On Farting

I guess I worded it wrong. I didn't fart all night with Tech girl. That's why I felt it the next morning.

I found this on Match.com magazine. A questionnaire to see if your date is relationship worthy.

And how do you figure out if a prospective mate’s character is up for it? Answer the following questions honestly, and you’ll save yourself a lot of time by avoiding the wrong partner.

• Is your date kind, respectful and appropriately generous to waiters/waitresses, bus drivers, sales clerks, etc.?
• Has he or she confessed to any immoral behavior: Cheating, stealing, lying, inappropriate aggression? If so, how much reflection on this and desire to change has this person shown since then?
• Does the person you’re dating have any addictions: Drinking, gambling, shopping? Does he or she want to change—and is he or she working to make change happen?
• Does he or she have a lot of lasting friendships or hardly any?
• Does your date always tell stories about bad dynamics he or she experiences with other people? Or does he or she seem to get along easily, even swimmingly, with others?
• Does your sweetie comment on news stories with a sense of empathy and awareness, or is he or she low on expressing compassion for all that is going on in this world?
• Have you witnessed your date doing small acts of kindness (leaving a very big tip for no apparent reason, helping someone with his or her shopping bags)?
• Does this person donate time, money and energy to good causes or charities?
• Does your date value self-growth—and show this by being open to hearing your grievances, accepting responsibility for problems when merited, and sharing with you how much he or she values learning lessons in life?
• Does he or she truly value open communication and know how to listen? When you’re upset or need nurturing, does this person deal with the problem at the speed of life or shut down/stonewall/attack/condescend? A relationship will survive not based on how well you get along but by how well you don’t get along. A couple is only as strong as how well the two individuals can deal with their weakest moments together.

Now that you know these 10 key criteria, you can focus on dating people with true keeper potential—those who, if you invest in them, will pay you back with a lifetime of rock-solid love.

Feeling My Age

The weekend with Tech girl left me feeling my age. Sex, 3 times in 12 hours has become rough for me. I'm more accepting of it than I was 2 years ago when I was dating L. That's when I first started seeing changes in my sex life. Although I have to admit each woman I date has a very different level of sex drive. So what I'm use to is low while Tech girl's is high. Hopefully like sports I can work back up. However this is where the bells & whistles plays in for me. While love is slow and enjoying the ride. Lust is up against the wall passion that is low here. So again it's virgin territory. I'm use to having more lust at this point and I don't have it to work with.

Dropped off another birthday balloon today for a patient, but the office has several of my patients there. They made the comment that I'm better than most husbands and boyfriends. Hopefully I won't be cornered somewhere by some spouse that forgot.

Like a Virgin

I was reading one of my books on love this week. It said that when you find something great that there won't be any bells & whistles, but instead a quiet peaceful calm. Whether this is what I have with Tech girl I don't know, but let me tell you it's different. I'm use to having all these feelings to surf on and carry me along. However when I say that it brings up bad stuff. Before I started down this spiritual path 8 years ago I loved having the strong feelings just carry me along since I never had to take any responsibility for anything. Things just happened in my mind. Now everything is a conscious choice with Tech girl even sex. I'm calm and aware of all that is happening. I feel like a Jedi knight, lol.

However there are still little bumps in the road. I'm here in Starbucks and this woman was here. The bells and whistles type. I find myself looking over at her many times. She's just about to get up and come over by me to throw something out. I want to take a closer look, but before I look up I see my bookmark. "When you got something special, never forget it." It's always interesting were a gift will come from.

This relationship is virgin territory for me. I'm glad I'm calm cause this really could freak me out.

Nugget of Triumph

Tech girl met me at my place for our date. I'm so use to going to there places that it's a little weird when women come to my place. So I showed her around and then we settled down to talk. I was massaging her feet when she dropped a huge, juicy piece of information. You see the Photographer and Tech girl are in another Meetup group together. They had dinner together Thursday night. I had wondered if they would talk, but didn't worry since it was the past. If became a problem then a red flag would be raised. Anyway the Photogarpher has a blurting issue so she asked Tech girl if I had told her that we had dated. ???? Whatever. So she wanted to make sure that Tech girl knew the problem with me. Any guesses? Should I wait till the next entry?

The reason she dumped me was that I was too nice of a guy. She couldn't deal with it. That's why she likes Gameboy. There's no real commitment, he's a bit of an ass, and if he ever had her meet his kids she would bail. Her words not mine. My day was made. You don't usually get this kind of prize with and ex and I savored it. Tech girl said she spent a bit of time explaining to the Photographer that me being a nice guy was a good thing and that she was looking for something more meaningful than a bit of an ass. LMAO.

Tech girl had a bunch of gift cards to PF Changs so she took me there for lunch where we enjoyed their lettuce wraps and wok seared lamb. Both very yummy. We did some picking around the remnants of Linen & Things, but it was pretty much picked clean. Then with full bellies we headed back to my place for a nap.

Our talk to hold off on sex went right out the window. It's been a while since I've been with a woman that is as sexual as I am or more so. I was pleasantly surprised and quite a change from what I'm use to. We were a little late to game night.

Afterwards we stopped at Wendy's for some fries since Tech girl had a craving for them. Then back to my place to watch Somethings Gotta Give which she had never seen before. Not quite sure how much of it she saw this time. By the time everything was done and over with it was late so I had someone to snuggle with for the night. After the Planner and her sleeping habits it was nice to hold someone close while sleeping. The only bad thing was the 6 am wake up for Tech girl to go to church. At least she made it out of here by 7:30.

The truly funny thing I hear from you ladies is not farting in front of the guys you are with and having abdominal issues when they leave. Boy did I have that this morning. I didn't think I farted that much during the night. Oh well learn something new every day.

Friday Fun

I'm impressed with all the advances in dental technology. With new compounds and lasers my filling matches my tooth and you can't even tell it's there. Pretty cool.

I've always believed relationships are important in business, but the realization that my actions don't correspond with that have caused some changes here. The first one is something I've known for years is calling my new patients a day or 2 after there first treatment to see how they are doing. They love it and actually today I got a referral out of it. The second is birthdays. I've always sent cards. One year a patient was so thankful since only Victoria Secrets and myself had remembered. Even her mother had forgotten. Anyway now I'm calling and my best patients I'm dropping with a birthday balloon at the job. My patient today was on vacation so I had to leave it.

The Photographer is coming in tomorrow for treatment. I crossed a line I never did with her. She had come in a while back and we traded professions. I adjusted her and she took some pictures for my office. Anyway she called yesterday and needed to come in. I haven't seen her in about a month so it should be okay seeing her again without me feeling weird.

My Landlord left this morning for 2 weeks. It'll be weird to have the place to myself for that long. I'm realizing I don't like being alone around dinner time. While I might say I've been alone all my life, but as I become more conscious of stuff I see that little item has been covered up. Hopefully talking with Tech girl will help me through it. On that note I'm looking forward to seeing her tomorrow. We wanted to go hiking since the weather has been about 70 for the last few days, but it plunged back down into the 40's. While I know most of you will say that's not cold which I won't argue. However a 30 degree drop in 24 hours is a shock to the system let me tell you. Afterwards we have game night with the singles.

Dentistry

It's been a long time since I've had Novocaine injected into my mouth. I love that I don't feel anything while the dentist is working, but truly hate it while I'm waiting for it to wear off. I finally got a filing fixed since it was bothering the hell out of me with food being caught there. Everything else will have to wait. While I do have dental insurance and 50% off many things it's still a luxury at the moment. Only serious problems get moved up in front of the line.

It was funny the assistant reminded me a second too late as she gave me mouthwash to rinse. My tongue being numb couldn't fully stop the fluid going down my throat. Yuck! I'm glad they sucked the stuff back out. Now that I can't eat for an hour and half I'm starving.

Charmaine asked about sonicare removing enamel. It might I didn't look up, but so can your normal toothbrush. I went to school with a woman that had removed her enamel since she used a hard brush and cleaned after every thing she ate. You just can't do that. Like all things it has to be in moderation.

Bells & Whistles

After my wondering of bells and whistles with Tech girl over the weekend I ran into a bells and whistles girl this morning. I was going to my new business meeting that I'm overseeing. She was searching for something in the lobby. I smiled as I went for the elevator and she smiled back. Then she attached herself to me (Not physically). She's scared of elevators. So I was her knight in shining armor for the ride up. She was attractive and if I had to scale her on a quick checklist to ask out I would say a 9-10. I realized on the ride up that I had the bells and whistles with her, but also a level of anxiety that I forget goes with it. While I still maybe attracted to the flame I also know somewhere that it also burns. I don't want to play with fire anymore.

I think I have the answer to an age old dating question of mine. I talked about this topic more when I was on AOL since it hasn't come up in a while. Anyway I texted Tech girl when I got home last night to tell her I was home safe and thank her for the evening. Anyway I didn't hear back from her last night which is a little weird since she always states that she is the night owl. She texted me this morning that she was out like a light after I left and she joked that I wore her out. Something she has said after all our dates. When I first started dating again after I separated from my ex. Many women said I wore them out and we weren't sexual or doing anything physical. Some of these women even ended it with me because of it. I was always at a lost as to why. I asked friends and no one ever had an answer. So when Tech girl said it today I think I finally had my answer. It's my own point of view, but I know when I'm with a woman that satisfies me emotionally I just relax. It's like being a kid again and you know everything is okay. A large portion of worry just drops away that I'm not even aware of. Since last Wednesday and our first date I've slept better and been more relaxed than I normally am. That's my theory and I'm sticking to it.

The Talk

Tech girl and I had a fun time tonight. We had some sushi and hummus with crackers while we played games. Talking and learning more about each other. Kissing and hugging was scattered through the evening, but the kisses felt off from Sunday.

So after we finished everything we relaxed on the couch which ended up being a make out session. At some point she wanted to stop and stated that she was anxious. So we talked. Her point being that we were developing in a good direction, but didn't want sex to change that. This came up since last time if I had a condom we would of had sex. I don't bring protection along until we've had the talk since it saves any embarrassment on having them around. Anyway I agreed with her since I had thought that yesterday. I think I was talking to someone else about relationships and sex when it hit me that we were going pretty quickly. Then I remembered the sooner you had sex the greater the chance the relationship would be short term. So we both agreed to wait. No limit was set though which could be a problem since just before I left we were hot and heavy again.

The Day that Wasn't

Game of Lifestories - $2
Gas to Newport News - $5
Seeing you - priceless

This was my text to Tech girl this morning. I'm looking forward to seeing her tonight although I know I'm going to pay for it tomorrow morning with an early appointment. Last night was the first time she initiated getting off the phone. I told her how much I enjoyed talking to her which seemed to do something for her. That was the best ending we've had so far. She's usually quiet when I go, but she said that I would usually have to be the initiator with this kind of stuff. Like Sunday night laying next to her. If I wanted to stay awake for the ride home I knew I needed to get out of there. I predict a replay of that tonight. We need to plan a sleep over this weekend. Either me back at her place Friday or my place Saturday.

I finally got an appointment to network with this one doctor I've been trying to contact over the last few weeks. No offense to any medical doctors reading this, but you've had the pharmaceutical companies between your legs for to many years. Michael doesn't play that game with business. Personal life is different. Anyway relationship building with MD's is like trying to communicate with alien life forms. They've had too many systems over the years to do everything for them including wipe there asses. However that system is breaking down with new laws and cuts in pay. So building relationships is a new thing for them since normal people like win-win instead of I'm a doctor, blow me.

Besides that I could have slept in today. I forgot my sneakers and white socks for the gym today. I refuse to work out in black socks and business shoes. I do have some pride here. All my appointments today except one rescheduled. So if it wasn't for my class today I would have bilateral thumb sprains from twiddling them all day long.

Hey look it's Wednesday and still no word from Eric.

Warmth of a New Day

The warmth of summer is back even though it's winter. It's in the 60's here today and suppose to top off about 70 tomorrow. No complaints here especially after the cold spell over the weekend.

I think this will be another week of not talking to Eric. I wrote my ex about Eric being a kid that likes physical touch. I didn't even mention that he was like me since that would have been a death sentence for the kid. I just gave her the stats of kids that don't get enough at home and how they look for it outside the home and I didn't want to happen with him. Knowing my ex she'll take it personal since she does most things. So it'll be another week of phone silence.

I'm going to drive up to see Tech girl tomorrow night. I told her I had a game for us to play. She asked if it had a dress code. I informed her no it didn't, but I could bring one if she wanted that. Life stories is a great game for getting to know someone better which she agreed she was all for. Depending on when she has class will determine our weekend plans. My landlord will be gone for 2 weeks starting Friday so she can stay with me when she comes down for game night Saturday. I only have a full size bed, but that's good for cuddling.

Lastly I checked my Feedburner and I'm up to 51 subscribers and a bunch of followers. I want to welcome all the newbies aboard and thanks for reading.