Social Butterfly

As I mark my calendar I see I'm becoming a social butterfly. Who would have thunk? I'm scheduling at least 3 events a week for the singles. I'm trying to give a wide variety of stuff that I would enjoy doing since I have to be there since no one else has stepped up to the plate. Besides finding another happy hour place I'm set for next month. Even with seminars and Eric coming to visit its a pretty busy month of kayaking, wine, museums, jazz, games, etc. As with any group I'm seeing the people that will come out and the closet members that will never leave the comfort of their monitor.

I have to admit that most of the people in the group are introverts. It maybe why their in the group. Getting out and doing stuff just maybe too hard for them. However I'm starting to make friends which is big for me since I really don't have any here. I have to admit that friends have a higher priority than dating since they most likely will last longer. Pretty much since I graduated 13 years ago most of my friends scattered to the far ends of the country and friends in close physical proximity has been very lean.

I Feel the Need

I feel the need to date and its been pestering me for a week now. However I never want to date when I have the "need" for it. For me that translates to "if I had a woman in my life I would be happy" or "something is missing from my life." Happiness begins and ends with me. As always money is light, but that is nothing new in my life. With the singles group I'm very social at least 3 times a week. So what's the problem? I know it is me in that I have for most of my life looked for happiness outside of myself. Over the last 8 years I have turned that around, but when dating doesn't work out for some reason it seems to fan the flames of my "need" to date.

As a day goes by I'm good, but soon as a woman I like comes into view my mind is already working. Hey she could be in the car next to me. So until dating becomes optional again in my mind I'll hold off since I know I make better decisions when my head is on straight.

On a side note a regret has been coming up for me. This past weekend was Eric's communion. Due to money I didn't attend even though spending time with my ex's whole family won't have been like being circumcised with a spoon.

After it happened and I realized I couldn't get Eric back here I knew I made my last and bigger mistakes. Throughout my marriage I always did things to make it easier for my ex and I would pay for it in one way or another. Well this one I'm still paying for and I guess I always will while Eric is a child. It may change when he's 13 and can say where he wants to live. However I see so many divorced people living close by exchanging their kids for week long visits. So I've been hard on myself of late on how much of Eric's life I have missed due to my mistake.

Pay Dirt

Problems in your relationship with your guy. Well this here is gold from a woman's point of view and I'm a guy.

Mother's Day

Like Father's Day this is almost a non day for me. It's hard to see my Mom as she declines. Something else must of happened since her left hand seems weak now. I was happy to see that she had some gross use of her right hand. She did look nice today. The staff had dressed her nice for the holiday. I had picked up some hot pink nail polish for her. My Mom seems to like the flashy colors in her old age. So I did her nails and had a Snickers bar for her since they don't always have chocolate chip cookies there. I know my Mom and she is not one to pass up on the sweets. I wasn't able to contact my brother and family so their was no connection for her on that end.

The rest of the day has been relaxing. I've written a lot today which is surprising. Although it's nice to look at all that I have accomplished so far. Now I'm just hanging until Comedy Improv later tonight.

Talking with my Landlord last night and he said Single might be leaving us. Truly I don't care since I think she is more of a problem than she is worth which is something my Landlord is realizing. On a long enough time line her ways will cause a fire or some other disaster in the house. I was surprised with my Landlord's choices of what to do if she leaves:

1) Just be him and me which I have no complaints with
2) All guy house which isn't too bad. The guys that have stayed in the past have kept to themselves and been no problems.
3) I was surprised that finding another parent with a child was on the bottom of the list. He stated that he thought the generational gap was becoming too much of a problem and that we've had this long string of problem mothers.

So we'll see. I was waiting for it to happen, but utilities will be going up for us. It sucks, but with everything else sky rocketing it had to happen.

Go Speed Racer Go

All and all it was a busy day. I though hiking would have been a wash out since the pouring rain woke me up this morning, but it turned out nice. Our fearless leader Walk Girl didn't show so M2 and myself did the hike. It was a nice trail along the inner waterways. I forgot my camera so no pics sorry. It was really interesting at one point the area is completely overgrown with Spanish moss. We grabbed Subway like usual. Our slow employee was no where to be seen this week which was a blessing.

I had one emergency patient before I headed over to meet the Singles and Speed Racer the movie. I was a big fan of it as a kid so I really wanted to see this live action movie. I had to admit they did a really good job of adapting. The casting was pretty dead on except Sprockets. Mom Racer who never existed in the cartoon added some nice touches to the movie. I would have to say if racing was like this in real life I would watch it more often.

The Yin & Yang of Living

IN my adult life I've always needed at least either work of home life to be stable. Through turmoil of marriage at time both places were trouble and I had no place to hide. When that happens I have problems since I can't meet my needs of happiness or at least survival.

What's the point you say? Well even though I can't afford it I would still like to have my own place. However like I was commenting on Travistee's blog about growing up and changing perspectives. Since I have never really lived by myself except dorm life and the few months after I spit from my ex. I would like to experience it in a better situation. However I see how I am when the house is empty now. While I enjoy blasting my music and being naked. It does lose its charm quickly. I like having someone in the house and I feel very unconnected when no one is around. Talk over dinner is a favorite of mine. I know a lot of this is because I am alone throughout the day. My patients are my social life, but they come and go and their is a different level of camaraderie.

While hiking this morning I talked about how I no longer want a place with property. While it looks great I no longer want the responsibility for taking care of it. My responsibilities are elsewhere and I don't want anymore. Like many single mom's who date that want a man to make the plans since they are tired of doing it in all other aspects of their life.

I Wish I was a Hamster

Please someone just roll me over. We had our monthly block party today and Outback said they wanted to cater it. Who were we to complain. Nice juicy steaks, chicken, and salad. It was delicious. I really wish I could of stored more in my cheeks to have later. The really funny thing is that I'm trying to invite people and their like "no thanks". Free food from Outback! Are you completely mental to be passing this up? We had a really good turnout and met some new neighbors which is always fun. A couple of my patients came and they met some old friends which was really nice.

The Dating Goddess had an entry about Mandarin Ducks, Feng Shui, and finding love. So I figured what the hey I'll get a pair of Ebay cheap. So I finally got them today. Their cute, but hey aren't they both male ducks. This doesn't bode well. Does anyone have any lesbian ducks to make a trade?

Date Ending

Reading all the blogs that I read, their seems to be a theme of getting out of bad dates. While I have read some creative ones to a few duds. I will share with you here the best one that I was given when I first started dating. It was not invoked, but sent to help out as I made my was in the dating world again. If you would like a copy to print up let me know.

What the fine print says:

THE LEMON LAW MAY BE INVOKED IF, AT ANY POINT DURING THE INITIAL FIVE MINUTES (300 SECONDS) OF A FIRST DATE, EITHER PARTY DEEMS THE UNION HOPELESS AND ELECTS TO ABORT SAID DATE IN THE INTEREST OF TIME AND/OR SELF-RESPECT. RECEIPT OF THIS CARD HEREBY ABSOLVES THE GIVER FROM ANY “HARD FEELINGS” OR “QUESTIONS” FROM THE LEMON LAWYEE RELEVANT TO THE DISCONTINUANCE OF THE DATE, WHICH MAY BE TERMINATED FOR ANY REASON INCLUDING, BUT NOT LIMITED TO: TAWDRY ATTIRE, BREATH, HOMELINESS, MISPLACED/EXCESSIVE BODY HAIR, PUBLIC SCHOOL EDUCATION, BAD CREDIT, NO CREDIT, SUSPICIOUS ODOR(S).

ADDENDA
(I) GIVER MAY WAIVE THE LEMON LAW SHOULD LEMON LAWYEE IMMEDIATELY CONSENT TO A NO-STRINGS ATTACHED “STAND,” DURATION OF WHICH SHALL BE NO LONGER THAN ONE (1) NIGHT.
(II) THE TERMS OF THE AGREEMENT ARE NON-EXCLUSIVELY TRANSFERABLE, IN DIFFERENCE TO THE EMERGENCE OF THE LEMON LAW AS A “THING.”
(III) IN THE UNLIKELY EVENT OF A SIMULTANEOUS INVOCATION, PARTIES SHALL ENACT ONE (1) “HIGH FIVE,” WITH NEITHER PARTY OFFICIALLY ASSUMING CREDIT FOR THE LEMON LAW ISSUANCE.

Game Night

Game Night has become the #1 event since it's the most well attended. As always it's a lot of fun and we've had to split into 2 groups. One of the games we played was Battle of the Sexes. What's interesting about the game is that the men's subjects breakdown like this: 80% sports, 15% drinking, and 5% tools. While the women's categories run the whole gambit. They kicked our butt.

It is interesting there is 2 camps in the group. Those looking for dates and those for friends. I fall into the latter since it is a lot harder to find friends than dates. I have to admit I don't miss salsa. While the dancing was fun I enjoy hanging out better with people my own age.

This morning when I went to get treated at my friend's I helped an old man change his tire. He hit the curb although he told me he caught some air. By the bent axle I could tell he really whacked it. My good deed for the day.

Like Corraling Cats

Now even my business group is becoming a pain with trying to get them all to participate. They all whine that they want business, but when it comes time to do the work jeez the run to the hills. I'm half Sicilian so I say just bust few knee caps to stimulate some business. However no one else seems to have my fiery desire. The rest of the leadership is happy to have me be the heavy which I don't mind. Hey someone has to do it. Everyone likes the results, but boy if you give them an inch they will run with it. I'll be happy when my term is over although I fear for the group with whoever follows since everyone else is a softy.