tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3771446067618745870.post42220181720583251..comments2023-10-26T04:02:03.612-04:00Comments on Going Sane in a Crazy World: Lets Talk About SexMikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13641318104807962051noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3771446067618745870.post-14630176913058775892009-03-18T15:44:00.000-04:002009-03-18T15:44:00.000-04:00Dating does not equate with sex. Yes, that can be...Dating does not equate with sex. Yes, that can be a rule and guide -- dating can lead to sex, sure, but it's not the same thing. I'll also go as long as I need to or never get there at all even within a monogamous relationship. Even if it feels hot and very exciting, it doesn't mean go do it. It doesn't always mean NOT, either, but definitely not a 3rd-date is "sex" date type of woman, that's b.s. to me. Do what works for both people. Besides, it's much better if there's a connection beyond the physical:) Now, I'd known E 6 years, very well, before we had our first official date. E said we can say 6 years, or 1st date. LOL. I'd waited 6 years (for him). That's way TOO long:)Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10401299999271700887noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3771446067618745870.post-78654205962706035642009-03-15T22:20:00.000-04:002009-03-15T22:20:00.000-04:00I don't really have a rule either, it goes more by...I don't really have a rule either, it goes more by feeling...maybe I need to make some rules :(<BR/><BR/>insanely hot pic for this entry, BTW...yow !Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03490984777753909427noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3771446067618745870.post-54442126525489963802009-03-15T22:06:00.000-04:002009-03-15T22:06:00.000-04:00I agree with Senorita. "My rule is that if I reall...I agree with Senorita. "My rule is that if I really see the man as potential I would wait because I really would want to get to know him. " <BR/>Lately, I have been with men whom I know will not be good LTR prospects. And I have gotten sexual too soon, precisely because I knew there was nothing to "ruin", and we scratched that itch.<BR/><BR/>So it boils down to what you want out of the relationship. It's all a gamble anyway because what if you wait until you really get to know someone, and things don't work out? You have lost much time and sex too.<BR/>Dating is real hard. And complicated.<BR/>Good Luck.*Juliette*https://www.blogger.com/profile/12901832055094187302noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3771446067618745870.post-55448110298578362182009-03-15T20:50:00.000-04:002009-03-15T20:50:00.000-04:00Here's how I see it: It's been such a long time si...Here's how I see it: It's been such a long time since you've had sex and you're a guy. Of course you're not going to object if a woman offers it first. I don't see it so much as a pattern. I just see it as when it's been a while since you've had sex, you'll be more likely to have sex with a woman sooner.<BR/><BR/>I think what you're writing here is totally normal, and I happen to feel the same way about this. <BR/><BR/>Yes, waiting for sex can have benefits, if you're serious about the person. And if you really like the person and want a longterm relationship with that person, sex too soon is the fastest way to ruin that. <BR/><BR/>If you're not serious about the person, and they are offering sex, I don't see any problems there. If you want to have sex more, just casually date. I don't see anything wrong with that, especially if you have an itch to scratch. Besides, once you get that out of your system you probably won't feel as pressured to go out and date and find a girlfriend so you can have sex.<BR/><BR/>If you are serious about finding that special someone and true love, well that takes time, risk, and patience. People who usually end up happily in love usually have put themselves out there and have waited for that special person. I have never been in love and don't even know what that feels like. I hope you have, and if you have, think back to what that felt like and try to get that feeling back.<BR/><BR/>Dating is really hard nowadays.<BR/><BR/>My rule is that if I really see the man as potential I would wait because I really would want to get to know him. <BR/><BR/>Just my .02 from a fellow Sagitarrius. (I can never spell it right)Senoritahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13075972193214414769noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3771446067618745870.post-48230339104932572702009-03-15T16:51:00.000-04:002009-03-15T16:51:00.000-04:00I don't have a general rule, but I have to get...I don't have a general rule, but I have to get to know a person before I want to give in to sex. Now I say give in, because I may be sexually attracted to someone immediately & lustful, but I don't give in to that, because of my complicated moral, personal, blah blah blah reasons. I've found it works out better all round if I wait, for me anyway. <BR/><BR/>The women that are having sex immediately seem to have 100 ex (sexual)bfs. Obviously something isn't working.~MaryAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com