Full Steam Ahead

Sorry I haven't been around in a few days. The weekends are now a pretty much no blog zone since the Comic and I are out someplace doing something.  However I couldn't pass up the good news that today marks 4 months with the Comic.  Applause please.  4 months is my record which was held with the Planner 2 years ago.  Actually this is about the time we broke up.  Anyhow like OVDC pointed out I really don't have any complaints or concerns with the Comic so we are still full steam ahead.

Anyhow about not blogging as much.  I'm trying to concentrate my energy at work to be on work.  Yes I know shocking.  I'm going through Facebook and Google reader withdrawal.  However I'm getting more done which is important in making more money which is my goal.  Reviewing my stats showed me I'm down 30% in new patients this year which is huge and the reason I'm making less money this year.  I'm really feeling the loss of those extra dollars since I don't have much excess yet.  So I'm cutting out the fat and doing my recreational Internet activities after hours.  Tonight I didn't feel like bringing the laptop home so I'm doing this before I shoot out of here.  

I have to admit I did "slip" a few times and do some surfing, but it was minimal.  I'll be starting a 12 step group on it by the end of the week.  Besides celebrating 4 months today the best thing that happened was that I walked out of my business meeting today with no responsibilities.  Well I still have some since I hold a minor position, but it was so nice to be talk to him, that's his job now.    

Business Road Trip

My day started off nice with a phone call from Kitcat while I was still lying around bed. It was good to hear from her especially since we hadn't actually talked since Friday. She is still a chatty cathy and I got to hear everything in detail which I don't mind. I enjoy being brought into her life. I was hoping to see her tonight or tomorrow, but it won't be till the weekend. We talked about missing each other, but both of knew why it was happening. I'm okay with it, even though I may not like it.

My SIL was on the today show this morning. You can see it here. She's Karen. It was a pretty good piece on being in your 50's.

After many weeks of putting it off I hopped in the car today and drove up to the peninsula to meet some other chiropractors. I had been putting off calling for a long while now. However I liked Shah's idea of just stopping in. There were only 2 doctors close by with everyone else at least an hour. The first place I stopped in was very nice. The staff was very friendly, instantly remembered my name. After a few minutes I got to talk to the doctor who was a nice guy and we talked for about 5 minutes on little stuff. His office reminded me of many things we use to do when I was in NY. I have to review all that stuff in my mind to see what can be used here. The second place the staff blocked me from seeing the doctor. It wasn't as warm as the first place either. From what I hear he does a lot of business, but he may need to defrost his staff.

It was a nice ride up and back. I haven't been up there in a long while and I enjoyed the adventure. However I did have flashbacks of the long drive to see the Planner and Tech girl. Both of who were farther north than I travelled today. I'm very happy to have Kitcat close.

I knew I was berating myself at some level for not contacting the doctors before now. Since doing so today I'm ready for a nap. I forget how much energy goes into avoidance and rationalization no to do something. Now I'm relaxed and I'm feeling the toll.

The Next Hurdle

It was nice to finally do a beach walk and not have to wear a jacket. It was still a bit brisk, but very nice. It was good to get out and enjoy nature and the good weather.

Tomorrow starts a lot of phone calls for me for work. I have a new marketing project and I'll need the help of other businesses. It won't cost them anything and should make selling their product easier. Talking to everyone about it has no downside for me except for people saying no. Do I want to do it? No. I always feel uncomfortable doing this. However when I do it I fell better about myself and it can only help me. Still not looking forward to it, but I'll be lighting a fire under my ass tomorrow to start the calls.

I started talking to a woman today that wants to keep talking to me. She's moving back to Virginia Beach from the next city over. She's in the process of doing the move so we didn't get more than some introductions and moving stories. We'll see where it goes. The funny thing is that she reminds me of the Photographer in looks. If it gets off the ground I'll give her a nickname.

The truly funny thing was that a new person joined the singles group today and I thought it was the Planner. It wasn't, but boy is she attractive. Hopefully she'll make it to an event soon.

Office Gossip

Well I've gotten my exercise groove on all this week. I lost it somewhere while dating Asp and the landlord's decline. I was still going, but not as frequently as I'd like. The last bastion of what I was missing was cardio. I enjoy my beach walks with L, but I know I could use some more exercise for my heart. I had plenty of time to do so this morning and I had to admit it was a bit of a toss up. However I knew I would feel better afterwards. Although I didn't factor in doing my legs yesterday so the pain factor is affect now.

For most of my adult life I've either worked for myself or had complete autonomy to run a business. So I do forget how other people work like having an office to call your own. One of the most asked questions I get asked is if I've ever had sex in my office. Guys always ask while the women usually just perk their ears up. With my own business I have to admit having fun with Asp and the Planner here. Not at the same time though. Being the only employee has its perks.

However when I use to administrate clinics I use to have staff. Now as anyone who has worked in a office environment knows gossip is the biggest energy booster next to the last chocolate birthday cake they was had for a fellow employee. Anyway at the time I was seeing this woman who was totally infatuated with me. I had seen her around the office a few times and we had talked. I thought she was very attractive, but the conversations never really went anyplace so I didn't think much of it. Until one day she came into the place an asked to see me. I led her into my office and asked her what she wanted. I still remember her looking out my window and asking me if I like her or not. I said yes. At times I still can't believe this happened. She said that was good. She walked over to me, dropped to her knees, and ripped my pants open. That's how our relationship started.

How this relates to office gossip. Well everyone wanted to know if we were having sex or not since she would come to see me 2-3 times a week at work. So every time we were going at it in my office someone would be calling to ask questions, knocking on my door, etc. I tell you I don't enjoy having my sex interrupted.

My staff not to be deterred from my evasion techniques decided to up the ante one day. Again we were going at it on my desk when they knocked liked usual, but instead of needing my attention they needed hers. For some unknown reason she decided to talk to them. So she got dressed and I just hid underneath my desk naked until they were finished. I still laugh at this all these years later. Anyway my staff had their answer since I had left a condom wrapper on the side of my desk. The good thing was they never bothered me again.

Monday's Work Out

I'd like to report that I'm happy and it's a busy day in the office. Two things that I do like. If it was like this everyday that could be a good thing.

I had a petty feeling moment Saturday which has lasted till now since I really haven't mentioned it yet to anyone. So here's your news flash. Asp went shooting on Saturday. When we were dating I was trying to get this scheduled for us since she had stated the desire to do so. However with us falling apart it never happened. I guess it's some part of grief, but it did make me feel wonkers for a while.

One thing I don't like about the gym is that women don't wear their wedding rings while they work out. I'm not even going to go into the women that wear rings on their ring finger just for the hell of it. Anyway I usually shoot to the gym during the day when I have an opening at work. Most of the women I run into are in the senior set or stay at home mom's/wives. I say this because their is a woman I run into every so often. She's an older version of the Planner in looks, so I'm very attracted to her. Now I usually just run in and out of the gym like a duck mating since the women I meet are in the above category. This woman seems different though. So I might have to start slowing down my routine to see if I can chat her up.

I was thinking of using a reminder phone call service for the practice. However I'm not quite sure how cost effective it's going to be. Since my volume is still low I might just call the newer and problem patients to remind them. My established patients have this down pat.

Type A Cuddling

Okay I'm going to be like a drunk driver here and be all over the place. Keep your hands inside the vehicle at all times and everyone should be okay.

The GF got a haircut yesterday and it looked great. We had fun hanging out last night after we had her porcupine meatballs. Things seem to be stabilizing back out again. I was happy one of her cats didn't visit us too much through the night. For some reason he has taken a shine to me which he doesn't even do to Asp's son. So in the middle of the night he wants my attention like petting or something. Last night he got the message not to do that. The weird thing that happens during the night is that my ex and Asp interchange in my mind. It only happens while I'm half asleep. Thinking about it, she is the first woman that I've slept and cuddled with since my marriage. L like to cuddle a little when falling asleep, but not once asleep. The Planner you couldn't touch while she was sleeping. She didn't want anyone in the same bed as her while she was sleeping. So I can see this is going to take sometime to overwrite what's in my brain.

I had a big surprise when I went to my business lunch meeting. I was running it. My business coach who usually runs it was a no show which was weird and since I'm the other person that makes it happen. I had responsibility thrust on me. Over all it went well, but I don't think we moved forward any. I'm a type A personality and anal in a good way as my friend Paul would describe. So I walked out of there stressed since nothing was really accomplished. I know with out concrete goals nothing will happen.

Getting back to the office I found that I need to call Medicare to solve getting paid problems. This is the worse insurance company to call since its so hard to get to a human being to get an answer. Plus not all customer service people are created equal in their help. So to try to avoid a stroke or brain aneurysm I headed to Starbucks to relax. At the least I was able to finish up my talk for tonight's lecture. Hey better late than never.

A Bumpy Day

It was a bit of a bumpy day for me. The good was that I found the oil leak in my car. It turned out that rubber band in the box was the gasket. Mystery solved and that made me very happy.

I finally decided to take my Mom's TV out of her place. It's way larger than mine and she never uses it. I tell you this kicked my ass. While I know my Mom isn't going to get any better. I guess it was sort of a little lie in the back of my head that as long as the TV was there things had some normalcy. I almost didn't take it today since it was upsetting, but the moving cart was right at the entrance which it is never there. So I knew I would kick myself for not taking it and have to do it again at another time without the cart. Now that it's at my place it's nice having a big TV again. When I got divorced I gave my ex the big TV for Eric and I kept the 19". I don't know if he ever got to use it or she kept it in her room.

Game night went well and we had many new people there. The bumpiness came at the end. The Photographer was there and some of the new girls were asking her questions. Some about the group, Game boy, and life. It was weird sitting there listing to it all. Halloween is coming up and we were dating at this time last year. A mutual friend might have her Halloween party again and we both went to that as a couple. So it was weird for her to talk all about this and not mention me. She would look over at me and I'm not saying I wanted her to say anything. It was just strange. The other was about her relationship with Game boy which again was interesting since she dated me at the same time since she wanted the relationship with me for a while. However I had been dating the Planner. Anyway she had ended it with Game boy a few months ago since she now wants a more serious relationship. Again I wasn't looking for her to share any of this information, but there's this whole sub story of us in there. I don't know if her looking at me to see if I wanted her to share or what. All I can say is it was just strange.

No happy ending, but at least a hangover

Well it ends up that I'll have to do my own walking with my hands. Legitimate business came up so I'll get my massage Friday morning which is going to be even more of a killer. Starting the day all relaxed is not going to be a good thing. I'm bummed since I was really looking forward to being relaxed.

My car is becoming a real pain in the ass with starting up. It's a slow day tomorrow so I'll have to take it in tomorrow to get worked on. I'll take one more look at the engine tonight to see if I can spot the freaking camshaft sensor. I wish I was still in contact with the Planner. This is what happened with her Sebring when we were together.

Speaking of old girl friends. The Photographer stopped in for treatment yesterday. One of the problems I have with her is that since she broke up with me I wasn't to the place where I had enough of the relationship. I knew there was one and that it had it's limits. I just never got there. So anyway as many of my patients forget that their is a certain dress code when you come see me. Some of my female patients care and some don't. I just go with the flow. So when the Photographer showed up after work, she had a dress on. So I figured no electric stimulation on her back. She then realized that she had a dress on. She was like I have underwear on so just put it on. I realized it's probably not a good thing to be reaching up a dress of a woman you still like.

This evening has really changed from a very busy time to the dead zone. I'm waiting for my last patient and then off to see the Hangover at the $1 movie house. I've been waiting for this movie for a while now and can't wait to see it.

I don't know if I'm getting old or just dating too many women in the last few years. Most of them haven't even graced these pages. However I can't even remember who all these nicknames of women are. I feel just like I do when I look at some of my entertainment sites. It's so and so from this show and I'm like "who the hell" and "what freakin' show?"

Bored Minds Play

Did you ever get bored? Well after my phone calls today I've had a new patient no show. I did have there phone number, but it's someone else. So I have no idea what the hell is going on with them. So what do I do while I'm still on my "asking" high. It's nice to be more in control of situations that use to puzzle me more. Anyway I Googled MC to see what I would find out. Surprise, surprise, surprise ... I didn't find much except that she's 50. I had a feeling she was older, but wasn't quite sure. In a way her looks do remind me of the Planner, but there is a warmer feeling here. I have to say of all the time to ask someone out I picked a time that I'm really freakin' busy. So I'll call her tomorrow to see if Sunday in the afternoon is good for her. If it rains Saturday like it's suppose to I'll be free, but that's too short of notice.

I have to admit I'm Even Steven this week with every person cancelling another person is calling. Still no word back from the coach at Virginia Wesleyan, but we made an appointment for tomorrow and I'll be there. I have no idea where that will be, but I'll be there.

Talk to the Back of the Hand

Talking with Server guy last night about relationships had me thinking about the Planner this morning when I awoke. I realized I'm still looking to give my heart to someone. While I know that in itself isn't a bad thing I think I try to move things a long to fast. I want to get to that safe point. It wasn't safe growing up so I'm still looking for it.

I tell you I want to give the back of my hand to the person who said life would be easy. I don't know who told it to me when I was young, but I know I believe it in some sense. So someone had to tell me and that person deserves an ass kicking. I'll start interviewing people tomorrow to find out who it was.

It's a quite day here today. I did my usual get up, read the paper, have a cup of tea, and then go back to bed. So I feel nice and rested today for the week. So today has been a day of errands and now I'm at Starbucks getting all my pregnancy stuff done for the office. Since I don't use my extra room much for massage I'm going to add some stuff so new mom's can breast feed in there or change there baby. It won't be so hard so why not. It'll be a nice addition to the office.

Lastly, in this economy I can't believe how restaurants react when I walk in and want to schedule a happy hour for 20 people. I would think they would be getting me a blow job in the back room. It's a lot of people that will be spending money. It's earlier in the evening before the bigger crowds come in. Like my coach always say, "I don't know how businesses stay in business."

Sweet Sleep

It's weird. Usually when I sleep with someone I go into a deeper sleep and have "finishing business" dreams. Dreams that I'm back at some point in my life that I made a unhealthy decision or that I was too young to do so. I relive that time in my dreams with me reacting in a more healthy way. It's weird I know.

I say this because last night even though I was alone I was in a deep slumber. I mean Lazarus level. I processed a lot through it, but I'm still not awake today. All of it I think comes from me finally letting go of the Planner. I knew when I was doing it I was jumping to the Photographer to soon and then it was just a circus ride of women. I made the decision then even knowing I was buying a ticket for these fun house rides which I'll end up going from woman to woman.

On other notes I finally got my prize from Singlemommyhood.com. Yes I know it's for single mom's, but I enjoy reading it and I've always enjoyed women more then men. Anyway it's Sweet Seductions. Woohoo! Now I just need to find someone to try these out with.

A Year Later

Okay I know you women out there think you have the monopoly on this, but I'm sad to say you don't. In 3 days it'll be a year since I met the Planner. I have to admit I'm sad. While I know now that we weren't a perfect match and the problems we had. I'm not looking to be back together with her. However besides my ex wife the Planner holds the spot of longest relationship. I know at a measly 4 months it's not much compared to 16 years, but no one has really taken that spot in my heart in the last year. So while I miss her I also miss being in a relationship with someone. I have to admit over the last month I've stopped turning my head when I see a car like hers in the area even though she lives no where around here. So I'm surprised that I still have this sadness all this time later.

Losing My Religion

"I'm what you would call a tele-existential atheist. I believe there is a intelligence to the universe excluding certain parts of New Jersey" ~ Woody Allen

Rachel Sara had a great entry on if religion plays a big factor in your dating life. It was such a great question I figured I needed more space to expound on my answer.

When I first started dating again after my divorce I wasn't quite sure where it would fit, but that was like many things. When I was growing up as many things it was important at times and at other not so. I was raised an on and off Roman Catholic. At times we went to church and for years we didn't. There was no rhyme or reason. I did get communed and confirmed which was the most structured religious time I ever got. I was pretty religious after that, proud to wear my cross every day, etc. However teenage life was such a shit hole that I didn't see the reason to it all.

For 18 years afterward I was an atheist. I was proud of my non-belief and as always I didn't care about what you believed as long as you thought about your decision. However my marriage and the subsequent birth of our son really pushed me back into another deeper shit hole.

So for the last 8 years I've been spiritual in nature and very happy. I still don't have it all worked out, but it works for me.

In my dating life now I do stay away from overly religious people since I've found we can't follow separate roads. What I usually look for is people whose outlook on life is open and accepting. Since a closed mind rarely stops at religion. It's been bumpy at times. The biggest problem I had with religion was with the Planner. Our visions of death were very different. While I was accepting of hers she found it very difficult to deal with me. She believed in Heaven and I don't. I follow the thought of, "give me my roses while I'm alive because I won't need them when I'm dead." The conversation use to come up a lot when we use to go to her dad's grave.

The Mobeius Strip

It was funny how life comes back around again. I happened not once, but twice today in different ways.

I was sitting in one of my networking classes today and the instructor was doing an example of if he was married to a loan officer he wouldn't be given many referrals to any other loan officers. I tell you it took me back to my time with the Planner. She was a loan officer and we had this argument a few times. She use to get so mad at me for not giving her any referrals and that I had to be given them to the loan officer in my group. I could never get it through her head I never knew anyone that needed a loan. I really don't deal with real estate as a chiropractor. It was one of her rallying points when she broke up with me. So it was a nice blast from the past.

Number 2 was at our monthly mixer. I'm talking to 2 guys and one looks maybe familiar. I meet too many people to remember them all especially guys. I don't waste the gray matter on remembering you if you have a Y chromosome. Anyway the guy remembered me. He was a Facebook girl's brothers house on New Years Eve. Good memory or I just leave impressions on people since it was maybe 10 minutes that we sat and watched TV. We didn't talk about Facebook girl which was okay by me. I did get his friend's wife as a patient. She's paying $120 for an acupuncture session. Holy shit! I told the guy $45 and he was all over it like hair on soap.

Last but not least I saw Slumdog Millionaire tonight with the singles. Very good movie.

The Other Shoe that Couldn't

I was bummed tonight when the singles and I got together for Underworld 3. The computer listing said 9 and when we got to the theater it said 10:15. All we were told was that they weren't responsible for the Internet. Oh well at least they were easy with the refund. An apology would have been nice.

I've been haunted this week with doom and gloom. I'm easily trained. With all the stuff I've dealt with money and my Mom. I'm waiting for the other shoe to fall. Will it be the next phone call? In the mail box? Or maybe the next person through the door? I'm happy to say it's better than it was yesterday, but it's still lingering. What brought this wave on I have no clue. The weekend was good as was last week. So some how I dug a pit and through myself in cause I feel like I've been climbing out of it all week. It's an extra weight on me that I don't need.

I need to get my car inspected this month. I've had my engine light on since I was dating the Planner. Since we had the same cars and she had a scanner I scanned my car. It was an emission problem an didn't affect my performance. However I'm now trying to find the problem since it could be anything from the gas cap to a pump. So I asked one of my patients that's a mechanic who I've helped out a lot. He told me what to do to fix it. He also offered his code canceler. I didn't even know they had things like that. I would just unhook my battery to reset it before I got it inspected. It's always good to ask for help even though it may still be hard to do.

Lets Talk About Sex

Every Monday I get together with the guys and we talk about relationships and other things bothering us. Yes we guys talk about this stuff. However it does take some work to get them to open up and it has become another thing I run. I don't mind since it's healthy for me.

After finishing Rachel Sara's book last night I got to thinking about my own dating life after divorce. While it will take 3 years and about 40 dates before I end up having sex with another woman besides my ex. I'm reminded by many comments from you all that I move fast in the sexual arena which reminds me of a story from one of the guys on Monday night.

His first major love in his life he worked very hard to make it happen. He worked long hours so that financially they would be set. She would cheat on him and break his heart. The major thing that came from this relationship was that he was never faithful to another woman again. He always struck first so that he wouldn't be hurt again. A pattern had been put in place.

Aroma girl was my first major relationship after my ex. At the time I thought she was the opposite of my ex, but looking back they had some similar qualities even though she was a step up. Anyway in that time I really wanted to wait for sex to build the relationship since we both had talked about how the relationship does change once sex has happened and agreed to wait. Next date she's dragging me into her bedroom. I stopped us and talked about us having agreed to wait. She dumped me the next day.

Even though it would be another 2 years before I meet L and have sex. She's very sexual and I toss out any pretense of waiting. I think a pattern has emerged in me.

The Planner stops me from kissing her on the first date with a very strong boundary. Looking back it broke my pattern which was good. Except that it was re-established when she came to my place on our third date under the pretense to play a game. She never brought it and made herself comfortable on my bed very quickly.

Tech girl and I would have had sex on our second date if I had protection. We were naked in her bed doing everything else.

So now I sit here wondering how to break this pattern. I've gotten much better knowing what I want in a woman. I have boundaries of things I will accept and not. However when it comes to sex I don't know. I know the benefits of waiting, but I allow my emotions to run this part of my life. Not the greatest choice since it's controlled by my hormones.

What's your general rule?

It's Still a Dog's Life

This is one of my patient's dogs. His name is Chico and he came to visit the office yesterday.

I spoke the Barker last night, actually she called me. It's weird to have this "relationship" being driven by her. She keeps making all the communication. I really don't have to do anything which is okay for me since we haven't met. Until we meet I really don't like putting that much energy into it. I know that the longer we go with talking on the phone the less chance that we'll ever meet.

I did find out a few things about Barker. One that weekends are bad for her and during the week is better to meet. Two that like the Planner she is giving up her social life for her business. The difference is that Barker has 2 daughters and that keeps her sort of social. We talked about this item. She keeps trying to give me ideas for my business which is nice, but for me not my point here. I did say how much I enjoyed the Funny Bone smoke free night. There was no response on her end for whatever that says. As always she makes sure that I know that she wants to meet me.

Charming cancelled out of tonight's Game night with the singles. This was a good thing since I could use less hassle. I know prolonged interaction with her wouldn't be good. Dating would probably happen which I don't want to do with her.

My Time With Piper

Well this morning was my 4th year doing volunteering for Reader Month with the SPCA. I walked in this morning to pick up and animal. Usually I get a rabbit or guinea pig. I was stunned when the lady in charge asked if I wanted a dog. Hell yes! We went in to the kennel to find a likely candidate for the elementary kids. I got Piper a 2 year old Boxer/Terrier mix. She was awesome personality wise. Never barked the whole time I was with her and she loved the kids. This year instead of me walking around the school looking for classes they came to me. I think in total I we did 8 classes. It's always interesting to watch kids interact with animals.

One thing I remembered during our lull between presentations is that saying of having an animal to help relieve stress. I was just sitting petting Piper and I couldn't believe how relaxed I was. Then I remembered how I use to be petting KC the Planner's cat.

Anyway afterward we headed back to the SPCA. Piper was pooped and feel asleep in the car. It was nice and warm with the sun shining in the vehicle. I told her I couldn't take her home with me. However I still felt sad when I handed her over to one of the keepers. I started to walk away and she wanted to follow me. :(

I'm also a little sad. Barker had to cancel our date today. She needed to go to one of her stores that is doing no business. I understood since it was during work hours that we were going to meet. She said she would call me later to tell me what' going on. Since we haven't met yet I haven't given any life to her so if it never happen, no big deal.

I do have a concern. She has a slight rasp to her voice that I wonder comes from smoking. It'll come out pretty soon when we meet. I did look around her work blog. It was pretty impressive to see her with different celebrities since she is a big dog person. The best was Drae De Matteo of Soprano's fame since I think she's very hot.

My Life Such as it Is

There was many changes in plans last night. Facebook girl wanted me to meet her at one of her brother's house. So on the way there she texted me that he was being an asshole and could we skip the first party. I was answer that I was going out to be with her not for any party. Her older brother was cold and I just picked her up and we went out for a drink.

I don't drink at all so that threw her a little. Like always just talking it was enjoyable. She even helped hook a guy up at the bar so he wouldn't be alone for New Years. It was pretty funny. The margarita there got her slightly drunk and then talking was okay. So we headed over to her other brother's house. By the time I got inside the kitchen she was already doing shots.

I have to admit Facebook girl has many firsts for me. One is that I have never been out with a drunk woman before(more to follow). The other is that she had breasts implants. I had to admit whoever did them did a very good job.

Anyway while Facebook girl is not a obnoxious drunk she tries the nerves. Through her drunken state we agreed that we would hold off sex since she liked me. I was okay with that since I wasn't quite sure where I was with her. She asked me to sleep over, but no sex.

The funny thing is that all women seem to know I'm the nice guy, but all seem surprised that I'm the bad boy when it comes to anything dealing with sex. They think I'm going to be shy or bashful. ROFLMAO.

Anyway one of the biggest red flags came up while we were at her brother's place. She doesn't like dogs. That's a big thing for me. Especially since her brother had 2 really nice dogs that came right over to me wanting attention from me all night. Anytime she saw me scratching them she asked me to stop with a face that looked like I was drawing my nails across the blackboard.

Anyway the party was mostly everyone drinking. Her brother's girl I ended up talking to the most. Since a) I thought she was attractive and b) she was the one least drinking. Anyway Facebook girl was pretty smashed and I was happy that I memorized how to get to her place. So I took her home got her comfortable in bed an under the covers. I made myself comfortable than dropped off to sleep next to her.

Sometime during the night she awoke and pounced on me for sex. It was interesting since I hadn't bonded to her so I wasn't so into it, but she made it interesting since she was moving like one of those paint shakers at Home Depot.

We talked some in the morning. She asked/joked about why I let her drink so much. I told her so she could learn when she needed to stop. We drove back to her brother's and her truck. She gave me to cheek to kiss and that was that. While this is the first New Year in years that I have actually celebrated I might have to plan better next year.

Another little tidbit is that Facebook girl and the Planner have the same name.

2008 Dating Round Up

The other day, okay it was yesterday, I commented on how I've noticed changes in myself business wise. Well today I'm reflecting on dating this year since it was a big year for me.

Law girl started it out for me. She was the first "normal" woman I ever dated. While our chemistry level wasn't super it was a real kick being with someone who was "normal". No dram, problems, etc. It was very weird and totally virgin territory for me. On the other hand she strung me along for a while since I was such a nice guy that she waned. However guilt finally got the best of her and we broke up since she knew it wasn't fair to me to tie me down to someone that was not going to deepen the relationship with. I should of learned then to require chemistry.

The Planner was next and my longest relationship besides my ex. She will always have a special place in my heart since there was so much I liked about her: the goal setting, her physical side, silliness, looks, etc. However there was always some strong issues on the opposite side. The biggest was always the sleeping arrangement. She never wanted to sleep in the same bed together which was always a deal breaker for me and she knew it. I don't do Lucy and Ricky. The other was her controlling attitude. However I got more of my sexual mojo back with her and saw again how long term relationships really are great with how they grow.

The Photographer was a surprise for me. I knew she was a chaos type girl, but I never thought I would feel as attracted to her as I did once we dated. What I had knocked back into me was that when you date chaos there's always problems. While I wouldn't date her I would probably have sex with her for some reason.

Tech girl taught me firmly that a spark is needed to make things work. Also she was the first women for me to break up with since my marriage.

There were a lot of screwed up women mixed in there that never really got off the ground. Like Army girl who was so drunk the night I met she didn't remember me or our conversation. I didn't even think she was that drunk. There was Red who said she was separated, but then introduced me to her husband. The Florist with her bizarre home life and arrangements. Lastly the VP who was emailing me pornographic pictures of her after 3 minutes on the phone.

It was a very good year.