I had talked to Eric about having his phone on since I keep calling, but all I ever get is the voice mail which isn't hooked up. I also broached the subject of the holidays since it would be the first after his grandfather's death. He did his usual that he was tired and wanted to get off the phone. However I was ready for him this time and just kept going. I talked about how it had been for me with my Mom's death. He took it pretty well. Anyway that was last week. It's been a week of daily phone calls and getting his voice mail.
So today is my birthday and I'll skip trying to call him to see if he calls me to wish me a happy one. I'm going to have to step up my firmness with him on this issue with the phone. Especially since my ex is a waste with any help. It's what I share with others on doing when things are happening, but it seems I need to follow my own advice and not be so soft on the kid.