place becomes a club at night. During the day and evening this is a normal restaurant, but at night it becomes a club. You know pay to get in velvet rope type deal. It was really freaking weird to watch them set this up and have people wait outside. It was very interesting to see women in there 50's hanging outside to get in. Can we say cougars? I did learn from one of the guys that read Cosmo that women in there 30's are termed Pumas and over 40 cougars. Hey who knew? This place just packed up. The owners got rid of all the tables and chairs and instant club.

Now I was never a club person growing up. So being 42 hasn't changed that or made it better. It's loud, hot, and an alien place to me. My ears are still ringing.

Sunny Saturday

It was a great morning in the office. If one patient hadn't cancelled I would have been booked solid which would have been a first. So number wise the week ended well, but collections were still down which sucks. Especially when I can almost see the surface and break through the debt wall when another debt comes due and pulls me back down. Getting tired of it and at times feel like curling in a ball about it. I just need a little more each week to start balancing out. I was looking around for a part time job, but the economy must really suck cause there isn't much there. We're a tourist city and for the last few weeks there has been no tourist jobs and we just went in to the summer season. WTF?

Today was the annual Strawberry festival. Each year I'm asked the same question of "why do you go to a strawberry festival if you don't like strawberries." Well there is plenty else to do. I've been going for 4 years now and this year they added a lot more. The dog show was one of them as was many more crafts. The usual pig races, food, and bands were all there. The singles and I had a blast, although I think I got sunburned on my neck. A spot I forget a lot until it's too late.

Tonight I'm meeting up with an old friend that is visiting from Colorado. A bunch of her friends, me being one of them are meeting for drinks. I don't know anyone which I never really like doing even though I handle myself in these situations every week. Just an old tape playing that I don't seem to get rid of.

Hello I Must Be Going

My first weight loss patient is doing well. 2 pounds in 3 days with one slip. The bigger change though is how she was dressed today and how she presented herself. How she was feeling about herself was much improved which was great. It was nice to help someone in a new way.

I have to tell you I'm really sick of Bluetooths. While they may make schizophrenics feel better that others are talking to themselves. It sucks for the rest of us. I can't believe that the users forget how loud they are talking and that having a conversation about someone standing right next to you is probably not a good idea. I stopped by Subway for lunch today and got stuck behind a lady with a Bluetooth if you're wondering. Besides her too loud conversation her comments about everything around her was really rude.

Surprising for a holiday weekend this was I think my busiest day and it's very busy tomorrow in the office. Sad to say it already looks slow next week.

What Friday Brings

Since I had game night with the singles, L and I cut our hike short. It was still a good walk and she was in good form. I'm not quite sure what the other night's sharing was all about. One thing I did learn is not to sit for a few hours after a hike. Yeow!

Game night was good. Half the group cancelled at the last minute, but we had a good size crowd. A lot of new faces so the chemistry was a lot different with people getting to know each other. I guess I would say most everyone had a very strong personality which kept swinging around the table.

I'm happy today is a busy day in the office, but I do have a complaint. Originally one patient switched her appointment late which was no big deal until all the late appointments switched to earlier ones. Now I have a 5 hour opening. Oye! I have somethings to get done, but I don't know how many businesses are going to give me the answers I want the day before a 3 day weekend.

Someone to Love

I see with the economy in the toilet everyone is trying to hook up or appear like they've hooked up. I found this over on List of the Day and I had to admit it was an interesting idea. It's the Imaginary Girlfriend. Women get paid to be an imaginary girlfriend. At the end of the paid period you two love birds break up. Now I'm really surprised they don't have this for women who get a lot more flack then guys on this. I did see an ad yesterday for guys for escorts for women and I see you ladies like your guys young cause I was way out of the age limit. I guess people's priorities are still sex and recreation.

Today is phone calls which I truly hate. The insurance ones are okay, but my lead generation ones are not. While I'm only on for 20 seconds unless they want to talk I'm just following up on people I met in person. I know it's a low self esteem problem. That I'm bothering them or imposing. I know most people don't care and some are happy to chat.

Tonight is a busy one with my weekly hike with L then I'm off to game night with the singles.